do you want to learn how to tell your man what you want and get it anyone
who's been in a relationship will know how depleting and heart dropping it can
feel when house standards and desires are not being met the thing is most of
the time by the time we finally know what we want we're finally ready to tell
a man what is or isn't working for us there is a good chance you're feeling
annoyed perhaps angry and frustrated and instead
of being clear and confident about your relationship standards and values
Australian gets the better of you which tends to create more drama and stops you
from being heard and properly seen stay with me as I'm about to share a four
step process that reveals exactly how to communicate your needs with a man in a
way that gives you a very good chance of getting what you want I think you might
be surprised by numbers 2 & 4 so be sure to stay to the end as each of these four
points work together to make sure your relationship prayers are answered
If you're new to the channel I'm Nadine Piat a confidence dating and lasting
attraction coach for smart savvy women and the founder of healthy you healthy
love. Now before we continue please make sure to comment below and let me know if
there's anything specific that you'd like help with and if there's a topic
you'd like me to do a video on I want to find out who you are and what your needs
are so I can support you on your path to big sexy love and when it comes to this
topic please share with me in the comments your own journey with
expressing what you value and need in a relationship. Now let's get to it.. here
are my four powerful ways to finally be heard and seen by your man and get what
you want without lashing out or letting your ego run your love life and first I
want to clarify something here this process is not just about getting what
you want this video is about both of you getting what you want so that you can
truly be in a United and intimate partnership it's all about giving and
receiving from both sides so let's start with number one stop the nagging and
hinting and say what's on your mind and speak out from the heart
women often nag and hint because they're scared to ask for what they really want
and fear either hearing no from their man or they worry they'll seem needy
sure sometimes nagging and hinting works but mostly it's a no-go
regardless over time nagging is something that men don't hear no one
likes it not you or me if you're a parent you know what it's like to have a
nagging and complaining child most parents tune out and the negs fall on
deaf ears so no point doing this with an adult man if you continually find
yourself nagging or waging a passive-aggressive war of half-spoken
words then you need to step back and look within yourself at what you really
want many of us are tempted to get things off
our chest as soon as we think them but it's much better for romance if you sit
with what you want before you say it which leads to number two before you ask
for anything do I call a request audit look before you
leap and ask yourself what's going on with me deep down is what I want from
him fair and reasonable or is this something that I need to resolve on my
own privately for example asking your man to
compliment you multiple times a day asking him to call you every lunch hour
may not be what I would call a reasonable request what is reasonable is
to be in a relationship with a man who regularly shows you affection and
appreciation and it is also reasonable to ask man to call you when he says he
will or even to communicate more frequently if he rarely contacts you
whenever you have the urge to nag or ask your man to do something write down a
list of why you think you need him to do something differently you'll soon get a
good idea if it's a wee concern or a me concern you see there are non-negotiable
standards that we all need to feel a sense of mutual respect in a
relationship that needs two people to work together to create and this is
what's good to get a handle on before you start making requests another way of
saying this is is what I want a mission to satisfy my fragile ego or is it a
reasonable partnership request is it a needy request or a values-based request
if it's a reasonable partnership request then sharing this with your partner in
an effective way will allow the two of you to bond and strengthen your
connection it's a win-win to get you started with getting what you want I
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communication is just about saying what you want it's how
you say it if you're ready to get what you want from him or anyone really then
you need to consider the nitty-gritty of how you're communicating pay attention
to your tone when you make your request be sure your tone of voice stays
non-confrontational studies have shown that I'll tone a voice when we make
requests can affect the way our words are received
remember when we come from a place of confidence and honesty we're likely to
be heard in the same spirit so don't be a dictator be a communicator speak from
your heart with a sense of trust and faith rather than in your head where
fear and insecurity love to play before you talk to him do some deep belly
breathing to ground yourself also while you're speaking with him remember to
breathe this will allow you to be present and more at peace with yourself
and the situation be sure to keep your body language open as you share your
thoughts keep your posture relaxed and your arms open welcome him into your
space and don't close yourself off get on his level and don't stand over him
while he sits you'll be amazed at how receptive people are when we amend these
things okay now that we've laid the groundwork next I want you to invite him
into the solution don't dictate many men love to problem-solve and one of the
best ways to get him on side is to invite him to work on a solution with
you and start simple take it one we concern at a time and avoid going on the
attack keep in mind that this is the time for open and honest communication
not demands threats or ultimatums for example maybe you want your man to start
helping more with the laundry rather than ordering him to change inviting
into the conversation and into the solution for example hey do you think we
can talk about something oh hey there is something I've been thinking about that
I'd love to work out together next involving further into the conversation
I really appreciate all that you do around the house thank you so much or I
how dedicated you are to your hobbies I love your passion then present your need
but choose your words carefully avoid anger triggering words like however or
but these are guaranteed to get is back up immediately embrace connection and
choose simple words like and as you introduce your ask if I expand on the
first example you could say I really appreciate all that you do around the
house thank you so much and as part of that I wondered if we could work out how
to manage the laundry a bit better as I'm struggling with getting it done on
my own follow this up by giving him context everyone feels better about
doing things when they understand the why be sure to include the because as he
will see why this is such a great proposition everyone feels better about
doing things when they understand the why be sure to include the because as he
will see why this is such a great proposition I bring this up because I
think we would have much more free time to have fun on the weekends if we work
together on this also I'll feel less stress during the week and be more
enjoyable to be around always add a little bit of humor when possible
remember what I said above relationships won't thrive when they are a
dictatorship so change tack leave the nagging behind and instead work as a
team to problem-solve and he will begin to see that listening to your requests
is another way for him to show his commitment and care so there you have it
four ways to get your values met and to bond with your man through reasonable
requests and mutual understanding learning the skills for good
communication is key in every relationship that's why if you haven't
yet I suggest you get on board with my program Never Lose Him it's a multi-step
program that takes a deep dive into the ways you express yourself that might be
hindering your relationship I share powerful practical relationship advice
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Never Lose Him in the description below. That's it for today
again I'm Nadine Piat, thank you for spending this time
with me and remember to show love every day in some special way I look forward
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