-This is the parenting power-up video series
20 of 20. Specific tips and strategies this is where coaching comes in.
20 videos. -We've talked a lot of theory and principles. -We've covered a lot of ground,
and this is coming from a lot of research, clinical experience. What Vicki and I, have both
experienced professionally and as parents. -Right. -We've laid it out there for you. Hopefully,
you found this helpful. Now, it's general, right? -Yeah, very much. -General means based
on principle. Do you remember where we started? Principles are natural laws. They determine all of
life's outcomes and we shared with you four basic principles of positive psychology. Let's review
those really quickly. -Positive parenting is first about personal development. -That's where you get
to work on you. The most important thing that you bring to the equation. The second principle,
positive parenting is a team sport. Which is good news. -It is. -Because you don't have
to do this on your own. -The third principle, positive parenting requires unconditional love.
-What's your job as a parent? - To love them no matter what and even if.
-I hope you said it with us. Let's do that once more. Shall we? You say it with Vicki, you're on
board too. Ready? -To love them no matter what and even if. -So, important and remember, every
strategy, every tip, every trick, every hack, that we give you as a parent is simply manipulation.
If you get away from your job. Your job is to love them no matter what even if. Now, obviously,
discipline is important. So, principle number four is the positive parenting discipline is
about stage, not age. We spent some time in this series talking about this model. If you don't have
it yet. Hop over to the URL on the screen right now, drpauljenkins.com/stages. Because this is
the core of your positive parenting approach. Go get it. This is the model. It's about stage,
not age. -As we said before, we reviewed those principles. This is all very general. Where do
we get the specific? -Your specific situation will be governed by those general principles
that we talked about. But applying this can be a little challenging sometimes, and that's where
coaching comes in. Think about this idea for a minute. You get stuck inside of your own head,
okay? And everything that you see, everything you're experiencing, everything that's going on
for you in your family, in your parenting, is kind of like it's projected on the inside of a box,
and you're inside of this box. Well, there's instructions for getting out of your box. But
they're printed on the outside of your box. -One of the things I love about coaching is you can
see how the principles that you've been taught are applied in a very specific situation and
it's easier to see in someone else's circumstance and situation than your own. Because you're maybe
not as emotionally charged or set up. So, I get personal coaching as well. It's funny how easy
it is to see someone else's situation and go oh, well, if I were in this situation,
I could apply this principle in this way. But in your own, it can be really challenging. And so,
that's where Live On Purpose Central, we meet as a group and there are question and answer
times. There's also live coaching where you can see someone else be coached through a situation
and it opens up your mind like oh, that seems really obvious. I could apply that in my situation
in this way. -We have on any given week, I'd say we have maybe eight to ten people who have
raised their hand and they come on the camera with me, ask me a very specific question, and
then I watch the chat sometimes. Because everyone who's listening in as I'm coaching they say oh,
thank you for asking that. That's the same thing that I'm going through. -Right. -And like you said
Vicki, it's so much easier to see it in someone else, right? Because we get in our own head trash
sometimes. That's the power of coaching. I'm coming from a background, I spent about what was
it? 15 years or so in traditional psychotherapy, and we were helping people in some powerful ways,
and it was fairly limited in its effectiveness quite honestly, and this is why we've gone to a
different model at Live On Purpose Central. It's so much more powerful, and we get like
I said you'll hear you know seven, eight, nine, ten, different answers to question. Where if you
go to a personal therapy session, usually you're working on one thing for the whole hour. -Right.
-And it just opens up new possibilities. I love it. Besides and I get in trouble for saying this
sometimes. Which makes Vicki, nervous anytime I say that. But the word psychotherapy sounds
a little like therapy for psychos. I think that's very unfortunate because it makes these principles
that we've talked about here inaccessible to a lot of people. They shy away from it or there's taboos
around it. We've broken down all those barriers with the coaching model that we've put together
to answer the specifics. After you get the general principles down. -Come join us on Live On Purpose
Central, and there you're going to find more peace in your home. -This is the benefit for you. You'll
have a transformed family culture. You think about the elements of the family culture that
aren't quite working for you. That's what we're targeting on Live On Purpose Central. -You'll
also gain more confidence as a parent. You're already doing so much more than you realize,
so much better than you realize. But you're going to gain more confidence in your parenting skills.
-And you'll start to see some outcomes too. Like your kid's start to listen. What? I'm not yelling.
-But even that you're gonna see more of your own transformation that you can approach hard
situations in control of your emotions. -We've taken in all of these principles to provide the
kind of support that you're looking for right now. Thank you for being part of this video
series. This shows us that you are serious about the most important job in the world as a parent,
and like Vicki, said just a minute ago. You're already doing a great job. You're a good parent.
We want you to be more confident as a parent to have that transformed family culture to
experience more peace in your home and get the kind of results that you're looking for. Join us
at Live On Purpose Central, the URL is on the screen right now where you can get connected,
go.liveonpurposecentral.com, and would you take a moment to share this playlist with someone
else that you know could really benefit from learning the principles of positive parenting.