What is up everyone.
If you new to my channel, or if you don't know who I am, my name is Vanessa Lau from
vanessalau.co.
You can actually link to my Instagram handle right over here, so you can get to know me
better.
And what I do in simple, plain English terms, is I love personal development.
I read a lot of books.
I go to events.
I read a lot of articles.
I'm obsessed with this kind of stuff.
Anything that can help you be closer to your goals, or anything that's going to change
your life, I love.
So I thought, you know what?
Why don't I post a video every Wednesday about it?
So, that's what I do.
I like to share my knowledge, I like to help others, and I like to inspire others and that's
something that I love and that's something that I do every Wednesday, even if it's scary,
but I do it anyways.
So if you clicked on this video, you are probably wondering.
Vanessa, how am I going to change my life?
How are you going to help me with that?
Well, I have the solution because two days ago, something exciting happened.
I invested in myself, and I bought a ticket to go see Tony Robbins and not only was I
able to get to see Tony Robbins, I was also able to see Jen Sincero.
She's the author of "You are a bad ass" and "You are a bad ass at making money".
John Gray was there.
He's the author of "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus".
Phil Town was there.
Also Bob Kittle, and oh, I almost forgot.
There was also an amazing speaker.
Her name was Loretta La Roche.
She specializes in stress management, and she was such a joy.
She was literally like a comedian.
But anyways, you didn't go to the event.
So why should you care?
I know.
That's why I made this video.
So this video is essentially the key lessons that I learned from going to this 12 hour
event where I listened to some of the most inspirational people in
North America, let alone the world, talk about how you can change your life.
So I thought that I would compile some of the massive learnings that I learned and put
it in this video, so that instead of you paying for a $200 ticket, you can get the advice
for free.
So if you are interested to know the advice that I bought from these world class leaders
in terms of how you can actually change your life, then please keep watching and don't
forget to watch until the end, because that's actually when I reveal my favorite tip from
Tony Robbins.
So, with that being said, just keep watching and enjoy.
So, the very first thing that I want to share is actually from Jen Sincero, and what Jen
Sincero says is, there is a strong difference between wanting to change your life and actually
deciding to change your life.
Because the moment you commit, and you decide is the moment where there are no more room
for excuses and plan B's.
Let's take me for instance.
When I left my full time job to start an online business, that was me committing to changing
my life.
And guess what?
It was scary as fuck.
But what Jen Sincero reminds you of is that when you are outside of your comfort zone,
and when you are uncomfortable as fuck and scared as fuck, that's when breakthroughs
happen.
That's where growth happens.
That's where progress happens.
And she also reminds you that when something makes you want to scream and run the other
direction because you're so scared, that's the stuff that you need to do, because that's
the stuff that's actually going to move the needle in your life.
It's like for example, it's like working out.
If you're not feeling sore the next day.
If you're not sweating.
If you're not feeling some sort of discomfort, are you really working out?
Are you really making that massive change that you need to get that ideal body?
It's the same type of principle in doing these scary things.
These are the things that are going to lead you to the biggest breakthroughs that you'll
have in your life.
And these are the things that are going to lead you to massive change.
So essentially what Jen Sincero's trying to teach you is that the moment you feel uncomfort
rather than being so scared by it, try to treat it as something that is kind of like
a signal.
The signal that you're growing.
It's a signal that something that's scary is going to change your life.
Now the next thing is that the moment that you've actually decided to commit, you've
decided to be okay with that discomfort.
Next thing that we so often do is we plan, we overthink.
We already visualize the end result, and because we're planning and planning and planning,
we actually don't do anything.
Now take me for instance.
I put off leaving a job that I wasn't happy with for a very long time.
I put off starting an online business for a very, very, very long time.
That was because I automatically assumed that I was going to fail and because I automatically
assumed that I was going to fail, that I didn't have the right credentials.
I don't have the skill set.
I don't have the confidence.
That I needed to make sure everything was lined up and everything was perfect before
I took the leap.
But what you really need to know is that no matter how much you plan, no matter how much
it's all in your head, you actually need to get into the game to discover it.
Because whether or not you think something's going to happen, or you think something's
not going to happen for you, you'll never know until you actually do it and find out.
Because if you never actually do the action and actually get into the game, you're never
going to change your shitty situation.
And I know of course it's going to be super uncomfortable, because you're going to be
put in a position where you don't know what the fuck you're doing.
But if you don't actually do it, if you don't actually jump in and do the act of doing,
then you're never going to be closer to your goals and you're never going to be on that
path that you desire for yourself.
