Heya playa, have you ever felt like your height got in the way of asking out the person that
you liked?
Now, I'm not talking about you being short, I'm talking about you being tall.
And that's exactly what Kevon asked me when he said: "Can you do a video on how to get
a girl if you're tall?".
Don't worry Kevon, I've been tall pretty much all my life and I've learned a few things
in being tall when it comes to asking girls out so I'll share them with you right after
this.
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I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self, now
before you ask away in the comments, my height is 6'2".
I've always been a pretty tall guy my whole life but I didn't really start to grow until
later on from high school into college.
Now there are a lot of you out there when you're in middle school or even in the beginning
of high school.
When that happens though you might feel like you're at an advantage, on average girls prefer
taller guys.
But is there a point where you can be too tall where you start to feel awkward about
it?
I think that's a possibility too.
Some of the challenges with being too tall is that you might be a little bit lankier,
your limbs might be a little bit longer than everyone else's and you might just stand several
feet about people too.
If you get to a point where you're too tall, that might actually disqualify you just like
a person being too short might.
Everyone wants to be in that happy middle but not everyone is so if you are too tall
how do you go about asking out a girl that you like?
And as much as I'd like to say height doesn't matter, it can matter depending on the person.
If for example, that girl feels like you're way taller than her, she might feel awkward
walking in the halls with you, giving you hugs, kissing you or just having to stand
up on her tippy toes just to reach you.
And just like I would say to shorter guys, what you want to do is shift the conversation
from the obvious things like your height to the more personal things like your interests,
your hobbies, who you are as a person and how confident you are.
Yes, there will be times where people feel the need to call out your height and let you
know how tall you are as if you didn't already know or they might tell you that you should
be a basketball player because that's what tall people should do.
To some degree, you just gotta learn to roll with the punches.
You might want to say something like "Yeah, I know I'm pretty tall but I'm more curious
to know more about you as a person."
One direct tip that I would offer is that if you find yourself in conversation with
your crush, try to sit down.
Doing that will eliminate the major height difference and make you guys a little bit
more equal.
And when you are a little bit more equal, you're able to make direct eye contact and
it's easier to carry that conversation.
I know that even though you're tall, you can still feel insecure about your height simply
because you might be the only tall person around everyone else.
And when you're the only person that looks a certain way around everyone else, you're
going to feel like you stand out.
And when you feel like you're ready to ask out your crush, go for it.
Try to push your height to the back of your mind because at this point the two of you
should have already gotten to know each other so well that that height difference really
doesn't matter.
If it does end up getting in the way and you hear either through the grapevine or from
your crush's friends or even from your crush directly that you're just too tall for them,
don't count yourself out.
Don't think that you're a bad person because of it.
They simply have their own preference and their own interest and that's ok.
Sometimes you just have to kind of accept it and as time goes on, other people are going
to continue to hit puberty and hit their growth spurt so you're not going to be the only person
that's your height forever, trust me on that.
And as a side note, there are some girls that really really like a huge height difference
between them and the guy that they like.
I don't know why but they're just into that so, try to find a girl like that in your school.
What do you think though, do you feel like being super tall is a positive or negative
when it comes to asking out your crush?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
Whether you're seven feet tall or five feet tall if you have a question you want to ask
me in a more private setting, you can always shoot me a DM over on Snapchat or Instagram.
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can.
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And otherwise, I'll catch you guys next time.
As always, love and peace.