For those who are not INFJs or have never met and understood one, their habits may appear
"strange."
INFJs may have felt guilty at least once in their lives for their typical introverted
behavior, such as desiring to be alone frequently and avoiding small talk, because it seemed "weird,"
which may have made them feel even more embarrassed.
As a result, they may become insecure and self-conscious at workplaces, schools and
in social situations.
All of this can change if they take a closer look at themselves and decide to appreciate
and love their true intuitive, feeling, judging selves.
They should know that the things they are embarrassed over are not in fact actually wrong.
These behaviors are quite typical for them and for any INFJ
or even for other introverted personality types.
If you're an INFJ, you've probably never told anyone about your feelings and emotions because
you believe what you're doing and feeling isn't "correct."
However, in this video, we will address how having certain thoughts and acting in a specific
way is completely normal and that you should never be ashamed of who you are.
That being said, here are 8 weird habits of the INFJ personality type.
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They feel strangely relieved when plans are canceled
Sure, INFJs enjoy their alone time.
It is their most distinguishing feature.
However, they do like to hang out with people on occasion, especially if they are close friends;
even the most introverted among them require a few good relationships to thrive.
While such gatherings may occur just once or twice a week (or less), when they do, they
may be eager to spend time with those they refer to as "their people."
But, if INFJs are being honest, when social arrangements are canceled, they also get this
peculiar emotion – relief combined with happiness.
They keep this emotion to themselves; they will never tell their friends that their last-minute
text is actually a piece of wonderful news.
Canceled arrangements usually spell a ruined evening for extroverted personality types
who derive energy from socializing.
But, while the INFJ may be temporarily disappointed if they were looking forward to the event,
it often turns out to be just another excellent opportunity to spend a quiet evening at home
with a good book... or podcasts, movies, video games, or anything else.
They prefer texting than calling
Almost all INFJs will leave their phones unanswered, even if they are sitting there when the phone rings.
They would rather receive a voicemail message than speak with a live person.
As a result, they prefer texting.
Even the most introverted person might be thrown off by an unexpected text, but believe me,
it is far superior to a phone call.
By their insistent ringing, phone calls demand attention and action, whereas texts can be
left for a few hours and dealt with later.
Many phone calls (or at least the first few moments) are filled with small talk.
Because the majority of INFJs dislike small talk, this quickly sets the tone for the call.
This insane chit chat feels phony, and they're left wondering how much is enough to be polite
before going on to the "genuine" conversation.
They avoid salespeople who are excessively chatty
Online shopping is the best option for the INFJs.
Spending time in a large, noisy shopping mall crammed with people is not a pleasant experience
for them.
What could possibly be worse?
Being in an empty store with a chatty salesperson who persists on lingering about to "assist" them
with their decision.
Sure, it's meant to be polite, but this setting rarely makes INFJs feel at ease.
The pressure, the attention — all they want is to choose what to buy in the same way they
make decisions – quietly and in their own minds by themselves.
As a result, if they must enter a store, they choose those where they can remain unseen,
strolling around without being approached.
Even if they couldn't find what they were looking for, they would sometimes give up
and leave rather than approach a salesperson.
They tell nothing to many and everything to a few
INFJs usually have a few close friends who know everything about them.
All of the other individuals who know the INFJ will only be taught the bare minimum
and will have no knowledge of their personal lives or issues.
INFJs do not seek popularity.
They don't require everyone to know what their name is.
What they actually want are a few solid ties – people who know them inside and out.
They are aware of the INFJs peculiarities, but they continue to associate with them.
They feel comfortable confiding in them, even their darkest thoughts.
And they don't mind the odd awkward silence.
Others may want to tell their acquaintances who they just met about their experiences,
but INFJs prefer not to.
But once they feel a genuine connection with a person, there's no stopping them.
They don't leave until their neighbor has left.
When they are going to leave their home, they may hear or see their neighbor in the hallway
or outside.
Despite having their keys in hand (and possibly being late), they find themselves trapped
in place at their front door.
They could even peer through the peep hole at their neighbors until they leave and their
route is clear.
The strange thing is, their next-door neighbor could be a fantastic person, and this isn't
an attempt to avoid someone they don't like.
Contrary to popular belief, INFJs do not dislike people, but they do dislike being forced to
engage in awkward small talk, which drains their energy quickly.
It's not that they dislike their neighbor; it's just that their energy levels can't take
any more artificial smiles and "how are you?"s of that day.
They avoid spending time alone with people they don't know well.
In social circumstances, the INFJ prefers to be close to their friends, or if they don't
have any, they would rather be alone than spend time with someone they barely know.
For example, they may be with a good friend (someone with whom they are actually comfortable,
which is actually rare for INFJs) when their friend's acquaintance appears unexpectedly.
It feels Fine at first, and they patiently listen to their small talk until their friend's
phone rings or they leave to use the restroom.
They must now initiate a conversation with the other person by transitioning from passive
listener to active speaker - an unexpected challenge.
It may appear to be just a minor matter, but for the INFJ, it can be really awkward, as
they generally require time to warm up to new people.
They pretend not to see an acquaintance in public
Most INFJs have nothing against conversing with others; they're just not always psychologically
prepared.
Interacting with others necessitates a specific mindset and being "charged up" with energy;
it compels them to leave their favorite location - the internal dialogue in their heads.
INFJs have an odd habit of avoiding the spotlight or avoiding unwanted conversations.
A common scenario: they're collecting groceries and simply walking about the shop; everything
is going well until they spot an acquaintance halfway between the fruits and veggies.
If you know an INFJ, you know that their first impulse may be to flee as quickly as possible
before their acquaintance notices them.
"I just came here to acquire groceries, not to talk to people," they reason.
So they simply shift their course and claim they don't require anything.
They morph into extroversion
INFJs are big introverts but when the situation requires it, they can adjust and "pretend"
to be extroverts.
They might find themselves in a situation where they need to be more of an extrovert.
Think at work when they meet a new client or need to do a presentation, or in school
when they are in charge of an event and have to interact with their classmates.
If they're a parent of several children, they must become an extrovert to encourage their
kids to get up and get out the door for school and out the door in the morning.
They can do this easily because of their 4empathic nature so they would know when the circumstance
calls for it.
This can be unusual for people who know them deeply but for the INFJ, they know it is what
must be done.
This personality type isn’t a handicap, and it doesn’t negate the ability to lead..
They can actually put up with it well but it can be rather exhausting.
If they must be an extrovert at work or home, they will find themselves tired and in need
of quiet time at the end of the day.
For INFJs, the most important thing is to accept that their “weird” behaviors and
habits are actually normal and more common than they may realize.
They're not “wrong” for being an INFJ.
It’s okay to save their limited energy and avoid unnecessary interactions that will drain them.
As long as they get their job done and are conscientious of others, they should in no
way feel guilty for having these reactions.