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Are there certain statements or words
that trigger you or completely rub you the wrong way?
In general, everyone hates hearing, "Just calm down,"
or "You're being too sensitive."
Nobody want to feel like they're being irrational,
regardless of your personality type.
But, what especially triggers
the perceptive, empathetic INFJs?
Here are seven things you should never say to an INFJ.
Number one, "You're too sensitive."
Have you ever felt really down or upset
and just needed a listening ear?
During moments of sadness,
an INFJ wants to have their feelings accepted
with understanding and comfort.
The last thing an INFJ would want
is to have their feelings challenged
and dismissed by someone they're confiding in.
If you tell an IMFJ, "You're too sensitive,"
this downplays and invalidates their emotions.
They might choose to avoid you in the future
and turn to someone else
when they're going through something heavy.
Number two, "Let's wing it."
Do you enjoy having everything in order
and are not very flexible or willing to adapt?
INFJs thrive on following through structure.
This could be attributed to the INFJ's desire
for perfectionism and control.
But nonetheless, an INFJ is much more comfortable
maintaining order over having to face uncertainty
with no back-up plan.
Number three, "You should be ashamed of yourself!"
An INFJ absolutely hates letting others down,
and when they've disappointed someone,
it stings, really bad.
Being told that they should also be ashamed of themselves,
stares up all sorts of negative emotions within an INFJ.
This causes inaction and doubtfulness.
If you want your INFJ to feel at peace and be productive,
practice kindness, patience,
and provide constructive criticism for them,
rather than a pointed finger.
Number four, "Here's some advice."
Have you ever just wanted to vent about your problems,
but then been handed unsolicited advice?
When feeling upset or facing a problem,
The INFJ is not looking for someone to fix their problem.
Since they are serious thinkers,
they've already spent a lot of time
coming up with different solutions for themselves.
At the end of the day,
they just want someone to listen to their problems
and be there for them.
Number five, "I've had it worse than you."
Have you ever had someone downplay your problems
by bringing up someone else's plight, instead?
An INFJ is acutely aware of how other people feel
since they absorb other people's emotions like a sponge.
When an INFJ is going through something bad,
they might need comfort and understanding
and they don't like to be told that,
"So-and-so has it way worse than you do right now."
This invalidates their feelings
and diverts the attention away from them
and what they're trying to talk to you about.
Consolation and support are a much better way
to relate to them and help them out.
Number six, "Can you be more practical?"
An INFJ is not the most practical personality type.
They have a harder time navigating
the physical world around them
because they can easily get lost in their own heads.
And INFJ has a very vivid imagination
and mentally likes to explore with the different ideas,
theories, and visions running through their minds.
Practicality does not come easily to an INFJ,
so telling them are asking them to be more practical,
will do more harm than good.
And number seven, "But that's how we've always done things."
INFJs are not blind followers.
They oversee and critique things,
regardless of age or custom.
An INFJ is not willing to compromise their ideas
in order to fit in a company, organization, or club.
INFJs thrive in coming up with new solutions
and angles to problems.
So, if the environment is against any proposal of change,
the INFJ will become uninspired
and seek out another avenue and people
that are more willing to accept their flow or change.
Are you and INFJ or do you know someone who is?
What are your thoughts on these phrases?
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