Namaste everybody! I am Lisa a Romano the breakthrough life coach and today I want to talk about why we fear
what is it about fear that keeps us paralyzed and running in circles and
unable to live from the authentic self as
a very analytical thinker I
Do what I can to understand the mechanisms of my mind. I
believe in
self-awareness
I believe in
metacognition, I believe in the ability to observe the inner workings of the mind and
I absolutely know that
Being able to observe the inner workings of the mind
helps us recover from trauma
from codependency from
narcissistic abuse from psychological abuse and so on and the interesting thing about fear I
Believe that it comes down to this idea that we have more faith in the outer
Than we do in the inner
Meaning we are 3d beings. We live in a 3d
material based world of form and
our mind is
looking for
facts to hold on to
Concrete things like numbers to prove that were enough or the smile
From a stranger to prove that they see us
Validation from the outside to guarantee that were real it is as if the ego
Is tied or tethered to the 3d experience and without the external validation?
without someone looking at us without someone patting us on the back without someone to argue with
We may not feel real
We are born to connect
but if we do not learn to go within
And free our minds from the obsession
to connect with other people then we will disconnect from the self and
as we disconnect from the self we become more neurotic about connecting with other people and
We develop codependency we become reactive
We walk around like infected big red toes were afraid of people bumping into us
we're afraid of not being seen and
so we can feel slighted and
if we feel slighted we can become annoyed and
be reactive and
So going within is really the key to freeing the mind
But here's the rub
When you come from a dysfunctional home
When you have been shamed
When you have never felt loved you don't feel like you are enough
So when you go within what do you find?
lions and tigers and bears on line
You don't want to go within there's too much crap. There's too much. I'm not enough. I'm ugly. I'm stupid
Nobody loves me. I'm boring. I'm
Not pretty I'm not intelligent. I don't make enough money
All of this stuff is in on the inside. So going within becomes a difficult difficult thing to do and so
attaching to the outside is
Somewhat of an escape
when we attach to the outside when we have
problems going on on the outside and we have addictions to deal with when we have arguments to deal with when we have
details to deal with you don't have to go on the inside and so
Fear is linked to a
Inability to go within
We don't know how to go within. We don't know how to access our God self
We don't know how to ultimately fall into the beautiful and divine lap
the only truth that matters
and the one truth that sets you free is
Learning to believe that you are enough finding your God self
Detaching from the outer world
learning to trust this inner guidance and so fear is the result of
not knowing how to go within and when we go within finding things that we don't like
Right, so we believe more in the outer then we do the inner. We believe that someone else can make us happy
We believe that enough money can make us happy
We believe that the right relationship can make us happy
we believe that the right person the right person to validate us the
Right house the right job the right car the right word from a stranger
it's all of these attachments to the outside and yet what frees us is the
absolute ability and
The absolute divine right that we have
to find the ultimate truth, which is you our
Creator incarnate you are like a volcano or
you are like a beautiful waterfall or you are like a beautiful sunrise or a sunset or
Daffodil or a peacock or a dolphin or star on the sky?
You are a beautiful and divine creation. That is really what you are
We have been brainwashed to believe in the outside
We have been brainwashed there
advertising
Advertising through the media through music of different sorts
You know the frequencies of Music Matters
I remember studying about subliminal brainwashing and advertising and how
advertisers knew that in order to
be
Profitable they had to get people hooked
They had to get them hooked on nicotine
they have to get you hooked to an idea if
People want the to spend money on
alcohol or cigarettes or
Whatever a car or a pocketbook they have to hook you and what they're looking is your focus
your attention and your belief systems and
this hook pulls you and
your ability your decision-making aspect of you to the outside world and
when you get caught up in believing you need this thing or you need that thing then you are controllable and
so
You can free your mind
When you learn to understand, what is keeping you from freeing your mind
Which is illusions?
which is
materialism
superficiality and
the fear of going within because we find shame and
Although all of this stuff is your true god self
The divine you the I am that I am
that is just waiting for you to
let go and detach and
Find time to commune with the I am
What I'd like to suggest people do is every morning go into meditation light a candle
Before you do anything else have a glass of water
Calm your mind light a candle
Put on some beautiful meditation music and go into a meditative state
fall into the I am that I am do not bring your worries into
meditation because
Once you know that you are enough and you operate your life from I'm enough I have enough
Everything is working out for me
Right here in this moment. I have all that I need
Don't bring anything worries into the meditative state
Leave all of that behind you let go and detach
Find things to be grateful for
Put your hand on your heart your heart beats for you does be from me?
It doesn't beep for anybody else on this planet it needs for you put your hands on your liver
Your liver is filtering toxins out of your body from you to keep you alive
Put your hands on your kidneys your kidneys function from you for your benefit. Put your hand on your eyes
Your eyes function for you so that you can lay your eyes upon beautiful things and see beauty in yourself
Put your hands on your ears your ears operate for you
What we want to do is to make sure that what you allow access
Into the subconscious mind and the conscious mind by way of
The sound frequencies that enter through your ears
You want to be very careful about what you're letting into your sacred and divine space
So freeing your mind means freeing yourself from these external
ideas these
Codependent ideas. It means we're willing to tell ourselves another story. Maybe you were a victim of abuse
but when we
Take time to go into a meditative state then we leave that story by the back door
Right. Don't bring it into the meditative state leave it on the back door or the back porch
Maybe something is going on in your outer world
Today that needs to be worked out, but I can tell you that pulling at it
Only makes them not stronger. It's like jewellery you ever try to
Undo a knot in a chain put your piece of jewelry a necklace and you're pulling on it
You make it harder to unwind it
It's when you ease up on it
Right and you try to wiggle it and you're just non resistant to the knot and you know
It's so much easier to undo the knot in a state of non-resistance
Maybe you do. Have you are experiencing a health crisis
But leave that story on the back door on the back porch when you go into a meditative state
So freeing your mind begins by finding the time to find silence
to go into sila
And as negative thoughts show up don't attach them
Don't attach to them let them float away and go deeper into the I am that I am
Find the space to observe what's happening
Find his face to observe the thoughts and observe the stories acknowledge them
They happen to be true acknowledge the pain they're true, but there's more to you than the experience of pain
There's the true
I am that I am
That is waiting for you to discover the silence and the peace in the calm and the equanimity
That can be yours through meditation and through silencing the mind
through letting go of old storylines to
Finding the time to connect and commune
With the real you this is the way we release fear the more we are able to go within
Unless we fear going within
The more we want to go within the more we want to commune with the divine self the less reactive
We are to other people we learn to let things go
We're not so affected people Qualis names or roll their eyes or don't show up for us. It's okay
Because we've become our own best friend we get it the truth is we are enough
We have always been enough and we always will be enough
So fears fear as a result of being afraid to go within and not trusting that we are enough
Fear is tied to thinking that we need other people to validate us
We need things to happen in a certain particular way for us to be happy and that's just not true
That's just not true. We can learn to be happy for something right here right now
Even if it's just for the time to listen to these words
even if it's just for
fingernails or toes or the ability to hear or the ability to see
Your heart is beating it's a fabulous thing. Your liver is functioning
Even if it's having a little bit of trouble trouble right now you are here
Remember dear ones life is a vacation
It doesn't last forever
and so I pray that this
podcast has
Inspired you to go within and speak a little less afraid of what you find
Because I can promise you that what you find will change your life for the rest of your life
Namaste bye for now