- If your guy keeps pulling away,
and you just simply don't know what to do about it,
then this video is just for you.
Hi, everyone, my name is Ieva Bereisaite.
I am one of Greta's high value women coaches.
And in this video,
I will share four shocking things that you can do
if a man pulls away or needs space.
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The first thing that you can do
is to actually give him that space.
Don't ever force a man to be with you,
or even to stay with you.
It's the worst thing that you can do,
simply because the man will feel
like you are taking away his freedom.
A guy needs to have his freedom,
and his desire for space needs to be fulfilled.
So if a guy spends time with you, and he's cuddly and sweet,
in many cases,
he might just simply pull away to feel manly again.
Remember that it's totally normal
for a man to want space.
Some men need more space, and some men need less space,
and that is just the way it is.
So remember that it's a little bit different with every man,
but fundamentally, every man needs space.
If you complain to a man when he is distant,
when you tell him things like,
oh, why don't you ever want to spend time with me?
Why are you leaving me?
Come back to me, I miss you.
If you say any of those things,
he will actually become even more distant,
simply because he will feel pressured to be with you.
And that is taking away his freedom.
The second thing is don't reach out to him.
If a man needs space, give it to him.
Don't reach out, and let him come to you when he is done.
Don't text, don't call him, simply let him come to you.
Also, if you live with a guy,
and you feel like he's being distant,
and you ask him what's wrong,
and he says nothing, then simply believe him.
A lot of the time,
men would just have problems at work or private problems.
And they just want to solve those problems
by themselves in their so-called cave.
So whatever you do, if he says no, there's nothing wrong,
don't keep persisting.
Don't keep asking him,
really, but you seem so distant,
why don't you just tell me about it?
If he says there's nothing wrong
if you actually do ask him if everything's okay,
drop the topic.
If you are with a guy who is always hot and cold with you,
maybe it's best to leave him.
And there are those types of men that are just hot and cold.
For example, he'll be great with you,
and then he'll disappear for a long period of time,
like two weeks, three weeks, whatever.
And then he'll come back and be cuddly again,
and then he'll disappear again.
You don't want to break your own heart
by being in a relationship
with this type of guy that is hot and cold.
Think about letting this type of relationship go,
because it can be very draining.
The one thing that you can do is act high value
with this type of man who might be hot and cold,
and see if he starts changing his behavior.
And if not, then you simply move on.
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The third thing that you can do
is spend time with your friends.
The best thing that you can do if a guy pulls away,
or needs space is to spend time with your friends,
or do your hobbies.
This is why it's so important to make friends,
have a pet maybe even,
or have the hobbies that you love doing.
Do you, for example, like swimming as a hobby?
Then start doing that more
during the time that he has pulled away or needs space.
Maybe you want to do a garden,
or you want to take up pottery, or do a DIY on your balcony.
Then do that.
This is the time to do that.
Go out shopping with your friends,
meet up with people that you like.
Or if you have a dog,
teach your dog new tricks during that time.
When you go out with your friends, however,
and if they're your like girl gang friends,
make sure you don't talk about your relationship problems
with them, especially if they're low value,
because you're prone to get bad relationship advice.
So make sure you don't do that.
If you get bad relationship advice from friends,
you might start doubting your actions.
You might start doubting what I'm saying,
and that's not the way to go about it.
So be really careful with advice that you get
from your friends when it comes to your relationship.
It's important to keep yourself genuinely happy,
and not just happy when your guy is around.
He will simply see that you are happy even without him.
And he will think that is great and absolutely amazing,
and that way he will come back to you even quicker.
And when he does do that,
simply be nice, and take it from there.
Simply see how he acts,
and what he does, and how much he invests in you.
Remember, I'm not talking about those hot and cold guys,
but good and normal men that are high value, for example.
Those type of men pull away in a healthy way
to become manly again.
And it's super, super normal for them to do that.
A lot of the time, men just do that
to get their testosterone levels back up,
especially if they would have spent
a lot of intimate time with you,
or just time with you for a period of time.
The fourth thing that you can do is to let him miss you.
Always remember that a man falls in love through distance.
A man will reach back out to you, because he misses you,
simply because he started thinking about you again,
he started missing you, and then he reached out to you.
That is the pattern of how it works.
Men need some time to miss us
in order to fall in love with us again.
It's healthy, it's good for them.
And this might seem a little bit strange for women,
because women are just built differently in so many ways,
but this is really how men function.
Imagine just how nice it is when you miss your girl,
and you want to spend time with her,
and you see her, and she is happy.
This is an absolutely great feeling for a man,
because he sees that your happiness does not depend on him,
and it makes him feel more free.
The girl should not be complaining or nagging about it.
She instead trusts him,
and gives him that space that he needs.
Remember ladies, to take care of yourself,
regardless of if he needs space,
or if he doesn't need space.
You should not only do things that you love
when he's not around.
You should be doing those things all of the time,
or as much as possible.
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