I'm not about positive thinking, you know, people can think
positive with the 5% of their conscious mind, but they're feeling negative
for the last 40 years.
That thoughts never going to go anywhere.
It's about changing your state of being!
I think that you know, we're habituated. You're habituated to think
about your kids, to think about your husband,
to think about the grocery list, to think about when the garbage day is,
to think about your errands
you have to run, to think about the emails
you have to answer... We are habituated to shift
our attention from one thing to the next.
We have this mobile thing called
awareness, you know.
And so, we habituate ourselves into shifting our attention very
quickly so that we can get a lot of stuff done.
And when you do that, your brain waves kind of amplify into a higher
aroused state called "high Beta brainwaves". And that's good, that's
good if you need to do be alert. But as those thoughts come in,
I don't really care that they come in.
I'm just noticing they're coming in but they're not the thoughts
I want to put my attention on.
So, as you begin to have those thoughts coming in and you start
applying a way to change your
brainwaves, in the beginning yeah,
just like when you work out, at the beginning ahhhh,
I don't want to do this, it hurts.
And then halfway through the workout,
you're totally involved in it, your fatigue is gone.
You're not thinking about anything else.
You're clear.
Well, you keep doing it,
our research shows that, and we just had a group of scientists
study a bunch of our brain
scans in a Bond University in Australia, thousands and thousands
of brain scans.
She called me up and she said: We have never seen a community of people
have the ability to change their brain waves so quickly, like 4 seconds,
5 seconds, 9 seconds...
They've practiced it enough times that they know how to silence the
critic in their brain.
That thinking is the analytical mind.
And, as you learn how to change your brain waves, that default
mode network, that voice in your head goes away. And our research
shows that it goes away during the meditation and then it goes away
for the majority of the day.
So, no one is saying to you:
You can't,
it's too hard,
you're too much like
your mother, you're never going to change,
iIt didn't work last time, that's silenced in the brain.
So, it's not so much that you have to try to get those thoughts out of there,
you just know that they're going to come and you keep directing your
thought at something else and you keep applying the formula, sooner or
later - the chatter just goes away! And that's the relief. And
you practice it, then you know when you're there and you know when
you're not. And so, when I do my inner work,
the most important thing for me is to settle into that present moment.
Because when there's significant biological changes that are taking
place in the brain and the heart, sometimes you feel so amazing
you don't want anything any longer! You feel like you have everything!
And that's what I call "the natural state of being", there's
coherence, high level of order in the brain.
The brain is synchronized.
Its orderly, the heart is synchronized, its orderly, it's driving new
energy to the brain. Once energy moves into the heart, our research
as well as other research,
shows that it amplifies energy in the brain!
Now you have a different awareness. You know, you're feeling
differently, you're thinking differently. Because you're at a different
level of consciousness.
So, getting to that point where you're self-regulated, you no longer
live in lack, you no longer live in separation,
in fact, you're no longer needing anything out there to bring you joy
or happiness.
It's actually coming from within!
So now you're more tolerant with people.
You're less reactive.
You don't really want to emotionally react because you like the way you feel!
And our research shows that people's oxytocin levels or love
chemicals are way higher than the average person.
Well, that's because you are what you practice.
So, every day they practice opening their heart. In survival,
in stress, not have time to open your heart, right?
It's time to run, fight or hide.
So we close that down.
We stop trusting, we stop trusting ourselves, and no energy is in there.
And so of course, there are all kinds of health conditions that are
result of that.
So then, you practice opening your heart every day and you say: I'm not
getting up till I feel
like I'm in love with life,
wow, now the game is on! You're out of the bleachers.
You're on the field! And in the beginning, yeah, it takes a little work.
But over time you start practicing that, all of a sudden
when you feel that way and you're no longer needing it from your outer world,
you're going to be more unconditional with everybody in your life
because you're not going to want to lose this feeling.
You're going to say: I feel so good that I'll forgive you.
I don't really care because nothing's worth losing this
feeling. And so people work for it
and they covet it. And they learn how to maintain it. And it's
not just about doing the meditation and then getting up and getting on
a freeway and flipping people off or judging your coworker
the next moment. You're doing that meditation to change your state of
being, and then your job is to maintain that modified state of mind and
body your entire day.
