Did you know that narcissists
We all know that narcissists manipulate,
but there's like some sneaky
manipulation strategies that they use
things that you wouldn't even know that
they're doing to manipulate you.
And I wanna point them out to you.
I'm gonna highlight those
so that when you are being used
and abused and you don't even realize that
you're gonna be able to spot them
and shoot them down before
they're even happening to you.
So check them out right here.
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Okay.
So they manipulate you know that they do.
But did you know that there's like,
these little stealthy things that
they do to manipulate you
and one of the things that they do.
One of the little known manipulation tactics
It looks like they're apologizing to you,
but they're not apologizing to you.
They are actually using that
as a manipulation strategy.
They're actually saying,
“oh, I'm sorry’’
but it's really a way to future fake you.
Get you back into their web.
Get you back into their lair.
Get you to do what it is that they want you to do or
just to manipulate you back into their
web of control.
It's not really an apology.
It's what I call a fauxpology.
It's a fake apology.
It's definitely a manipulation strategy.
Remember, everything they
do is a manipulation.
When they love bomb you,
it's a manipulation.
When they apologized to you,
it's a manipulation.
When they're nice to you.
When they are not nice to you.
Everything they do is a manipulation.
So that's number one.
Number two is
When they just stop
talking to you completely.
You know, they've love bomb you.
They've gotten you
into their web of control.
They said, they love you.
You know, even if it's a
business relationship and they said,
oh my god, we're supposed to be
you know, working together.
We're so vague.
You know, whatever it is
and then all the sudden,
you don't hear from them
and then you're like,
“hey, what's going on? I mean, you know,
we were supposed to be doing all this stuff.”
You're emailing the like,
fifty times a day and then suddenly you
don't hear it from them at all.
That's a manipulation strategy.
I have a whole video on
if you've ever been ghosted or lied to.
Watch this you're definitely
gonna wanna check that out.
Number three of the little
known manipulation strategies that
This is a big one that Covert narcissist use.
They guilt trip you.
Especially when they're like,
acting like,
“oh, you know, I wish you could have come.”
“You know, it's really you know,
sad that you couldn't make it.”
That doesn't necessarily seem like a
manipulation on the surface sometimes.
You know, especially if
it's like a family member or
somebody that you love or supposed to love you
but it can be a manipulation and
you know, it's sad to hear that
sometimes you know,
but it really can be a manipulation.
Especially if you know, they know that it's hard
for you or if it's something that you
really it's a difficult situation.
It puts you in a precarious situation,
but they're guilt tripping you into it anyway
then that's definitely a
narcissistic manipulation tactic.
The next one is
“You know oh, you know, you you're so good at this.”
“You're so fantastic”
that sort of thing they're really just
manipulating you into doing something.
They they know that you
don't wanna do that you don't like.
You know, or something to that effect,
especially if it's really manipulating you
into a situation that is maybe toxic
for you or something to that effect.
You know, that's really when they use flattery,
you know maybe it's using a combination
of things using flattery to
guilt trip you into something.
You know, it's flattery in and of itself
may not necessarily be bad.
Of course, you know who
doesn't like to get compliments,
but it's when they use it to manipulate
you into something that's
not necessarily something that you wanna do
or something that's definitely not good for you.
So that's number four.
And if you just had enough of
their narcissistic manipulation,
just put “ENOUGH!”
in the comments right now.
“ENOUGH!”
It's just enough.
It's time to stop.
It's time to put a stop to it.
It's just enough already.
Alright?
So that's number four.
So two more.
Number five is one of my absolute things.
It just absolutely gets under my skin.
I just cannot take it.
This is one of the things that they just it's like
trying to catch a wave and pin it down.
Actually have a whole TikTok video on this.
So and you know,
it's actually reels on Instagram as well
and actually shorts I think here on YouTube as well.
Where I actually did a whole
little conversation on this.
Where it's really a form of gaslighting.
Where they trying to have
a conversation with them and you're like,
“hey, I wanna talk to you about those text messages.”
You know, there's suspicious
text messages and they're like,
“why are you trying to bring that up now?”
And “when would be a good time?”
“Oh, you're now you're raising your voice.”
“Oh, I didn't raise my voice.”
“Oh, now you're being just difficult.”
“I I wasn't being difficult.”
You know, it's like you can never
get to the subject at hand
because they're constantly changing the
subject to evade accountability.
That is a manipulation strategy.
It's a manipulation tactic.
Alright?
So that's number five.
And number six is just
They just out of nowhere go from zero
to a hundred and you're like,
“what in the heck is going on?”
And they do that to create this massive fire over here.
So that you don't talk about what's going on over here.
It just go back whatever you know,
crazy because then you aren't now talking
about what's happening over here.
Right?
It's now like this is the news
instead of this being the news.
I'm sure you guys have seen these things.
I would love to know which one
of these you've seen.
Write it in the comments
and if you've seen any other little known
narcissistic manipulation tactics.
I would love to see those in the comments as well.
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