Good morning everyone, I uh, can't show you the other side of this coffee mug because
there is a curse word on it. And a miniature schnauzer. Your questions after the intro.
So last time we left off we were talking about douche bags. I learned from your comments
that douche bag is pretty much a universally well-liked insult. For instance KarmaTheLoudMouth
says in regard to douche bag, 'I like it because as we now know, douche bags are a dangerous
thing to go into one's vagina on a regular basis, much like a guy that tells you that
you do blank well for a girl. Neither should be anywhere near my lady bits thank you very
much.' Thank you very much KarmaTheLoudMouth for that hilarious comment. Rimenon8 says,
'I have no opinion on d-bags-though I must say we need more names to insult people most
are overused. Smiley-face.' Yeah there are so many insults but I would like to do away
with a lot of them because most of the everyday insults we use are really just insults against
women such as things that we call female dogs and references to women who might make money
from sex. We could do with some more enlightened insults. Is there such a thing? I next just
want to thank all of you for the fantastic questions that you left in last week's Ask
Cristen's comments. Keep them coming! Hearing what's going on in your brain and the questions
that you have and what you want to learn more about is so helpful to make sure that I talk
about and blather on about and put wigs on for topics that you want to hear about and
that makes everything better. For this week's Ask Cristen, let's help originalgabbo get
out of an awkward situation. Originalgabbo writes, 'Hey Cristen. My family tends to make
a lot of sexist jokes and when I them that this is inappropriate/not funny/makes me and
other uncomfortable/etc they don't see any problem because they themselves think it's
hilarious. They don't get that they're actually hurting my feelings and making me kinda hate
them.' So unfortunately originalgabbo there's a very good chance that you simply saying
that that hurts my feelings or that's not funny is not going to get people to stop telling
jokes because they're just going to put the onus on you for not sharing their sense of
humor. I would recommend that when these sexist jokes are cracked rather than you doing all
the talking and trying to explain why it's not funny, get the joke-tellers talking instead.
Just ask them, hey why is..I don't get it, why is that so funny? If they then have to
explain the logic of a sexist joke they're going to have to simply make a blatantly sexist
comment, it might give them pause, a) and b) that's your perfect opportunity to then
say now do you see why these jokes make me uncomfortable? Guess who would also advise
you to do the same thing? None other than Louis C.K., the comedian's comedian, the funniest
guy on the face of the planet who is a genius. He tweeted, 'If someone makes a racist/sexist
joke, say, with total seriousness, "I don't get it, can you explain it". Then watch them
crash and burn.' Originalgabbo between you and me, I've had issues like this with family
members of mine before and you know what I have to do sometimes? I just got to walk away.
Some people are just never going to get it and that's the most frustrating thing of having
to deal with a family because you still have to be there in their lives because you're
related to them and you got to make it work somehow. Finally on this week's Ask Cristen
I got a few shout-outs to shout-out. Over on Twitter @missoreo, @missloreo? Shouting
out to your anthropology class. Hello anthropology class. Stay in school kids, study them books.
School's not for fools, books are for making your brain sharp. And I also have a shout-out
here on behalf of Ahmed for his friend Rahma is apparently going through a bit of a rough
time. Rahma if you're watching this, hello! I hope that you are doing okay today. Is it
weird that a stranger on the internet is thinking about you and hoping your day is going well?
And as always I want to hear from you. What do you think about sexist, racist, inappropriate
jokes? Do you have any good tips for originalgabbo on how to stop her family from making those
kinds of jokes or are you the type of person who says listen just let people make jokes,
they're just jokes, they don't matter. Let me know in the comments below and as always
ask me your questions so I can give you some answers.