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Today, we are going to learn about 4 daily habits that make a guy more attractive.
Now, let’s begin.
1.
Building Your Courage How often do you take risks?
Are you afraid of escaping your comfort zone?
Risk-taking is commonly associated with professional success, but it’s also an attraction characteristic,
especially in men.
Risk-takers are confident, secure, and exciting people who aren’t afraid to put themselves
out there.
They find more romantic success than most, because relationships are some of the biggest
risks you’ll ever take.
From the very beginning, every partnership demands risk after risk.
You take a risk when you walk up to a stranger.
You take a risk when you say hello.
You take a risk when you ask a girl for her number or lean in for a kiss.
Even the most confident people get nervous in these intimidating situations.
No matter how you slice it, relationships are scary.
That’s why risk-taking is such an important quality.
If you’re unwilling to take risks, you may miss potential partners.
Your lack of confidence may discourage you from putting yourself out there.
Worst of all, unless you’re willing to take a risk, you may never show the world who you
really are.
Because vulnerability is a risk too, isn’t it?
Showing someone your true self exposes you to pain and hardship.
You don’t know how a girl is going to react.
You don’t know what she is going to think.
But, if you want to connect with her on a deeper level, taking this intimate risk is
absolutely essential.
Luckily, courage is often rewarded.
Most of the time, taking the initial plunge is the biggest hurdle you have to overcome.
Once you’ve started a conversation… once you’ve put yourself out there…the rest
is easy.
We’ve talked about the advantages of taking risks, but how do you motivate yourself to
step out of your comfort zone?
It’s easy to talk about taking risks, but, in the moment, you may run to your comfort
zone as fast as you can.
So how do you do it?
How do you develop courage?
Courage is something anyone can have, but it takes time and practice.
Eventually, you will feel confident and comfortable walking into unknown territory.
But first, you have to take some risks.
You don’t have to take huge, life-changing risks.
All you need to do… is change.
Push yourself to change your daily routine.
Eat at a restaurant you’ve never eaten at before.
Shop at a store you’ve never walked inside.
Take a new class with a bunch of people you don’t know.
Every time you change, you’re taking a risk.
Together, those risks have a profound impact on your courage, your confidence, and your
attitude toward new experiences.
In other words, you’re gradually teaching yourself to face your fears… and that makes
any man more attractive.
2.
Impress Yourself Let’s say you’re on a first date with
a girl you like.
You want her to have a good time, so you try to make her laugh.
You worry if she’s having fun.
You tailor your comments to her preferences.
But, in the end, your date doesn’t go like you planned.
So what went wrong?
Many men worry too much about the feelings and opinions of the person they’re dating.
You’re paranoid about whether she’s having a good time.
But did you ever stop to ask yourself: am I having a good time?
Because, the truth is, if you’re not having fun, she isn’t either.
On the other hand, if you’re enjoying yourself, she may be feeling the same way.
If you make yourself laugh, there’s a good chance she’ll laugh right alongside you.
Because ultimately women don’t want someone who tells them what they want to hear.
She doesn’t want you to guess what she’s looking for.
Instead, she wants to get to know you.
She wants to hear your sense of humor.
She wants to know what you’re passionate about, because your individual opinions, feelings,
and passions are the most attractive things about you.
In short, they define you as an individual.
So don’t worry about what she thinks.
Don’t read into everything she does, because that self-doubt clouds your personality.
You start scrambling to fix the damage you’ve done.
But, in reality, there’s only one thing you can do: keep having fun.
Keep making yourself laugh, and keep smiling, even if you’re unsure how things are going.
The most attractive people are consistently positive, and their energy and enthusiasm
are contagious.
She will enjoy spending time with you, because your good spirits make her smile.
So put your personality on display.
Don’t worry about impressing or reacting to the people in your life.
Instead, let them see who you are and what you’re like.
Show them what makes you laugh and what helps you feel inspired.
