adding humor as you're talking with
people can be a risky business but it
could also add interest and sparkle to
your conversations
people like listen to you and trust more
to those who make them laugh he study
conducted by Jeffrey hall who is a
researcher from the University of Kansas
observed two different men having
conversations with people out in public
and afterwards he interview the people
about how they felt about these two men
the first man who was considered
extremely smart
had a poor performance in trying to be
funny and the second man actually had an
average intelligence and demonstrated he
had a great ability to make people laugh
in his conversations surprisingly at the
end he discovered that many of the
people that talked with these two guys
all perceived that the second man who
was funnier came off as more intelligent
than the first man this could really be
a problem in many life situations such
as if you're trying to talk with a girl
and they start to feel that you have a
poor sense of humor isn't that right
Jake absolutely Chris humor is perhaps
one of the most important ways to
attract girls which is what my youtube
channel in her game specializes in a
really good reason for this is for
example when a girl laughs she releases
massive amounts of dopamine in her brain
dopamine is known as the feel-good
hormone and interestingly enough women
release more dopamine than men do
so being funny is a huge important step
in building a stronger relationship
between you and the girl you're talking
with that is awesome coming up by the
end of this video you will have learned
three new styles of humor that you use
effectively so you can be the next star
of your future conversations let's get
started
[Music]
making people laugh really comes down to
your understanding how the sense of
humor works you see the sense of humor
is essentially how you connect different
things together in an unexpected
surprising way but after learning that
the only difference you really need to
know is how to adjust your style of
humor to different kinds of people and
situations that requires different types
of humor so Jake what's a great start
for beginners to help them get started
the first type of humor I recommend for
beginners to start with is called
misdirection humor misdirection is
mainly based off the audience's
assumption and you'll realize it's quite
simple to use the idea behind this humor
is setting up an expectation of whatever
you're talking about that's going one
way and then saying something that goes
the other way it can be as easy as
setting expectations in the first couple
words or you tell a story and then flip
it into something unexpected doing this
makes you look like you have great
situational awareness and you have the
ability to come up with a clever or
comical observation it also makes you
look like you're able to think on your
feet which shows others that you're
charming and you have the ability to win
people's affection and interest so first
before you end your talk with something
that the other person expects you to say
you should ask yourself what does my
audience expect me to say right now once
you figured it out in that moment what
they think you'll say it's simple from
here on out you just need to say the
exact opposite essentially this is
called the punchline because it's based
on revealing that what we expected to
happen did not in fact something
completely different happened and the
less we expect what actually happened
the funnier it becomes
here's a great example of misdirection I
heard an old wise man once say never
follow anyone else's path unless you're
in the woods and you're lost and you see
a path
then by all means follow the path you
probably expected to hear more about why
you shouldn't follow someone's path then
when the punch line came in it might
have surprised you enough that it
actually resulted in a lap that's
basically misdirection I definitely
recommend trying it out the next type of
humor you can use is called self
enhancing humor this humor involves the
ability to laughing yourself such as
making a joke when something bad has
happened to you is also trying to find a
humor in everyday situations and making
yourself the target of the hearer in a
good-natured way here's an example that
I personally did that you can do
whenever you make a mistake in public
you can simply make a joke about it and
laugh it off not only your embarrassment
will lessen but it also will help you
come off as more fun to be with say that
you slept on your butt at a party you
can just get up dust your pants and joke
no rips no holes nothing to see here
people carry on in this situation it's
similar to misdirection humor because
people anticipated you to say sorry
about that
or something along those lines but
instead you misdirected them with
something surprisingly positive for
yourself almost a hundred percent of the
time you'll find other people laughing
with you and not at you and finally we
have affiliated humor this is a way of
amusing others to facilitate
relationships and this is a powerful
style to use when you meet people for
the first time this is because it is
positive and inclusive this can work
very well in the workplace it also works
well in any sort of team-building
activities and you can actually use it
at a dance party remember to make other
people laugh you need to be relaxed or
else your audience will not feel relaxed
enough to laugh with you here are some
examples that use affiliated humor that
you can use for starting conversations
excuse me but I do think it's time we
meet this will put a smile on most
people's faces without sounding too
intimidating or you could say what kind
of old person do you want to be this
really intrigues people everyone hopes
to get old and so they will have an
opinion also it will make people smile
because you are talking about old age as
something positive this is
unusual twist on an everyday topic which
will make people interested the third
day you could say is what present would
you buy me if you won the lottery
tomorrow of course if you just met the
person this is funny because they
probably wouldn't buy you a present the
fourth thing you can say is if you
worked at a circus which job would you
want to have this is a good one because
it will test their sense of humor and
light heartedness here's a few tips that
we recommend that you should know about
as well number one try to work the joke
into the context of a conversation
number two don't ask if you want to hear
a joke let it be a surprise number three
have a strategy to fall back on if they
don't get to joke for example I like to
use I guess you had to be there
number four breathe take a breath and
pause before and after the punchline
number five smile and wafer to joke to
sink in really don't be the first one to
laugh and that's pretty much how you can
start using humor effectively into your
future conversations I hope you found
value in this video and I want to say
special thanks to Jake from the inner
game channel thank you so much Chris
it was a huge privilege being here and I
am so grateful for the opportunity click
on the card above or in the link in the
description to visit his channel you'll
find so much value in many of his videos
about attraction psychology which I
found them to be so interesting and if
you like this video please give it a
thumbs up and share it with your friends
be sure to subscribe along terney on
that Bell notification for more upcoming
contests coming up very soon so again
thank you for watching and I'll see you
later
you
[Music]