- Don't blame your friends, coworkers, colleagues, parents,
or teachers for your own failures.
There's only one person you can blame
and that's you.
Hello, I'm Julian Northbrook from doingenglish.com.
Something that I hear quite a lot from
potential coaching clients, when I do consultation course,
is that, they don't often word it quite like this,
but essentially, they are annoyed, irritated, frustrated,
because they believe someone else is to blame
for their lack of proficiency in English.
One way that I commonly hear this is to say that
they weren't taught properly at school.
Their school English classes were no good.
Their teacher was no good.
Their teacher wasn't a native speaker.
Their teacher didn't know how to
get them actually speaking English.
Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
Another way that I've often heard it is
people who say it's their parents fault.
If only their parents had given them
opportunities to learn English, to speak English,
to get good at English as a child.
They wouldn't of had to struggle with the process,
they would've just learned automatically and now,
they would be like a native speaker.
Another way that I've heard it is to say that
their coworkers and their colleagues and their friends
get in their way, they stop them from doing the things
that they want to do or take their time away from them by-
you get the idea.
But essentially, all of these things are saying
exactly the same thing.
It's not my fault.
I'm crap at English and it's somebody else's fault.
That, however is stupid.
You've got to let go of that idea.
Like, if you are not good at English,
you're not good at speaking the English language,
there's only one person to blame and that's you.
That might be harsh, and you might not like that,
but the reality is, is that it's true.
And it's also a much more productive way to think.
You see, if it truly is somebody else's fault,
and it's not, it's yours, but just hypothetically speaking,
if it were somebody else's fault, then you are in a position
where you can't do anything about the problem,
because you can't control other people and as I always say,
you should only focus on or worry about
things that you can control.
However, if it's your fault, then that is something
that you can control, because you can control yourself
and you can stop moaning and you can stop whining
and you can stop feeling bad and sorry for yourself
about the fact that you didn't already
master the English language.
Remember, the best time to have got really really good
at speaking English was, yeah, I mean, ten years ago.
The second best time is right now.
You can control yourself and you can control
your own actions.
So, take responsibility for your own learning.
Stop blaming other people.
It's not your friend's fault, it's not your parents fault,
it's not your teacher's fault,
if you are not getting good at English.
Say, you've got a teacher or coach or somebody
helping you with your English now
and it's not working out for you, well, quit,
go find somebody else.
That is within your control.
It is something that you can take action on and actually do,
but you do have to take responsibility and say,
"It's my fault, every decision, every action,
everything that happens in my life is my fault
and my fault alone."
This is, of course, the same for anything,
not just all of learning and mastering the English language,
but it is very very true of getting really good
at speaking English and using it in your life
to do whatever it is that you're trying to do.
This is me, Julian Northbrook signing out from this video.
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that you need to make to your English learning routine,
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Alternatively, if you want my help, right here, right now,
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and book your own free consultation call with me,
where we'll talk about how and if,
because I can't help everybody, it has to be said,
as much as I'd like to, I can help you with
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and all that good stuff.
Again, the URL for that is doingenglish.com/talk.
Once again, this is me, Julian Northbrook,
signing out from another video.
Thank you and good bye.