Because the most genuine version of you… is also the most attractive.
3.
Personal Pride Do you like the way you look?
Many guys wish they could be more attractive.
You may wish you were more athletic.
You wish you had a sharper jawline.
You wish you were taller, skinner, or manlier; but the most attractive trait you can have
isn’t a body part or a hairstyle.
It’s personal pride.
Personal pride is another way of saying, “I’m okay with the way I look and the person I
am.”
It’s a basic idea, but personal pride is surprisingly uncommon, especially among men.
Many guys resign themselves to a life of insecurity and frustration.
You may believe you will never be as attractive as other men.
You may decide your physicality is a lost cause.
So you give up.
You stop trying, and your appearance pays the price.
The truth is… if you want to be more attractive, you can be.
But you need to start by changing your mindset.
Because attraction is a battle between you and your own perception of yourself.
The biggest roadblock standing in your way… is the image you’ve cultivated throughout
your life.
Women are attracted to men who can look in the mirror and say, “I like the person looking
back at me.”
She wants someone who’s secure in their personality and their appearance.
Someone who knows they have flaws but accepts themselves anyway.
Of course, this confident mindset isn’t something you can develop overnight.
It’s a gradual process, which you develop using small, daily routines.
Each step you take gives you another small reason to be proud of yourself.
Each time you invest in the way you look; you see and feel yourself growing in the right
direction.
But first you have to make an effort.
You have to spend time taking care of yourself.
You have to think about how you want to show yourself to the world.
That means personal hygiene, haircuts, new clothes—each one is a different way to prove
your investment in yourself.
It’s not about looking good for other people.
It’s about looking good for yourself.
That’s why you get dressed up.
That’s why you trim your beard or style your hair—because you want to look on the
outside the way you feel on the inside.
Every day, invest a few extra minutes into yourself.
Build yourself up.
Make an effort to improve.
Then look in the mirror and give yourself some credit, because that’s where personal
pride comes from.
And personal pride is of the most attractive traits a guy can have.
4.
Closing the Gap What does your ideal self look like?
Take a few minutes to imagine yourself 5, 10, or 20 years in the future.
How do you spend your time?
How do you dress?
Where do you live?
Your ideal self is the person you want to be.
It’s a version of you that’s accomplished your goals.
A version of you that isn’t afraid to face your fears and achieve your definition of
success.
That version of you may be wealthy, sociable, and influential.
They may be attractive and successful with women.
But here’s the problem.
Even though everyone has an ideal self, not everyone achieves the life they imagine.
Why?
Because they don’t believe they can.
The gap between the real self and the ideal self is insurmountable.
For example, your ideal self may be attractive to women, but you don’t believe your real
self is capable of the same attraction.
You actively doubt yourself.
You insist there is something you’re lacking—something your ideal self has that you do not.
Because you’re missing this important but imaginary piece of your future, you never
become your ideal self.
But, the truth is, you aren’t missing anything.
You aren’t any worse or unprepared than your ideal self.
Because you and him… are the same person.
Yes, your ideal self has accomplished more than you.
Yes, they may be wealthier or more successful, but you have the same potential inside of
you.
In other words, your real self and your ideal self are much closer together than you think.
So how do you bridge the gap?
Every day, spend 60 seconds thinking about your ideal self.
Think about his life, his career, and his hobbies.
What is he interested in?
Where does he go?
When you’ve developed a strong mental picture, choose one small thing you can do right now
to bridge the gap.
Choose one concrete improvement you can make to enhance your real self.
The closer you get to your ideal self, the more attractive you become to others.
Why?
Because you are doing something that everyone in the world wants to do.
You’re chasing the person you want to be.
Little by little, step by step, you’re learning to believe in yourself by becoming someone
worth believing in.
Self-belief makes you confident, courageous, and inspiring.
Self-belief gives you the empathy and self-awareness to care about other people.
And, most of all, self-belief empowers you to be the most attractive version of yourself.
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