- Tell me about the worst sex you ever had.
- So I was with this woman, I was gonna go down at her,
pulled her pants off and it was like a popup bush of pubes.
Just.
(classical music)
- [Woman] Who are you and what are you doing here today?
- I'm Siri.
- I'm Bella.
I'm here to drink with a younger gay person.
- [Woman] When I say old gay baby gay.
What do you think that means?
- For me, baby gay is just like,
I am new to the whole environment
of what's like to be gay I guess.
- Older gay.
(group laughing)
I mean, just like I've been around the block.
- Experienced.
- Yeah. Hey, there, that's a very kind way of putting it.
Thank you.
- [Woman] What does experience gay mean?
- That I have gone through the trials and tribulations
of all levels of being, and wanting to be with women.
- [Woman] You wanna start with a drink?
- Yeah.
- Okay. - Yeah.
- You ready?
- Yes. - Okay.
What do you hate about younger gays?
- Hate's a strong word right? Yeah.
What bothers me is-
- That's a good choice.
- Is the fact that I feel like they don't realize
how well off they've got it.
- Oh, wait we know.
- But it's like, they don't really wanna be interested
in maybe a story of an older person.
- The history.
- Because I've gone through some pretty mighty shit.
Do you have any idea how many people
I have punched in the face?
Or had to keep myself from dying
from being attacked or chased?
When people give me shit about missing a pronoun,
I think to myself,
"You know what? I took the fucking god damn punches for yah.
And don't give this older person an fucking shit.
- Fair enough. - Yes.
When did you experience your first gay awakening?
- Oh
- Think very clearly.
- My first gay awakening is probably
my middle school relationship.
There's a girl in my class who I really liked.
I thought we were just friends,
but then she wanted to do a little bit more
and I was like, "Okay yeah, this is fun.
This is good practice. Right?"
Like I'm practicing,
for like a boy.
Yeah. You know like that whole mindset of like,
"Oh let's like kiss and practice, right?"
Eventually got to the point where she's like
"It's just us two girls in a relationship."
Like what?
- What a mind blowing situation?
- Okay. How old were you
when you first had queer Sex?
- Right when I got outta high school.
I slept with a guy because I thought I needed to do this
to figure shit out.
I slept with my best friend's brother.
But it was a gaggle of women
that were always saying the following to me,
"You're a baby dyke Bella."
And I'm like, "What? No, I'm not."
"Yes you are. You'll see."
I ended up sleeping with one of them.
- Did you finish with the guy or the girl?
- The man I took him and said,
"I don't think so.
(both laughing)
With the woman, yes.
Let's drink.
- Yeah.
(laughs)
- Oh gosh.
- Are you a top or a bottom?
- Top.
- There was no in between. No hesitation.
What do you think I am?
- Top.
(both laughing)
- Why do you think that?
- The suit, the hairstyle personality, top energy.
- Yes.
- Can you name all the letters in the queer spectrum
and their definitions?
- Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, queer,
I don't know that word. What is it?
- [Woman] What's the letter?
- Inter- - [Woman] Intersex?
- That's what I was gonna say.
Why didn't I just say it?
It was Inter, and all I had to do was add the word sex.
Do I have to take a shot because I didn't get them all?
- [Woman] Oh yeah.
- Back in the day, it was just,
you were either a dyke or not.
(both laughing)
Tell you three things that you don't like
about straight culture.
- I mean, I hate when like guys approach you
and they're like, "Is that your girlfriend?"
And they want like proof that you guys are dating
or they'll be like, "I can be the exception."
You know?
I think straight girls it's kind of annoying is
when like they know they're straight
but they wanna like make out with you when they're drunk.
- That's a real thing.
- That's kind of annoying. - That's a fucking real thing.
- Okay. If you could come out again, what would you change?
- I would not take the, "I'm going to kick somebody's ass."
If anybody says boo about this.
And I would just let myself experience it
without judgment. I had shame-
- Like you judged yourself?
- Yeah. Judged, shame, guilt, those favorite things.
It would be great to come out and not have those things
so that you actually experienced that time as A,
pleasurable and joyful.
- Celebration. - And a celebration.
Can you teach a me some young queer slang?
- Hey mama.
- What?
- There's like a TikTok where more on the masculine side,
would pull up and be like, "Hey."
- Hey mama.
- Yeah. And they were labeled as hey mama's.
Can you give your best hey mama?
- [Woman] Wait and look right here and do it.
- Okay. Yeah. Hold on.
It's coming to me.
Hey mama.
- Nice.
- How was that?
- That was perfect.
- Thank God I had some whiskey
because that just felt very uncomfortable.
Hey mama.
- One more time.
One more time.
- Oh no.
- Tell me about the worst sex you ever had.
- So I was with this woman.
I was gonna go down on her.
Fold her pants off and it was like a popup bush of pubes.
Just like-
- To like navigate yourself.
- It was terrible.
And I just thought to myself, you're in it to win it Bella,
you gotta keep going.
But the man was the worst.
Followed by the popup bush.
Give me your best LGBTQIA+ hot take.
Do you find yourself to be at all a judgemental person?
- Yeah, but like, it's all in my head.
I won't like flat out say it.
- [Woman] This is your moment. This is it.
I love the queer community.
I think I have to take another shot.
- [Woman] Go ahead and take a shot.
I don't think I have an answer.
- Last question.
Oh boy.
- Okay. What's one piece of advice
you can give me about life.
- All these things that you go through,
all the traumas, it molds who you are, but it means nothing.
You know, the whole point is to really just be true
to your heart. Keep going, you're doing a great job.
You really are.
- Thank you.
- And if I see you in a club, I will say hi to you.
- I will too.
- Okay. - I won't be intimidated.
- Good.
(upbeat music)
- Should we hug?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
Oh my God my legs haven't moved in a while.
- You should not be soar.
(both laughing)