if you're interested in someone how
would you open up a conversation with
them if i ran into you at the bar i'd be
like oh
well i see the business jacket i'm here
to do some business
hi what's your name and what do you do
for a living my name is cora boyd i'm a
dating coach for men
there aren't currently very many
resources available for men and most
that exist are pickup artists and just
dudes telling dudes what women want
do you work with men on their dating
profiles yeah i do
i feel like it's all stereotypes
honestly
the dude who tries way too hard and is a
little too thirsty for a relationship
the shirtless mirror selfie group pick
hiking pic
wedding pic you're going to match the
dating profile
to the person i'm ready all right can
you invite the line in please
all right where's the table here they
are hey
laura is our dating coach yeah i can
tell
you can tell all right all right i'm
gonna give you
a phone okay describe what you see okay
so here's a picture with a girl she's
making this symbol she's got long black
nails and
red hair and a camo jacket a lot of
dudes will do this because they know
it's social proof
like put a picture of a hot girl
in their profile i don't recommend this
it's confusing
especially if you're looking for a
relationship like this dude is
he is a boy that cleans up nice i'm ugly
so you know i'm funny
can i talk to you for a minute
how do you feel about your own
attractiveness i think i'm pretty decent
i mean i'm not like the best thing but
i'm not ugly would you make a joke about
yourself like that
maybe yeah i'm gonna say it's him
all right go ahead and get back in the
line okay we got our classic wedding
pick
as i anticipated my mother would
describe me as a good boy that needs to
settle down
doesn't have pets socially smokes weed
looking for
something casual yeah i mean this person
looks like a pleasant
human to spend time with who here looks
like a pleasant human to spend time with
what's up nothing much how are you i'm
great
yeah great if we were in a bar
and you were interested in me how would
you approach me excuse me
can i get a corona hey let me get that
for her
hi my name is naseem i don't like beer
but i'll drink one with you
that's pretty good
all right i don't think it's true that
was fun actually i want to talk to you
for a second
yeah so you got a lot of friends i do
most of my family's back in kenya but i
have a big community of friends here
if you're dating someone do you
introduce them to your mom right away
it's important to me
for not only my mom but my friends to
approve
of my person i think this is you based
on the very limited information that i
have
yeah let's go for it all right thank you
this is tough right
it's hard to make a dating profile that
really accurately represents you
we don't always have a lot of awareness
about what
people like what information someone is
gathering
from looking at this very limited
digital presentation
so this next person wearing a backpack
and jumping over some
fiery logs this person is a financial
analyst
a picture taken in like italy
or somewhere mediterranean favorite
quality in a person kindness
that's pretty much all i know can i talk
to you for a minute about me
thank you cora nice to meet you meet you
i really like your dragon i've never
seen thank you
i don't think this is you um but great
to meet
hey you like us yeah tell me about
like one of the coolest things you've
done in your life i lived in spain for
about a year um finished my last
semester of school out there
whoever this person is whether it's you
or someone else i'm getting explorer
from the very limited amount of
information that i have
i could see you being in finance you
you're very self-possessed so like i
could see you
operating well in the corporate world
okay um
up okay yeah go ahead sorry i think
you're going no
no no i was gonna say is that a good
thing self-possessed doesn't sound very
no no that's a super positive oh okay
that means you own yourself cool
you're very charismatic and um friendly
cool i think this is you um okay
next one i'm adopted and haven't met my
parents
i'm colorblind but not by not seeing red
i have a star-shaped birthmark this
person has put a lot more into the bio
than other bios we've seen
can you come up and hang yeah um yeah
so i mean there's a lot of like
expression expressiveness and kind of
some like
panache in this bio i saw from you in
our interaction
like this person's a lot of fun and kind
of silly and a warm
i think it's this dude yeah i'm gonna go
ahead and say it
assistant regional manager at dunder
mifflin okay so that's a joke
enfp me too demisexual okay cool
what's that um demisexual is when you
feel emotionally connected to someone in
order
for like the lever of physical sexual
attraction to
register this person is a huge
sweetheart i think it's you
this profile is very inviting there's
lots of exclamation marks
you're a very friendly warm person
thank you you're welcome how do you know
how do i know because he came up and was
like hi
what's your name so like there's an
enthusiasm i see in him that i also see
in this profile
would you rather be an emu or a pharaoh
oh great question
i owned a ferret for a couple of weeks i
just large flightless birds just speak
to my soul
more than burrowing animals i think this
is definitely him
okay so we got a selfie irony is when
