Hey, it's Mark here, founder of Make Him Yours
and creator of Love in Five Steps.
Today's topic is a must-watch. Seriously, if you've never watched
one of my videos before,
this is the one to start on. It's how to make him chase you.
I'm going to give you the five
secrets to getting the highest quality of men to consistently chase you.
This is awesome, and it's important. Don't go away.
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"How do I get the guy to chase me?" has to be one of my all-time favorite
questions to answer as a dating coach because it really gets to the core of
what draws men to women and why few women are able to get high quality men
consistently chasing them.
This first thing, this, this number one is my absolute favorite and if you can do it,
I can literally guarantee that high quality men will chase you and chase hard and you'll
never have to play hard to get again. The best way to get men to chase you is to build
a high quality, exciting life that men want to be a part of. That's literally it. You
were hoping I'd give you a line or something, weren't you? Seriously, the more you can do
this, the more you can throw those dating textbooks out the window and never have to
see my face again.
Please keep tuning in to see my face.
If you take nothing else in from this video, take this.
Men chase women whose life they want to become a part of.
Any woman can create physical attraction and have a man want to sleep with her,
but if you want a guy to chase you, you, you need something more robust
and more compelling. You need
a high quality life that he can be excited to become a part of.
Put it this way. If you were going to date you, would you be excited about the prospect?
If your answer is no,
that's okay, but take that as a sign to take action. You know, push your comfort zone,
chase your dreams, live your passions. Take 6 or 12 months
and make that answer a yes.
When you live a high quality life, men will chase you
without you ever having to do anything else.
Beyond that, here's some other things you can do.
Number two is raise your standards for love.
In other words, really make him work for it.
I'm not talking about sex though. This has nothing to do with sex.
Have sex on the first night for all it really matters.
I'm talking about the things that really matter - for your support as his girlfriend,
for your presence in his life, for the love that you have to give to the right man.
Don't give that up after just three dates because he gives you butterflies.
Be emotionally mature enough to know that you don't know any guy
in two or three dates and you're going to
make him work for weeks or months before you consider him commitment material.
Number three is don't give him boyfriend benefits until he's your boyfriend.
So contrary to popular belief, men love relationships.
They love them, but there's a saying,
why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?
Now, that saying is referring to the milk being the best part.
Don't give the best part away for free or they won't take the rest.
It's a great saying. It is.
It makes sense, but again, everyone thinks it's about sex. It's not about sex.
If you think that sex is the best thing you have to offer,
you are massively underestimating how much men love relationships
and how much you contribute to a man's life.
The best part of what you can give a man is not sex.
Any woman can give him sex. The best part is all
the unique benefits he gets by having you as his girlfriend.
It's him having your comforting presence to confide in and be vulnerable with
when he needs you.
It's him having the security and safety of knowing you are not out seeing other men
and it's him having your support as his girlfriend whenever he wants it.
Never underestimate how much men love being in relationships.
They love the benefits relationships provide and they will chase hard to get them,
but if you give them away for free to men who aren't your boyfriend,
you'll get used for them.
He's not going to make you his girlfriend. He's got all the benefits and he can still keep
things casual.
Number four is judge him only on his actions towards you.
So remember earlier, we talked about raising your standards for love.
Most women look at men and they see an attractive guy,
so they see how much money he has or what a great job he has,
or he's tall or he's handsome, or he's even a great guy
and they decide based on that they want a relationship.
But in doing so, they've ignored the one ingredient that's most important in
the boyfriend mix.
Imagine you saw chocolate cake, and it was the most beautiful decorated
ice cream, amazing chocolate cake you'd ever seen.
And then you went to eat it only for the chef to tell you,
"Oh, by the way, there's no sugar in that cake."
That cake then does nothing for you no matter how pretty
and attractive it looks.
Women, all the time are choosing and chasing men who have done
nothing to earn it, they're missing the one ingredient that makes the whole cake.
And that is how much effort that man has put into you. If you don't believe me, two words,
The Bachelor. No one gets missed out on The Bachelor. It's something I see a lot of women
see a guy that looks the part, The Bachelor, Prince Harry, but whoever they are, if they're
not putting time and effort into keeping you, they score zero points as boyfriend material - zero.
When you wait until a man has qualified himself as boyfriend material relative to
you rather than just in general like The Bachelor, you're holding him to a different standard
than most women do.
He's going to sense that you're not sold on him straight away like
every other woman just because of who he is and what he's achieved and he's going to want
to earn you and chase you. And finally, the fifth secret to getting a guy to chase you
is be willing to walk if he drops the ball. And this is again, we're having a high quality
life makes things so much easier because if you are dating Prince Harry and you don't
have much of a life to go back to, you're going to let him get away with things because
you don't want to go back to being single and it doesn't seem as appealing.
Your life with him is a lot more attractive than your life without him, but when you have that high
quality life, when you're working on it and building it all the time, no matter how in
love with that person you are, if that person messes up, if they abuse you, if they take
you for granted, if they stop acting like the boyfriend that they should, as much as
it would pain you, you're still willing to put yourself respect first and go back to
your single life if that's what it takes.
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