I'm gonna tell you coming up in this video.
I am Rebecca Zung.
I am a narcissist negotiation expert, a lawyer and author,
on this channel, and in these videos,
I teach you how to powerfully negotiate with narcissists.
If that's something that you want to do,
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So, you have decided to move on from that narcissist,
whether it's in a business relationship, a family relationship,
or a romantic relationship, whatever it is.
I've had to do it in both,
a business situation and a family situation, by the way,
my husband and I had to make a tough decision
to move past a family member, and
it was not an easy situation, by the way,
but, sometimes certain narcissists are just so toxic and
so relentless that you have to make decisions that
even though you've tried certain things,
you've tried many boundaries,
you've tried all the things that you're supposed to do and
so you have to go completely no contact and
that's not an easy thing to do, but we had to do it.
So, for those of you who are out there,
who are struggling with doing the same thing,
I send you light, I send you courage and
I'm sending you prayers because
I know it's not an easy thing to do and
so if you're in a negotiation setting and
you're still struggling with that, you can get to the other side.
That's the good news.
I've helped many, many people through their negotiations and
there is another side, you do get to the other side and
there is a happy ending many, many times and
I've helped people through some
of the most toxic traumatic situations and
there always is another side.
One of the things I want you to remember is that narcissists are
always the worst right before they're ready to give up.
Now, the thing I want you to remember is that narcissists
are way more afraid of you, than you are of them.
They just are. They don't have a sense of self.
So, when reality stars to sink in for them,
What's the first thing that they do?
They actually don’t.
They attach themselves to you, because you have so much value.
That's another irony, by the way,
they attach themselves to you, because you have so much value.
So, when you go to leave, they start to panic,
because there goes their supply out the door.
So, the first thing that they do
is they go back to their arsenal of what worked in the first place,
Whether it's a business relationship or whatever it was,
they'll try that initially even if it's a family relationship,
all of a sudden they'll start asking you about things,
Sometimes, like in the family relationship that we had,
they’d start love bombing in weird ways,
they’d start doing strange things,
they're a little awkward about it sometimes like, okay,
That's really weird.
But anyway, they'll start to love bombing you and
then when that doesn't work,
“Well, if you don't do this,
then this is what's going to happen to you”,
then it starts to get a little bit more sinister,
a little bit more undertone,
you'll start to feel like the heat rise a little bit,
“If you're thinking about this,
you're going to start to see consequences”,
“You better not be considering…”
they're gonna not want to like, not be love-bombing
but they're going to kind of start to sprinkle some stuff in.
So, you're going to start to see some of that and
then next thing is, as the heat starting to come on a little bit more
because they're starting to,
there’s that panic that’s starting to sit in like,
“Okay, this isn't working, what's happening now?
they're actually not, this isn't working yet,
they're still considering leaving,
my supply is walking out the door”
So, now what?
Now they're going to start to call you, show up, text you,
talk to your friends, get their flying monkeys,
talk to their friends, and they may actually start the smear campaign.
This is where the birth of the smear campaign might start.
It might start to say things about you that aren't true and
they may have been starting to do this for a while,
ahead of time,
they may have started the groundwork ahead of time,
because they may have wanted to set up the playing field,
so that if this ever had come to pass,
everybody knew that, of course,
you're the bad one.
They're going to start to get desperate,
so they've always worried that this day might come,
that you were on to them,
that you were on to who they actually are.
If you want to know more about that,
definitely check out my video called,
“When the narcissist knows you know”
because they were always kind of wondering
what's going to happen when the narcissist knows that you know.
They definitely want to find a new host.
They are leeches after all.
They're going to have to find that new host and
they're very much hoping that they can
find that source of supply that they can make you jealous with,
they want a source of supply that's going to be
perceived to be better than you,
so more prestigious, more money, prettier, better contacts,
if it's business, whatever they can hold up to be,
a better source of supply that is
going to be perceived to be better.
So they want to try to make you look bad before
you can make them look bad.
They're going to want to try to take you down
before you can take them down.
So, it's going to be a war, because once reality sinks in,
then you're going to become public enemy number one,
because once it really sinks in, and
they realize that all their little efforts, of love-bombing,
flooding you, all of the things, didn't work,
then you're going to become public enemy number one,
because with narcissists,
you're either for them or against them and
once they realize, you're actually against them,
that's it, you're done, now it's going to become war.
So, you're going to need a plan,
you're going to need a strategy,
that's where my S.LA.Y methodology comes in,
which it just stands for
strategy, leverage, anticipating, focusing on you, your case and your position.
So, that's what S.LA.Y
actually stands for, slaying your negotiation and
so, you're going to learn The Art of War right away.
So, for sure you to have to be ready, have a plan.
Start with grabbing my free “Crush my negotiation” prep worksheet,
it's 15 pages, it's an e-book,
lots of people have gotten it,
lots of people have won their entire negotiations just on that,
totally worth your time and attention,
just go to winmynegotiation.com and grab it.
Also, join my free private Facebook group
“Narcissist Negotiators with Rebecca Zung”
It's a Facebook group, I’ll drop links to all of this below,
so make sure you do that and don't to do this alone, for sure.
Narcissists try to isolate you,
you don't have to be alone,
there is support out there, take advantage of it.
We are here, we're glad you're here.
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I'm Rebecca Zung.
Remember today is a great day to start negotiating your best life,
I will see you in the next video.