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Through English. Yes how to be more likeable and how to connect with other people who also speak English
so this is going to be really a
Life-changing lesson, so I hope you'll stay around and watch the whole thing
Now if this is your first time here and then welcome
I'm Gabby the founder and host here at go natural English and our amazing
Go natural English team teacher Hale is going to teach this lesson. So pale take it away
Hi guys, it's me Hale and I have a question for you
Do you ever have trouble finding someone to practice English with?
I'm
Not talking about a teacher or a language tutor or someone that you pay to help you with your English
But I'm talking about just everyday language practice
Because this is a major problem that people can have especially beginners is that they can't find someone in
everyday conversation to practice English with and there's a reason for this a
lot of people a lot of native English speakers don't want to speak to beginner speakers because the
Conversation is so limited. You need to make people really want to talk to you
You need to make them want to be your friend. Not just someone they're helping with English today
I'm going to talk to you about how to make
Anyone like you when you talk to them in English, so first a little background
What I'm gonna tell you today is based on a very popular book. The book is called how
to win friends and influence people by an author named Dale Carnegie
Now this book was written over 80 years ago. It's a classic in business and self-help
It has sold over 15 million copies worldwide. So it is a time-tested book
So the tips I'm gonna give you today are
Directly from this book
the author Dale Carnegie was born into poverty in a small farm in the United States and
Using the techniques that he writes about in this book
He was able to bring his family out of poverty and become very successful
and this was back in the 1930s this was
long ago over 80 years ago
So I'm going to share with you six tips from Dale Carnegie on how to make anyone like you
Tip number one
Be genuinely interested in the other person now, sometimes we just want to practice English
We want to get the hours in of English practice so we can become fluent
But the other person is going to be on to you
They might know that you just want to practice English with them and that you aren't really interested
So you need to ask yourself. Are you genuinely?
Interested in this person. Do you like to spend time with them if you weren't practicing English?
Would you want to spend time with them and be brutally honest with yourself?
because if you're not genuinely interested in the other person
They're going to know and they're not going to want to spend time with you and talk to you in English
So if they're not interested in in them, that's okay. There are
Billions of people in the world and many of them speak English and you can find them find someone that you're interested in
You can find them online in your town
Just be sure that you're genuinely
interested in this person now tip number
two
This one's easy tip number two is smile
This one is pretty self-explanatory
but a smile is
like an invitation to friendship
So just be smiling when you're talking and when you're during the conversation
Now you don't want to be creepy about it. You don't want to look like this
That would be creepy so have like a natural smile like this
tip number three
Remember their name now
This should be an obvious one
But a lot of people forget it a lot of people don't remember names and they say, oh I'm bad with names
no, I
Used to be the same way. I used to tell everyone. Oh, I'm bad with names. I don't remember your name
But really it's a decision if you want to remember names first
you need to commit to being a person that can remember names make the commitment and
Now when you're talking to a person
If the way to remember their name, there's a few tricks here. Number one. You can repeat their name
so when you're in the conversation repeat their name a few times and then that will help put it in your memory and
also another way to do it is
To associate their face with their name. So this is a memory trick of Association. And so when you hear their name
think of an image that that name reminds you of and then in your mind associate their face with that image and
This trick when you see their face again, you will think of the image which will remind you of their name
So those are some quick tips on how to remember names
But remembering names is an important part if you want someone to like you they want to feel special
tip number four is
Be a good listener now
this one can be hard when you are a beginner English speaker because
You are trying to think of the next thing to say in the conversation
instead of actually listening very carefully to what the person is saying and
This is because you don't want to be caught off guard when?
Your time to speak comes that you don't know what to say and you feel dumb
So I know I've been there when I'm learning other languages
I try to plan what I'm going to say while the other person is talking and
the problem with this is you haven't really heard what they said and you
Haven't showed that you're interested in what they said in your body language and in your response
so a way to counteract this is to be an active listener and
Being an active listener. There's like several ways
There's the body language you can nod along while they're talking let them know that you're listening
And also you can repeat back what they said to you
when they are finished talking to show that you understood not just repeat exactly but to acknowledge what they said and
Then repeat it back in your own words now
This will show them that you were listening and it will also help you express yourself in English
Because you will get to re summarise what someone else just told you in English. So it's a win-win situation
Now tip number five is about talking in terms of other people's interests
So now this one can be a little bit counterintuitive
For a beginner English speaker because we often learn that like learn how to talk about yourself
Learn how to talk about your background talk about your interests. Talk about your job
Talk about where you're from and that's all very important
You should definitely know how to say that
But when you're trying to get someone to like you because you want them to be your English speaking partner or you or your friend
both preferably
then you need to really show more interest in what they're saying and
This is part of its being an active listener, which was tip number four
but now we need to actually talk and develop further about what they're interested in and
You might say but I don't have the vocabulary right now to talk about that and that's true
That might be true maybe right now you don't have the vocabulary
So this is this conversation step one and then step two is to learn the vocabulary
About what they're interested in in the near next conversation with them
You can continue developing that
conversation about their interests because people really like to talk about what they're interested in and
This these tips are about how to make people like you when you're speaking with them in English
So this is a great one and tip number
six now this is a culmination of all the tips tip number six is
Make the other person feel important
So if you followed tip one through five
the other person should feel
Super important right now and want to be around you because we Pete when you make someone feel important
They want to spend time with you. They're going to want to talk to you
They're gonna want to be around you and then you're going to be able to practice your English with them. It's a win-win situation
Everybody gets something
People get a friend people get to practice English
Everyone wins. Like I said now these six tips
They don't just have to be used for practicing English. You can use them in your everyday life in your native language
That's the beauty of these tips
They can be used for anything to get people to want to be around you and spend time with you and talk to you
So get out there and practice them today. I want you to think right now. Who is the one person?
Today that I can practice this on
and then go do it and
Also, I want you to comment below and tell us which of these tips was the most surprising
Maybe you've heard tips about how to make make people like you and be more sociable
But were any of these six tips a big surprise for you? Let us know below but most importantly
Get out there and put them into action. You can do this. You can make people want to talk to you when you speak English
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