There's a lot of beauty in chasing the unknown.
There's a lot of beauty in doing things that you're uncomfortable with.
There's a lot of beauty of having these big scary, hairy goals to chase after.
And to illustrate this, Bob Kiddle, he illustrates this really well.
He says, facing big scary goals is like running down a very long corridor.
And as you're running down this corridor, you're going to look to your sides and see
a bunch of other doors.
And what these doors represent as you're running down this corridor, they represent people
that you'll be meeting.
They represent the breakthroughs that you'll have.
They represent the mistakes that you made that will turn into huge lessons for your
life.
And they also represent you discovering more about yourself.
And going back to my own example because really that's the only example that I can share with
you, is when I left my full time job, you think that I was scared to take the leap.
Yes, but do I regret doing it?
No, because in taking that leap of faith and me jumping into the unknown, I was able to
run down that corridor not knowing exactly how long it'll take me to achieve that goal.
But in running through that corridor, I've been able to open doors to mentors.
I've been able to open doors to self-discovery.
I've been able to open the door to business opportunities.
So by doing the scary things and by chasing this goal, what you're really doing is you're
jumping into the process.
And what Bob Kiddle teaches you is that it's really the process.
It's the journey that truly matters, but in order for you to reap the benefits of that
journey, you need to start, and you need to accept that there will be scary things along
the way.
But I totally get it.
At that point, you're probably thinking, well, Vanessa, it's easier said than done.
Because when you do these things, you're going to be saying to yourself, I'm not good enough.
I'm not financially ready enough.
I'm not smart enough, and I'm definitely not confident enough.
But this is what Tony Robbins will say to you.
He'll say, and he'll actually ask you, do you think that when Steve Jobs launched his
first product ever, that he didn't feel scared about what the market would say?
Do you think that J.K.
Rowling when she got rejected by 12 publishers for Harry Potter, that she didn't feel like
shit?
Do you really think that anyone that you look up to doesn't feel the things that you're
feeling?
Isn't scared to take the leap?
Isn't scared to actually do it?
Of course, everyone has these thoughts.
These thoughts that you have in your mind right now that you're scared of are not unique
to you.
You are not special for having these thoughts.
You are not the exception and what really separates someone you look up to versus someone
who doesn't do anything about their life, is their ability to be able to listen to those
thoughts, but not believe them.
Because so many people end up marrying limitation to the point where they tell themselves this
sad story.
That they're scared, that they're scared, that they're scared, and they actually believe
it so much that it ends up running their lives.
What will actually make you special and will actually differentiate you, is for you to
not believe these common thoughts that everyone has.
That's what's really going to set you apart from a decent life to a great life where you
are proud of yourself for fighting your fears, and doing the scary stuff that you can be
closer to achieving your dream and your goals.
So in summary, what exactly did we learn from Jen Sincero, Bob Kiddle, and Tony Robbins?
What we learned is number one, there is a difference between wanting to change your
life and deciding to change your life.
Because when you decide, there are no more excuses and when you decide, you are actually
committing, which is the most important part.
The second thing is you need to jump before you are ready.
I get it.
I've been there.
You're planning, you're planning, you're planning, but you're not actually jumping.
You're not actually doing because when you actually start doing the things rather than
just thinking about it, that's when you can actually start.
And last but not least, you cannot let common fears hold you back.
Yes, I get it.
You can hear them.
You can listen to them, but you cannot believe them.
Because the moment you actually believe them is when you can never break through that ceiling
that you've already put for yourself.
And if you want to be those people that you look up to and that you admire, then this
is what you need to do, because it's not just you that has fears, it's everyone else as
well.
Now you've finally reached the end of the video and if you actually are listening and
watching me right now, I really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You know, posting videos like this every week is not easy.
There's days where actually I'm like, why did I get myself into this?
It's really scary.
But you know, I really need to follow my own advice too.
I need to do things that make me uncomfortable, and for me, this is one of them.
So if you watched until the end and you're listening to me right now, I really want to
give you a heartfelt thank you, because it's people like you that remind me to keep on
going, and to keep feeling uncomfortable.
So with that kind of out of its way, if you really enjoyed the video, and if it really
made you think about something, or lit some sort of fire under your ass to do something,
then really consider subscribing to me.
I would love to be able to be that person for you that can motivate you to chase your
goals.
And, yeah.
Now at this point I'm rambling, so thank you so much for watching and I'll see you next
week.