you jokingly take a restroom selfie but
it turns out to be the best picture of
you
now i really wish i could see the
picture conversation is the best
bio tbh if i try to make one all just
sound basic
which i very well may be only one way to
find
out i think it's you if you're
interested in someone how would you open
up a conversation with them
well if i ran into you at the bar i'd be
like oh
well i see the business jacket i'm here
to do some business
you're pretty funny guy oh thank you and
this is a pretty funny profile
all right fantastic yeah this person is
drinking a beer with a friend at a
baseball game oh great they're wearing a
a necklace that says bae
great okay so what are you doing this
weekend nothing much really probably
just go to the gym on
on sunday play some basketball i don't
know anyone else in this lineup who i
would see wearing a bay necklace quite
as much as you okay thanks you're
welcome demolition specialist
we got a nice cowboy hat so kind of a
country fan
nice motorcycle okay will you come up
please
you look like a nice country boy well
thank you yeah i think this is you
why do you think that looks like these
are activities you might enjoy
based on the aesthetic that you're
presenting are you a nice country boy
yes ma'am that's
all the choices that could not have been
played better
yes ma'am raise your hand if she got you
right
pretty good for what i had going
howdy howdy so my profile
good bad too many selfies too many
selfies and you need more pictures that
have more context of your life
so you always want to add more as many
pictures as you can to
really like be able to represent all the
facets of yourself yeah would you swipe
yes well i don't know if my boyfriend's
gonna like
oh all right then which one were you
i was the hard to figure out you were
the heart of the bay then yeah
yeah it was a joke it was 100 jokes of
course but it was a good chance
i don't know there's not very much
information about you like i don't feel
like i know you
through the po the profile right what
are you hiding
my girlfriend
all right you also definitely want at
least one like
good quality smiling picture because you
want to look inviting
okay cool thank you thank you hello
again hello again
you were right okay great yeah well you
came through
pretty clearly in your profile thank you
like your your personality came through
which made it easier to know it was you
it was more crafted um i appreciate that
do you have any short snippets of advice
uh for you know a demi uh sexual to yeah
do better on dating gaps i guess
well i think it's awesome that you're
upfront about it off the bat and that
you explain a little bit about what that
means to you
i think keep doing that keep doing that
and um people also might not know what
it means and i'm sure they'll ask you
and like
i'm sure you're used to it and that's a
great and you like conversation and
cuddles so i do
what a good conversation to have it's
the one with the uh
the sloth oh
okay i got that one totally wrong it's
fun i'd say add more and add more
specificity that's usually my note
across the board okay
great you got me right i got you right
so i would at the note i said about
female friends it reads kind of
transparent and it's a little bit
off-putting for the woman because she's
like
what if she's actually famous that's
even worse
because it's even more social proof
right so you don't need that you can
like you have things going for yourself
for yourself you don't need the
association to make you valuable
right i mean it uses it's good for a
like a conversation starter
it's your decision you clearly want to
keep it there i'm not going to tell you
what to do
i would just say that it makes it look
like that you need the social proof and
like you have other things to start
conversations about there are other
things about you that are interesting
right so that would be my suggestion
okay
which one were you with the mirror
selfie oh the mirror selfie was it
indeed the best picture of you
it was at the time okay so i noticed
you're not verified um
yeah with that of my of my matches you
think
yeah it might just because it's an extra
layer of accountability and like showing
that you're putting in that effort and
it's an extra layer of safety too
okay all right okay i just got out of a
long-term relationship okay
i'm looking to keep things a bit more
casual okay there's my profile convey
that
saying your mom says you are a good boy
that needs to settle down
that sends a different message you don't
want to communicate casual you still
want to have personal connections with
people even if you're seeing them
casually right right
so you can let that come through in the
conversations you have with people
of like hey here's where i'm at okay
thank you yeah thank you
how was this this was interesting dating
apps are amazing tools to connect with
people
but you want to be connecting with the
right people you don't want to be
wasting your time
attracting people you're not going to
resonate with so if you have a more
generic profile you're casting a broader
net
that it's not going to filter out it's
like marketing you want to filter out
the wrong people too
all right everybody crowd around her and
hold your phone and look like you're
guessing their profile
you'll get a picture of me too so i can
put it on instagram