Hello Dorna here, welcome to my life chats. Today I'm going to talk to you about
a way a really really fantastic way to deal with your negative thoughts. now I
don't know what you do when you're walking around and suddenly it hits you, a
really stressful thoughts come in and takes over your entire mental reality
what do you do then? Do you kind of try to push it away
do you try to deny ignore it what you do? what you do when the same stressful
thought that keeps coming on and on and on every single day few times a day
what do you do? and the reason I'm asking you because I know that sometimes people
take it as a fact of life
This is how it is and they don't necessarily go on a, on a detective mode to
examine what to examine their mental structures how their inner world is
constructed that creates those stressful thoughts. and I don't know what you do if
you have a certain method is something that you've done that you like to
share with us please do in the comments i tell you what i did and i came across
this lady
I think pretty much accidentally you probably know her she's on the title so
you probably know who i'm going to talk, it's Byron Katie who has
devised these tool called The Work which is four questions and a turnaround
she asks you and invites you to write down your stressful thoughts and then to
question one their validity, how it makes you feel
and in the body, where else
the thought takes you, to what other stressful thoughts and other stressful
beliefs and then she invites you to check out and see how you'd be if you
didn't have that thought and then you turn it around to see whether sometimes
the very opposite of that
for example could be true for you. now I let you check her out on youtube there's
a lot of videos there's a lot of resources translated in many many
languages so I definitely invite you to check her out. she was a instrumental in
my discovery of my own mental structure and my discovery of how innocently I
would cause my own suffering
I did the work
religiously for at least four years every time I was in a difficult phase of
a relationship I would sit down
she has a judge-your-neighbour worksheet I would sit down
judge the neighbor just the person that I was relating with, often it's a loved one
you noticed and you do the work and no I did the work i did the work for
four years and it truly helped me, it helped me integrate the world spiritual
world you know the fantastic experiences of union and you know
connectedness that we have with each other and the real oneness of
the whole thing
the beauty of the whole thing and then integrated that with the world where we
are we relating
and you know that's where a lot of stress come in for most of us
and as Matt said and he wrote a blog about it
we do not get enlightened alone
we need each other to know what rules are here
what beliefs what thoughts are really the dominant ones in our psyche
i would say the work of byron katie is very much like you
you becoming your own therapist but and from now on i'm going to talk as if you
know a little bit about the work
what I find often is that you would not be a successful therapist
if you don't play it
honestly you have to be incredibly honest with yourself and remember you're
not doing it to become like Byron Katie you're not doing it, these are, I'm talking
about
a lot of traps that i could have fallen or I might have fallen into at some
point. I am not trying, I admire the woman, I love the woman, I thank her
immensely from the bottom of my life but I don't want to be like her
I don't want to be her, I'm happy to be me and I'm happy to discover who I am
in fact if i was to be the one that is introducing the work of Byron Katie i
might not introduce it the way she does it. But i love that she has managed to
reach so many people and introduce something that could work amazingly. So
one of the traps, the first two traps is not to be honest with yourself and to be
like her or take on too many of her concepts and not do the work from a
place of you
you know with a real integrity. and one of the things that I think is incredibly
good about The Work of Byron Katie which is you know, it's a different subject
altogether, is that she brings you The Work, brings you to your body and it
makes you see
although you're discovering about these parts of your being
she gets you to go into the rest and I think that is a very very major part of
it
a lot of people focus on only the first two questions of the work: is it true? can
absolutely know that it's true?
they often manipulate themselves and lie and oh no it's not true
leave it uh-huh and they don't bother about the rest
now how do you react when you
believe the thought - both mentally and physically forces you to move away from
the prison of the mind and come to the presence of your body
where usually you could tap into something very powerful through the body
so that's one of the things that you know she she does and often people miss
out on because they think the work is something to do to manipulate yourself
into being happy
not at all sometimes doing the work properly
might get you to take actions in the directions that you are not comfortable
to take but then you have seen and you have known you need to take so check
her out, check her out. She is worth
checking out and i have we have asked her permission
a few years ago to do the Work because we wanted to do it on our retreats on
our yoga retreats and I was given permission to do it as long as I
mentioned her name
I have done it for many years. if you do it, you get stuck
give us a call and we can always do it together and I can answer any
questions that you have as much as I am capable
otherwise you can contact her directly thank you very much for watching and see
you next time