When I graduated high school, I saw a lot of people wrote in my yearbook don't ever change but I think
now about how boring life would be if we all just stayed the same as we were when we
graduated high school. Today I want to share what your response could be when
someone says you've changed and give you my take on how money changes you as a person.
I think every entrepreneur and non-entrepreneur at some point is going to have that person that
challenges them saying you've changed like when you've gone through personal or career development,
sometimes your growth can expose other people's insecurities because your growth can either
encourage them or trigger them and encourage them to grow with you or encourage them to defend
areas that they may feel uncomfortable stepping out of their comfort zone. What you're showing
them is possible just by example would require them to leave their comfort zone which can be
quite triggering for people at times. If you think back to the person you were five years ago or even
one year ago, how have you changed since then? Like in business or in life and let me know in
the comments below because I know that my life a year ago, who I am today is unrecognizable
and one of the things that I've had to come to terms with is that you should never
sacrifice your authenticity or growth for acceptance. So when someone says you've changed,
you might say yes, thank you. I saw a meme recently of a caterpillar saying you've
changed to a butterfly and that's a great image to represent like what you're going through.
You don't want to stay the caterpillar when you could potentially have this growth
that turns you into the butterfly. So whether you embrace the transformation or you do it kicking
and screaming, it's gonna happen either way. I heard Jordan V. Peterson talking about this like there
are some games you don't get to play unless you're all in and life, whether you accept it or not, is
a game that you have to play all in. Whether you do it kicking and screaming or whether you do it
embracing, some experience are going to be enjoyable where others can be more painful. It's
also how you approach that. So all that said, those are some pretty big mindset shifts that I had to
go through as making a million dollars, growing my business, becoming an entirely new person
changed me and how I see life. I want to tell you specifically how money has changed me but first,
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button before we move on. How making a million dollars changed me. I believe that money amplifies
what already exists and exposes other areas that you might choose to grow. If you're happy poor,
you'll be happy rich. If you're a jerk poor, I think you'll still be a jerk rich so I think money
exposes those opportunities and exposes blind spots and limiting beliefs and some businesses
won't ever make it because their leader will become the roadblock or bottleneck. One of
the quotes that I love to live by is that your business will only grow to the level that you do.
So I realized as I was scaling my business, I could only go as far as my beliefs will allow and you're
not typically aware of your subconscious beliefs, that's why they're called subconscious but once
you do that work, whether that's reading books or working with coaches or in therapy, I really think
every entrepreneur should go to therapy, it gives you the tools to be able to say do I choose this?
Like if I say that I want to make a million dollars but my subconscious belief is that
I'm not actually worthy of that, do you think I'll make a million dollars? No. Do you think that if you
had the awareness that this is what was going on in the back of your mind, that this software
was silently running in the background, would you choose to keep it running or would you uninstall?
Of course. So pay attention to what you say you want and what you believe
about your ability to have it. I look back at where I was at the beginning of 2019 and 2019
was the year that I made my first million but also in that same year, I had to lay off three
people because I put myself six figures in debt from some poor business decisions that I made,
I also went through a divorce and other relationships fell apart around me as a result
of that so if I go back and dissect who is the person that created that reality and it's so much
easier to connect the dots looking backwards then forwards, I see where I was insecure, I see where I
had money false beliefs, I see where I didn't trust myself to make decisions so I tried to outsource
decisions, I see where I was attracting people that validated my need for external self-worth but that
I didn't create sustainable happiness internally and instead relied on that from the outside.
If you look at the identity of that person, that person may certainly have success and achievements
because the identity of that person was desperate for attention and desperate for love so I based a
lot of my life around getting self-worth from my business, from money, from relationships and I'm
really grateful to that experience because this experience is what exposed the areas for me that
showed me I was not really happy and I was making decisions that were not in my best interest and I
had people around me that were not encouraging of my growth. Entrepreneurship is the biggest
game of personal development because if you find yourself in this pattern or consistently
running into resistance, you can look at yourself as the common denominator of what's creating that.
My mentor Alex Sharfen has this quote where he says if you don't have the business you want,
it's because you haven't become the person who can run it yet and I think about that a lot whenever
I face any challenges. Now that's not to say that you don't expect to have challenges, of course you
do and one of the things that's going to make it easier for you in your life as an entrepreneur is
realizing that you've signed up for this. You've signed up for a lifestyle of constant transition
and overcoming obstacles that most people wouldn't have the courage to. It's not about running the
race, reaching the finish line and stopping. It's about finding the next challenge and growing in
that direction. So when I first started my business, I fully recognized where I started that from a
place of you know wanting freedom, that's what most people go into it for, to have the lifestyle
that maybe we didn't have growing up, to be able to provide something different for our family,
to have creative freedom, time freedom, financial freedom but I think it's also fair to say that a
lot of entrepreneurs can come into this with maybe a little chip on our shoulder and having something
to prove. Whether it's proving it to ourselves or proving it to a parent or a family member that
said we couldn't do it or even just to the mean kids at school it didn't let you sit at the cool
kids table. It's interesting to think how a lot of entrepreneurs may be subconsciously operating
from a place of wanting to see mom and dad in the audience applauding for their achievements
and I want to tell you that this isn't a bad thing. If this sounds like you or I can tell you
this absolutely was me, it served me to get to this point. So as much as I can look back at
the mean girls in school that didn't let me sit at their lunch table, I'm now grateful for that
connecting the dots looking backward because it made me who I am today. So when I'm in challenges
today and although when you're in it, immersed in it, it can be really painful and you can have
shame or guilt or fear, think about what it's qualifying you for in the future. What this lesson
is bringing you to right now and showing you where to appoint your attention for the next level of
growth. Earlier in 2020 when I was going through a lot of therapy after going through a divorce
and putting my life back together after that, this is what exposed me to this. This is where
I learned where I was operating from that a lot of my business I built from a place of having a chip
on my shoulder and trying to prove something which can be a really great motivator but at some point
you start to realize like there's more to this and how sustainable is it to keep growing from
a place of pain instead of a place of passion? So I needed to consciously switch my fuel source
and I'll tell you that doesn't happen easily and that's just one of many layers. There is still so
much to come in my personal development that I have no idea for but I say bring it on. If I can
look at what's happened to bring me to where I am today and be grateful for it and shake hands with
the past, I also want to be open to what's coming next that might be painful, that might be difficult
it might be some of the biggest challenges I've ever faced but think about where you were three
years ago. Could the you three years ago do what you do today, like you're probably unrecognizable
and you've had to qualify yourself to get to where you are today. So, the challenges you're facing now,
whether you're growing a million dollar business or you're running a family or you're building your
relationships, what you're experiencing now is challenging you for the next steps and that's
something that I had to realize as an entrepreneur is that that's what I have signed up for. When I
was constantly hitting a ceiling and could never break past six figures, I knew that there was
something in me that needed to change. I needed to rewire my money false beliefs, I needed to say
no more often, have healthy boundaries, I needed to learn what was actually a healthy relationship and
what was me seeking external approval. The only way to grow your business is to grow you and what got
you here won't get you there. What got me to six figures, IZ had to rewire and shift in my identity
to get to seven figures and the next shift will come to get me to eight figures and knowing that,
put the systems in place in your life and in your business and know that your environment
will grow you more than your willpower will. If you're ready to make the next big change in
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attend my hello to high ticket training. Don't ever change but I hope they weren't serious-
but I think about that now how boring life would be if we all just stayed the same as we were
from when we we- from when we we. And other relationships fell around or felt-
and that's like the first layer, okay that's a weird transition.