JO: They have two different parenting styles.
The communication does need to get better between the parents.
So it's going to be an interesting parental
consultation, because it's going to be about the truth of really
what they need to do.
And then it's get to work, because that's
what we need to do.
There is a breakdown in your communication,
because you give up, you get defensive.
You said, we don't communicate, we're
worried about confrontation.
But without communication with Miranda,
you're not on the same page.
How are you supposed to have a relationship where you can
together raise your children if you
can't talk about your children?
The reason I don't tell her what I'm thinking
is because I don't want to deal with the fight,
because I'm not going to win anyways.
Yeah, but you're all on the same side.
You clearly are showing each other
that you don't respect one another
or feel that the marriage is worth that.
No, that is not true.
I'm not going to sit here and listen to you
say that that's the way I feel.
Clearly it is.
It clearly isn't.
Your six-hour assessment is incorrect.
Really?
Then ask your wife how she feels about her marriage.
DAN: OK.
Ask your wife.
Yeah, that's not a conversation for--
on your camera right now.
Yeah, this is a conversation.
You asked me to come here and help you, Dan.
No, I'm not going to let you turn us on each other.
I'm not.
I'm keeping you together here.
Let's-- let's hear what you have to say, then.
JO: Dan, let me tell you something right now.
This behavior is unbecoming.
You're being combative.
And this type of behavior is why your wife does
not communicate with you, Dan.
Ask your wife.
How do you feel this is going right now?
I don't feel comfortable talking to you
because you don't really listen.
You put up defense mode.
How do you feel when Miranda says
that you become very defensive?
It's upsetting to hear that from her.
It's OK that you're anxious, and it's
OK that you're fearful.
But I'm on your side.
I'm sorry.
I accept your apology.
I hope we can--
I know we're going to get this figured out.
We absolutely will.
And let's have fun doing it.
DAN: The consultation was a little rough.
I had to hear some things I didn't
necessarily want to hear.
Right, thank you.
DAN: But I'm looking forward to, you know,
get to all the things I've been avoiding.
JO: So it's 6:30.
What we should do now is really take a look at going
through the bedtime routine.
It is my first teacher day with the family.
I do know that they have a sleeping issue.
During the night time, the children
find cause to come into mom and dad's room,
and this family hasn't followed through on putting
the kids back to bed.
You're going to set the tone for the evening.
Start shutting down lights.
Everything becomes soft.
There's no blaring TV, radio distractions of any technology,
phones, everything.
Right?
We all need to get a good night's sleep.
MIRANDA: All right, time to get ready for bed.
JO: Remember, set the ambiance.
That's it.
Yep, we're doing the rooms.
The Andersons need to make sure that these kids are given
the lengthy amount of time they need
so that the kids feel that they've
had quality time at bedtime.
DAN: You gotta brush your teeth.
Brush 'em good.
Hey, remember, like a low, calming voice.
Yours is always very loud.
Try to tone it down a little bit.
These kids have an environment now
that has no technology, no disturbing images
on the television.
That means everybody can get a good night's sleep.
DAN: Good night.
I love you.
Do you want to play outside, Caleb?
I'm gonna go.
JO: Dan, you and I will have a quick word.
DAN: OK.
JO: When I arrived, you thought that you weren't
capable of being able to do what I was
going to be asking you to do.
Not bad for a six-hour assessment, eh?
Not bad.
[laughs]
You've done not bad.
You've done--
Yours was-- yours was right on.
Mine was 100% off.
But you've done not bad, eh?
So you should feel proud of yourself.
I read you and this whole scenario quite wrong
my first day.
And thank you for dragging me through this
kicking and screaming, but I'm so glad you came.
And I can't thank you enough.
[laughs] Stand up.
Come here!
Oh, this is so beautiful.
Right?
What a turnaround.
Yeah.
Bye, darlings.
This was one of the hardest weeks of my life,
but it was worth it.
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