A lot of people always usually make a change on behavior
they want to get themselves to work out they want to get them those in meditate they
want to get themselves to read more each day and you want to get themselves to X
right or they gonna stop some behavior they want to stop smoking they wanna
stop eating this food they want to stop I always tell people stop checking your
phone the first hour of the day that's like sacred time for me you know because
for me I think that if you want to be an elite mental performer or
a real life superhero you don't want to start off by checking the phone we
talked about this in the past because you're training yourself to be reactive
right you're getting your dopamine or you're frying your nervous system with
all these likes shares comments and everything else like that you're
reacting and firefighting to everyone's like well what everyone wants
so you're not really setting you're not living you know it's
you've heard this many times right
you win the first hour of the day
to win the day and so anything you
want to stop so Iets say you want to stop checking your phone right in the morning
then there's certain like that's a behavior right but there's so many other
elements to be able to change because most behaviors don't stick right
and so like what I'm thinking about when I want to transform or transcend or make
a real positive change I'm looking all the other areas of ourself so I'm
looking at for example our environment are people setting up their environment
to win so change doesn't just happen at this level of behavior but
what you have to change the environment so for example if you want to stop
eating a certain food it helps to be able to not have that food
in your home right so you change the environment if you want to read more it
helps to help set up your environment or you have the books readily available
where you're gonna read it because they perform you know how I how I approach
habit change is this area of motivation and this trigger right you want to
trigger to help remind you to do the behavior right so are you setting up the
environment in a way that triggers the behavior that you want but not only the
the environments like the when and the where but it's also behaviors also the
capabilities because a lot of people want to change a behavior but they're
not training in the abilities another level of change that we need to address
let's say someone's watching this they have a thing that something they
want to change and it's not it's not sticking then maybe it's not the
environment maybe you could check about your habits but maybe it's your beliefs
and your values some people will not get themselves to read every day because
they don't value reading every single day right some people
won't let's say the behavior they want to change is you know we did a podcast on
how to remember names I could teach them step by step on how to remember the name
of most people that they meet yet they won't do it because they don't value it
or because that's not important to them or they don't believe that they can
right just like we talked about earlier saying your brain is like a
supercomputer and you know your self-talk as a program that runs if you
tell yourself you're not good at remembering names
you will not remember the name the
next person you meet because you program your supercomputer not to they don't
have a belief that enables that so when I say all behavior's belief driven if you want
to do this behavior whatever it is journal whatever it is and you need a
belief that allows that to happen because that's the program that
allows
so how do you get that belief because you're gonna feel like you're
faking it right that's where most people stop right they think okay I
get it I hear what Jim is saying that if I am able to shift my belief then I can
get a different behavior but I don't believe it so now I'm just sort of
faking it how do you help people overcome it right so some
people approach it like you know this quote where they fake it till they make it
right so my thing with belief is like when I do trainings in groups or online
my favorite way of changing a belief is getting them to do something they never
thought they could do because it opens up another possibility right so for
example in 1954 Roger Bannister he broke the four-minute mile right and so which
is amazing right throughout human history nobody can run a mile less than
4 minutes now if you if you look into it how he was able to do it is he would
visualize himself crossing the finish line looking at the clock and it says
3:59 because he knew that success is an inside-out process that first it had to
happen in here in order for it to happen out there
dr. Wayne Dyer has the
famous phrase where it's not oh I'll believe it when I see it it's like I'll
see it when I believe it because it's the opposite right and so I always
like modeling the outliers where most people kind of just like kind of dismiss
them I was like well what's going on there that allows this person to get
this kind of results right and so with Roger Bannister he saw it in here be
able to produce it outside just like any innovator or inventor or writer any
creator right but what was interesting is after that would happen nobody could
do it from the beginning of humanity also then one person does it what
happens after that everybody yeah everyone starts
doing it and so that's the thing now what happened was there big change
that year and you know in training methodology and nutrition
it was a change of belief right because the belief back then was if you ran a mile
less than four minutes not only would you die it was your heart would explode
in your chest and like think about like that would and I'm a runner right that
would keep me not just running that would keep you from running
keep me from running period right and so my thing is like that was a
change of a reference that just shook up a belief so my goal with people and
when it comes to learning is get themselves to do something they never
thought they could do and then it opens up another possibility it literally
opens up their nervous system for something what else could be possible
now I would also say that it all plays together where it's not easy to say just
to change a belief overnight we have more power to influence our thoughts and
our beliefs and so there are lot of tools and techniques out there that are
resources like when I grew up you know we had no money
right I had no education because I was a very learning challenged I didn't know
any anybody right so I feel like it's
when there's a gap stop gap between where they
are and where they want to be they'll say oh I don't have the money or and all
the education or the intelligence or the network or anything else like
that and you know what you know as for all incredible success you've had and
the value created for the world is that it's not about resources right because
we know a lot of people who who didn't have any resources that were able to
impact the world it's about our internal resources and
what I'm saying is optimizing our environment optimizing our behaviors or
capabilities our beliefs and our values and our identity right that at the
highest level our identity because you can't just change your belief or your
values or your behavior even if you don't believe you're that kind of person
and that's why I kind of always go to the superhero mythos because I want
people that get to claim that identity I call it this superhero you that version
of ourselves and we're not waiting for Superman or Batman or Wonder Woman it's
like you are Wonder Woman you are Batman you are Superman
they call it the two smallest words in the English language but they're the
two most powerful words in the English language its I am right I am because
whatever you put after that determines your destination or your destiny
right and I think your identity is who you believe you are and I feel like when
we're talking about playing to the edge of our limits and really playing there
and living in that place where we're stretching you know I do believe and I
get inspired every time I see your insta story
it's like 4:30 and you're
working out you're doing your work but that's who you are right you
don't have to fight it because you can't imagine yourself not doing that and
that's the level of that I think is what's most important so I would
think about going through an exercise and I've done this with friends I've had
them sit or in groups, we do these conferences and such I have
people pair up with someone they don't know and what they're gonna do is
they're gonna do an exercise I am and they're gonna talk a bit they're
literally gonna fill in the blanks for three minutes until I call time well so
you have to go like and you could do is right now like if you were to fill in I
am blank like I would say you know I am a student I am a teacher I'm a son I'm
and all this and but eventually I'll get to a point where I don't know what else
to say and that's what the real interesting answers come out of right
because it's a great way for networking knowing somebody else but it also shows
us this really big tapestry of our life to the point, we constantly are right now
where we could I relate to these aspects of ourselves and I think it's a nice
exercise when we talk about self-awareness being a superpower really
knowing who we think we are because if we don't believe that we're our public
speaker or we're a great parent or we're great and learner or a genius then we'll
never be able to reach our full potential because that will always be
the ceiling that we bump up against