Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today, we are going to learn about 10 signs someone is
secretly in love with you. Now, let’s begin.
1. Acts of Service Do you know someone who’s constantly doing
you favors? Acts of service, like favors and fun surprises, may indicate secret, romantic feelings.
If someone is in love with you, they want to make your life more comfortable. They want you
to smile, laugh, and enjoy yourself, because they care about you on a deeper level. They may not
have the courage to confess their love out loud, so they show their love with acts of service.
This person may bring you food or open doors for you. They may take you to your favorite
restaurant or plan elaborate surprises. Acts of service come in all shapes and sizes,
but they all send the same message. This person cares about you. Even though this person can’t
express their feelings out loud, their actions may communicate their love loud and clear.
2. Proximal Nerves Do you know someone who gets awkward
around you? Maybe they’re calm and confident 99% of the time. They’re competent socialites,
who act friendly and secure in almost any environment. But the moment you enter the room,
they fall to pieces. Their body language changes. They get tongue-tied and quiet. They become
overly insecure, and their confidence disappears. What’s happening here? Why does this person change
when you’re around? The answer is simple. This person is secretly in love with you.
Their mood and body language changes because they care deeply about what you think.
They’re drawn to you, physically and emotionally, so their nerves get the best of them.
On the outside, it may feel like this person doesn’t like you. In some cases, they may avoid
spending time with you; but they’re not trying to create distance. They’re just worried about making
a bad impression. This person is awkward around you because their feelings for you are strong.
And it’s those strong feelings that destroy their confidence.
3. Personalized Plans If someone secretly loves you,
they’ll look for opportunities to spend time together. They want to get to know
you and deepen your connection. So, they plan outings and find events for you to do together.
But how do you know this person really loves you? Plans and invitations can be signals of friendship
rather than love. They may enjoy spending time with you as a friend rather than a partner.
So how do you know whether it’s love or friendship?
Look at the kind of outings they want to do together. Is this person making plans manicured to
your preferences? Are they using your passions or interests to get involved in your personal life?
This is a huge sign that someone is secretly in love with you. They’re not only enjoying
the time you spend together, but they’re also becoming intertwined in your life. They want to
see different sides of you. They want to explore the places and hobbies you love. In other words,
they want to enjoy what you enjoy. And that signifies something greater than friendship.
4. Genuine Interest Do you know someone who’s a great listener?
They ask good questions. They show interest in your life, and they rarely ever dominate
the conversation. Instead of talking about themselves, they’re genuinely curious about you.
If someone is secretly in love with you, they’ll make listening their number one
priority. They aren’t using your relationship to satisfy some deeper need for attention.
Instead, they care about you as an individual. They find you interesting. They care deeply
about your happiness and your goals. That’s why they’re asking so many questions about your life.
Someone who is only interested in themselves only talks about themselves.
They dominate every conversation because they aren’t thinking about you, your life,
or your feelings. They’re preoccupied by their own problems, so you are the last thing on their mind.
If you want to know how someone feels about you, pay attention to the amount of time they spend
talking. If they talk more than they listen, you may not be their number one priority.
But if they care deeply about what you have to say, this person may have real feelings for you.
5. Impartial Defenses Do they rush to your side whenever you need
them? Do they defend you every chance they get? If the answer is yes, this person may be secretly in
love with you. They feel a sense of loyalty to you beyond simple friendship. Even if they don’t agree
with your opinions, they’ll protect or defend you because you are someone special to them.
This is common among people in relationships, but it’s equally common among secret romances.
This person may not have the courage to confess their love, but they’re always on your side.
They instinctively empathize with your struggles, and they want to be your guardian and defender.
In the same way, they act as a caretaker when you need them. They are always there to pick you
up when you’re down. If you’re feeling sick, for example, they’ll bring you medicine or make you a
meal—anything they can do to help and support you. If this sounds familiar, they’re not just a loyal
and supportive friend. This person has feelings for you that run deeper than friendship.
6. Secret Language Do they make jokes only the two
of you understand? Inside jokes are like a secret language—a language you only understand if you’re
in on the joke. When you make an inside joke with someone, you’re creating a special connection.
Not only are you making each other laugh, which is a powerful feeling, but you’re also creating
a special bond that’s unique to the two of you. Naturally, inside jokes strengthen romantic
connections. If someone is secretly in love with you, they’ll create inside jokes to build your
special bond. They’ll recall funny things you did together. They’ll reference memories that make you
laugh. In other words, they’ll learn to speak to you in a way other people don’t understand.
Of course, inside jokes aren’t the only pieces of a secret language.
As you gravitate closer together, you come to understand this person on a deeper level.
You find deeper meanings in their body language and their tone of voice. You know what makes
this person laugh, but you also know what makes them angry, frustrated, or sad. If someone is
in love with you, you may have a complicated, secret language that only you two understand.
7. Romantic Discomfort What happens when you talk
about romance? Do they become uncomfortable any time love enters the conversation? If someone
has feelings for you, they may react negatively to conversations about love or relationships.
They get anxious and self-conscious. Their confidence wanes. Their personality may suddenly
change. Why? Because you struck a nerve. Let’s say you’re talking to someone who’s
secretly in love with you. Every time you mention relationships,
this person changes the subject. Their confidence disappears, and they don’t know what to say.
The same thing might happen when you joke about dating or falling in love. To you, it might be a
joke. But in their mind, it’s a real possibility. So, watch the way they react when relationships
enter the conversation. If their mood suddenly changes, they may have hidden feelings for you.
8. Unusual Fascination
If someone loves you, they’ll find you fascinating. They can’t think of anything
more interesting than your life. They want to know all the boring details about your day.
And they treasure every moment you share. To anyone else, these details would be boring
or mundane. No one cares what errands you did today or what your coworker said at the office.
But if someone secretly loves you, they’ll cherish all these tiny details. They care
about every aspect of your life because there is no one they find more fascinating than you.
9. Sticking Around What happens when you
get into a fight? Do they run away? Or do they stick around and figure things out?
Let’s say you say did stupid. You made a terrible mistake, and someone else is paying the price.
This person could abandon you. They could run away and leave you behind.
But instead of running away, they stick around and work through this difficult situation.
If this sounds familiar, you’ve found someone who loves you, even if they haven’t told you out loud.
They have the strength to persevere through rough patches because of how much you matter to them.
Even if you make a stupid mistake, they see you for the person that you are. They look past
your lowest moments. When the going gets tough, they’re willing to fight for your relationship.
That’s why this person never runs for the hills, no matter how often you fight.
They may not express their feelings out loud, but deep down… they love you too much to run away.
10. Emotional Empathy If someone loves you, they
want to hear about your problems. But they don’t just listen. They empathize with your problems,
and they care deeply about the way you feel. When you’re happy, they’re happy. When you’re sad,
they’re sad. If you’re struggling to accomplish something that matters to you, that struggle
is going to resonate with someone who loves you. Because this person empathizes with your problems,
they never judge or criticize you. They never belittle your emotions or dismiss your problems.
Because something that is significant to you… is significant to them.
Think about the way you interact with this person when something is wrong. If they ignore you or
make light of your problems, they may not be in love with you. But if they empathize with
your emotions and care about your experiences, this person could be hiding romantic feelings.
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