I'm going to tell you in this video,
so that you can have an understanding
of how the narcissist actually thinks.
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Let's talk about the lies that all narcissists tell themselves,
so that you can understand the psyche of these people.
All right, they’re walking around,
they actually think this stuff,
so, this is how they actually like live with themselves.
So, when they treat people,
they leave this path of destruction behind them,
they treat people poorly, they do something bad to somebody,
or they leave somebody in a lurch,
maybe they stiffed them with money,
or whatever it is that they did to someone
they think, “Well, they deserved it”.
In their sick weird twisted way,
they come up with some reason why
somebody deserved whatever it is they did to that person,
that's what they say.
Oh my God boy, did I see this all the time.
So, somehow they have twisted up in their mind that
they end up not being responsible for whatever their mistakes are,
whatever it is that they didn't do or whatever,
because someone else didn't do what they were supposed to do,
or whatever the chain of events that took place was,
they figure out somehow that they are absolved and therefore,
they're not responsible.
So, that's number two, “I'm not responsible”.
Number three.
We're going on seven lies all narcissists tell themselves.
This is especially true
when they're looking back on relationships that went bad
when they're thinking about an ex,
could be an ex-spouse, or an ex-boyfriend, or girlfriend,
or an ex business partner,
“I didn't do anything wrong”.
Between number 3 and number 4,
they just tell themselves how wonderful they were and
didn't do anything wrong for their exes or whatever.
“I can't believe this person left me, or they badmouth me,
because I treated them like a queen or a king”,
“I can't believe they filed domestic violence injunctions against me,
I never laid a hand on them”,
or whatever it was.
I don't know if they believe their own lies or whatever,
but “I'm not responsible” or “They deserved it”,
“I didn't do anything wrong, I was wonderful to them”,
These are lies that they tell themselves,
I don't know if they are like delusional,
they believe their own lies or whatever it is.
But by the way, I have a whole video on
“What happens when you catch a narcissist in a lie”,
you can definitely check that video out,
we'll put a link to that here.
I'm definitely the smartest person in the room here.
They truly believe that they're not a narcissist.
So that's number six.
I mean, they're not self-aware, unfortunately,
that's part of the problem with being a narcissist,
they're not self-aware,
they're never going to take the time to be self-aware.
That's part of the reason why
narcissists won't ever get the help that they need
because they don't take the time to be self-aware, unfortunately.
They truly believe everyone is as bad as they are and
I think that's part of the reason why
they feel justified in a lot of their behavior.
I don't think they really believe there are good people in the world,
that they really do believe everybody else is out for them,
just the same as they are and
that's kind of how they justify their behavior
I think a lot of the time as well.
These are some of the lies that they tell themselves.
I'm sure it's not all encompassing list,
but it is definitely a list of a good seven.
I'm sure a lot of you guys have seen a lot of these,
if you guys have more, I'd love to see your comments below.
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