RESEARCHERS HAVE LOOKED INTO SMART PHONES, AND WHETHER OR NOT
THEY HAVE A NEGATIVE IMPACT ON PEOPLE'S RELATIONSHIPS.
THE TODAY SHOW TALKED ABOUT THIS RECENTLY.
"PHUBBING IS IN FACT RUINING RELATIONSHIPS.
COUPLES WHO PHUB
THE MOST HAVE THE MOST UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS."
WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?
I THINK IT IS TERRIBLE.
IT IS SO RUDE.
SHORT ATTENTION SPAN PEOPLE DO THAT.
THE APPLE WATCH MAKES THIS EASIER.
YOU KEEP CHECKING YOUR WATCH AND PEOPLE SAY, I GUESS I
AM BORING YOU.
ALL IT MEANS IS THAT YOU ARE WITH YOUR SIGNIFICANT
OTHER, AND WHILE THEY ARE TALKING TO YOU, YOU ARE JUST
CONSTANTLY LOOKING AT YOUR PHONE.
OR YOU ARE CHECKING OUT WHAT IS HAPPENING ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
YOU SHOULD NOT DO THAT WHEN PEOPLE ARE TALKING TO YOU.
THE
FLIPSIDE IS THAT YOU ARE ALREADY DOING IT SOMETIMES WHEN PEOPLE
START THE CONVERSATION.
IF I'M ON MY PHONE AND MY WIFE COMES
IN, AM I DUTY-BOUND TO DROP IT
INSTANTLY?
I THINK I HAVE FORTY-FIVE SECONDS.
I THINK YOU CAN FINISH YOUR THOUGHT.
DON'T START A SECOND THOUGHT.
HAVE YOU GUYS EVER GOTTEN INTO AN ARGUMENT AS THE
RESULT OF BEING ON YOUR PHONE?
I AM A MAN, AND I AM MARRIED, SO OF COURSE THAT HAS HAPPENED.
SHE DOES IT TO ME MORE THAN I DO IT TO HER.
I DO THE GUY THING OF LIKE, UH-HUH, YEAH.
SHE DOES NOT EVEN HEAR WHEN SHE IS ON HER PHONE.
MINE DOES THAT TOO.
I GO TO THE TOTALLY RUDE MACHINATION, BUT SHE IS SILENT.
YOU ARE NOT LISTENING, BUT AT LEAST YOU ARE RESPONDING.
I HAVE THE COURTESY TO BE INAUTHENTIC.
SHE DOES NOT HEAR
ME AT ALL.
WE HAVE SORT OF GOT IT, SHE KNOWS ñ AND I TRY NOT TO
ñ I USE IT LESS, I AM AWARE THAT IT IS RUDE.
SHE WOULD SAY THAT
I USE IT TOO MUCH, AND SHE IS RIGHT, BUT I LIVE IN THE
INFORMATION AGE.
I DON'T WEAR A WATCH, SO MY EXCUSE IS THAT I AM JUST
CHECKING THE TIME.
WHEN SHE WALKS IN THE ROOM I WILL PUT IT
DOWN, BUT I AM AFRAID THAT WE HAVE REACHED THE POINT THAT
SHE WILL SAY, WHAT WERE YOU DOING?
NO, YOU SHOULD FINISH YOUR THOUGHT.
I DON'T THINK ANYONE IS GOING TO FREAK OUT IF YOU WERE ON
YOUR PHONE AND THEY STARTED TALKING TO YOU AFTER THAT.
WE HAVE HAD SERIOUS TALKS ABOUT THE PHONE AND PHONE ETIQUETTE.
I DON'T WANT TO MAKE HER FEEL LIKE SHE IS NOT AS
IMPORTANT AS WHAT I AM DOING.
SHE IS OBVIOUSLY THE SAME.
WHEN YOU GO OUT FOR A DRIVE IN THE CAR, DOES SHE
IMMEDIATELY ASSUME THAT YOU ARE THE CHAUFFEUR AND IT IS
TIME FOR HER TO ñ
ABSOLUTELY.
TOTALLY.
NOT ACKNOWLEDGING THAT YOU ARE GOING SOMEPLACE TOGETHER?
TOTALLY, AND IT IRRITATES ME.
BUT I HAVE NO STANDING, BECAUSE WHEN I'M IN THE HOUSE I AM
ON MY PHONE.
WHAT IS SHE DOING IN THE HOUSE?
IS SHE MOVING THE HOUSE
FROM ONE PLACE TO ANOTHER?
IS
THAT SUPPOSED TO BE ALONE TIME?
I DID NOT REALIZE THIS WOULD BE SUCH AN INTERESTING
CONVERSATION.
THE PHONE THING DRIVES ME CRAZY.
I DON'T WANT A RULE THAT SAYS YOU CANNOT HAVE IT WHEN WE ARE
TOGETHER, BUT IT SHOULD BE A LITTLE LESS.
WHAT I TRY TO DO
IS, IF I AM READING AN ARTICLE THAT I FIND INTERESTING IN ANY
WAY, I GO OUT OF MY WAY TO SHARE IT WITH HER.
HEY, LOOK AT THIS,
LOOK WHAT THIS GUY SAID ON TWITTER.
SO AT LEAST WE ARE
ENGAGED AND TALKING ABOUT THE SAME THING.
I THINK THAT IS THE KEY TO IT.
SOMETIMES WHEN WE ARE
DISTRACTED BY TECHNOLOGY IT IS HARD TO BE ENGAGED.
I DID IT
LAST NIGHT, WE WERE TALKING ABOUT SOMETHING AND I DON'T KNOW
HOW IT HAPPENED BUT I GOT
DISTRACTED BY MY PHONE.
INSTAGRAM IS A BLACK HOLE FOR
ME, I GET SUCKED IN.
I WILL BE
ON THERE FOR HOURS.
I LOVE IT, I AM OBSESSED WITH IT.
HE STARTED TALKING TO ME ABOUT SOMETHING AS I WAS LOOKING
AT PICTURES, AND I DID NOT CATCH ANYTHING HE SAID, AND THEN
HE QUIZZED ME ON IT.
I WAS CAUGHT.
IT WAS EMBARRASSING.
WAS IT IMPORTANT STUFF?
NO, WE WERE HAVING A CASUAL CONVERSATION ABOUT SOMETHING.
WERE YOU ACKNOWLEDGING HIM AS HE WAS SPEAKING?
NOT AT ALL, I WAS TOTALLY ZONED OUT.
BUT HE IS REALLY GOOD ABOUT IT.
WE HAVE AN UNSPOKEN RULE ABOUT THE PHONE.
VERY RARELY ARE WE BOTH ON OUR PHONES, OR EITHER ONE OF US
IS ON OUR PHONES WHEN WE ARE TOGETHER.
THAT IS A LITTLE BIT, ESPECIALLY WHEN WE SAY WE HAVE WORK TO
DO AND WE ARE DOING WORK, THEN WE'LL BE ON OUR TECHNOLOGY
AND DO WHATEVER WE WANT.
BUT FOR THE MOST PART WE TRY TO ENGAGE WITH EACH OTHER.
IN THE PRODUCTION MEETING IT IS A TOTALLY DIFFERENT STORY,
EVERYBODY IS LIKE IN THE PRODUCTION MEETING.
AND I WOULD LIKE TO STOP THAT.
IT WOULD BENEFIT THE SHOW, AND WHEN I AM IN IT I AM SURE I
DO THE SAME THING AS EVERYONE ELSE, BUT IT WOULD BENEFIT TO
SAY PHONES DOWN.