And when you do, get ready! Something unusual, something different,
some synchronicity, some coincidence, some opportunity's going to show
up in your world.
That's the law!
And then all of a sudden,
you start believing you're more of the creator of your life
and less of the victim of your life! Because victimization is like:
Whyare you unhappy?
Ohhh, because of this person or that thing. And what you're really saying,
from biological standpoint, is: Something out there,
I'm allowing something out there to control how I feel and how I think,
and that's a victim.
So, when you start to see how you think and how you feel begins to
produce an effect in your life, you start believing less that you're a
victim and more that you are the creator of your life!
And that's when people start getting empowered and they say: Wow.
I didn't do anything.
It just kind of came to me! Of course. Because nobody changes until
they change their energy.
And when you change your energy, you change your life! And changing your
state of being with a clear intention and elevated
emotion is producing a very dramatic change in the field. And your job
is to be able to maintain it.
Independent of the conditions in your environment, independent of the
chemical, emotional, habitual needs in your body and independent of time.
And being able to do that for an extended period of time, you
start to see, the Universe
starts to give you feedback. And when you start measuring, wow,
you at the cause, then you wake up in the morning and you want to do it.
It's not like oh jeez, I got to go create my life.
It's not like that.
It's more like: Oh my God, the magic is happening,
I don't want to stop!
I want to lose the magic.
I want to keep going! And so, people are enthusiastic
filled with God. You know, they're inspired to create! And I
think that we are naturally creators! And so, we see
profound changes in people's body, and their brain, and on every
level when they just keep practicing.
A simple thing to do, really simple,
it's such an easy thing is when you wake up in the morning, instead of
remembering your problems and getting into those feelings, or getting
up and doing your routine, sit up, close your eyes and ask yourself:
Okay, who do I want to be today?
And say: Okay, before I create this new person,
let me just take a moment and let me just become conscious of the
thoughts that I think that don't support me any longer.
I can't,
it's too hard,
I'll start tomorrow.
You start writing those thoughts down, becoming familiar with those.
Then you review your behaviors.
Even how you speak.
Do you complain, do you make excuses, do you feel sorry for yourself, do you
procrastinate, do you judge other people, just get a list and write
those down.
Look at the emotions that cause you to fall to a lower
denominator every day and just just become aware of those.
And review those thoughts, behaviors and emotions, become so familiar to them,
so conscious of them that you won't go unconscious to them in your
waking day.
Now, that is the process. That's to know thyself.
And it's amazing because you could actually anticipate the
thought before it's coming
when you get good at this. You're like:
Oh, no, I'm not going to go there. Because you're so aware of those
thoughts now. Because nerve cells that no longer fire together
no longer wire together.
So you begin to dampen down
the connections in your brain that have to do
with the old self.
You're no longer having the same thought that's producing the same
chemical that signaling the body feel a certain way.
You're disrupting their process. In the beginning, yeah,
that's uncomfortable.
The body's been in that familiar state.
Then if you say: Okay,
what thoughts do I want to fire and wire in my brain? And you have
those thoughts and put all of your attention behind them.
What behaviors, how am I going to be with my husband?
How am I going to be at work?
How am I going to be on the phone?
Who am I to make a difference with? And start to review, just review,
think about and plan who you're going to be. You can't control
anybody, it's free will. But what you can control or regulate is
who you're going to be!
And then you say: Okay, what emotions am I going to live by
the entire day?
Let the test begin.
That no person,
no thing is going to steal my joy today.
I'm not going to mismanage my attention and lose the love that I
feel now.
And you start working on those emotional states, and just say: I'm
not getting up until I feel that feeling.
Now, that little small exercise of just deciding who you no longer
want to be and reviewing who you do want to be takes 20 minutes.
And you get up and you feel better! And your body begins to make a whole
different set of chemicals.
The whole pharmacy of chemicals that really start to make you see
the reality differently.
We don't see things
how they are.
We see things how we are!
So when you change who you are, you're going to get a broader spectrum
of the way the world really is.
And look, people who are unhappy with themselves are unhappy with
everybody. People who hate other people
hate themselves. People who judge other people,
they're always judging themselves.
People who love themselves
love other people.
People who are happy with themselves are happy with other people!