This video is about "Desperation Will Destroy You!" I will discuss how desperation for certain
situations and people can work against you in life. To find out more please stay tuned to this video...
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A desperate person is someone who suffers misfortune showing extreme urgency or intensity
especially because of a great need or desire. I believe i'm well and truly qualified to discuss
this subject because i've been so desperate for many things in my life... i've been desperate for
an easier and less stressful life... i've been desperate for a breakthrough in my business
i've been desperate for people to like and love me... i've been desperate for a relationship
i've been desperate for people to get better who i love and care about... i've been desperate
for more opportunities... i've been desperate for way more money. I'm not ashamed to admit this
i mean most recently i've been desperate for this channel The SCG Show to grow and become successful
Deep down even the most confident people in the world are desperate for something that
in their opinion is missing from their life but when desperation can and will consume us
in a toxic and negative way that is where we run the risk of destroying our lives, becoming
unhealthily fixated on an outcome and going to such extremes to try and make it happen
will result in us never actually getting what we want in life. To truly succeed and
get what we want in life doesn't require luck but actually perseverance, a hell of a lot of patience
understanding and a form of self-awareness... well that is if you want anything worthwhile and
meaningful that is. Let's dive into this subject deeper aka why desperation will destroy you
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my videos. Most people who are single regardless of how and why are desperate for love for many
reasons = they want the stability love can provide, they want the idea of a family, a life partner, they
want affection, attention, a friend, they want to have fun, intimacy you get the idea, but if i could
be crude for a moment Love is like a FART, if you must force it it's most likely going to be crap!
In 2020 i lost my Dad to illness and isolated for a long time due to the pandemic
etc i was grieving mostly alone, miserable, sad and depressed. When things started opening up again
i could not believe how desperate i was for human interaction and to combat that horribly traumatic
year i set out to find love online. Amazingly i found a woman, we fell in love and started dating
in 2021 but it was very short-lived... i rushed in because i just wanted to be with anybody
after spending such a long time in one location, one section of the house on my own
I know millions of people isolated alone in lockdowns and can resonate with that story
and by being so desperate for human contact etc i settled for somebody who wasn't right for me
I wanted to be with her but there was no long-term future for us, it was sadly not going to work
out. When we force someone to like us or worse ourselves to like them we settle or even push
them away we come on too strong, too needy, too much and they bolt because it's just way too intense
too early on. I believe we can all be guilty of this at any stage of our life. The solution
is self-awareness, emotional discipline and if need be a good dosage of therapy to handle the fear
of abandonment, attachment issues and any other insecurities. Acting out of desperation
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love can be applied to people too. I'll break down the following into different categories
i know you can't choose your family (unfortunately) but you can certainly decide whether to be around
them or not. Your parents, siblings, extended family are what they are, they are most likely
never going to change or improve or see the world from your perspective or be compassionate
if you're so desperate to play happy families when the truth is that they're toxic
you're wasting your time. Accept the truth and then decide accordingly. Being desperate for
friends if you're lonely and struggle to connect with people will only push them further away
but are you just desperate for ANY friends or the RIGHT kind of friends? Because you can make
friends with anyone even a stranger walking down the street if you're charming enough
but is that person healthy? Do you have anything in common? Are they a compliment to your life?
You're better off exploring your own hobbies and interests and finding like-minded genuine
people who want the best for you rather than forcing friendships with random people
Do you so desperately want & need to be liked by others? Are you a people pleaser? Are you a bit of
a pushover? Are you always taken advantage of? Do people never respect your boundaries?
Do other people not meet your needs at all? This could again be a deep-rooted problem possibly a
fear of abandonment or again like love some sort of serious insecurity. Once again to counter this
and stop being so desperate address your problems head on. Why do you people please?
Why do you always neglect yourself? Why are you so desperate to be liked by the wrong
people? Because the truth is you'll never be good enough for the wrong person anyway. Try
and do some serious soul searching here to counter your desperate behavior immediately
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As an entrepreneur who has succeeded and failed a lot being desperate for any goal
no matter how big or small is common. Perhaps you desperately want your business to succeed
but you've got bills to pay, mouths to feed perhaps you desperately want to get that dream job
you worked so hard to get to this moment. Perhaps you really want to get into shape and be healthy you
do not want to be unhealthy and get sick. Perhaps you really want to be financially independent or
wealthy you want to attract your dream life and partner with your success and lifestyle
Perhaps you want to buy that luxury car so you can show off how cool you look to those around you
Look at your goals right now and ask yourself why do you really want to pursue it? When i was in my
early 20s i wanted to be a singer! I wanted to get signed by a record label, i loved music, i wanted to
be rich and famous! Okay i was a kid with a goofy dream why did i want to do that? Seriously why?
Well i wanted to be famous! I sought admiration and attention, i wanted to be rich again so i could
blow my money to impress people, i wanted to be a singer to showcase my talent to impress women
I'm 35 now i could not think of anything worse than being a famous singer! Sure the wealth would
be cool but i'd rather build that organically and gradually doing something meaningful like
this channel. Also most of the time when we're so desperate for something to happen like a goal
the more stress and pressure we put on ourselves and the longer it takes or it never happens,
but once we enjoy the process of perseverance and take our times to hit our goals naturally we often
find success comes a lot easier and quicker too. Look at your goals, evaluate them right this moment
I know it's cheesy cliche and you've heard it a million times before and tried to embody it
but "trust the process" This slogan is used by fans of the NBA's Philadelphia 76ers though
it's since become popular elsewhere in sports and culture. Coined during a rough patch for the team
it basically means things may look bad now but we have a plan in place to make it better
Here's how to trust the process with the categories i've highlighted already in this video
I know you're single fed up online dating may have been a nightmare but trust the process if you keep
showing up, doing the work on yourself, going on dates, still learn about yourself too eventually
you'll find someone and you look back on your single days and think "I can't believe how stressed
i was about that!" People come and go family can as well if they want to be friends they will
if they want to come they will, if they want to try with you they will, trust the process by again
seeing how things unfold and weeding out the genuine and time-wasting people.
Also if it's meant to be it's meant to be one door closes another one opens
I lost my former business a few years ago and thought i'd never be successful again! Fast
forward to today not only did i bounce back but i'm now running an amazing business, this one The
SCG Show and i love what i do! Stop being desperate and trust the process for once in your life you've
tried it the other way for so long aka being desperate, so why not try a healthier different approach?