Hi there this is Clay and today we're talking about phase four of the five phases of getting
back together.
These phase is called the crisis point.
So you've gotten past phase three, which is the riding the dragon phase, and this is really
good because now your ex is positive feelings for you are over 50 percent right?
But there's still that little wedge of negative feelings left for you.
And don't worry, we're still going to deal with that, but I just want to explain to you
what's going to happen when you get past that riding a dragon hump and you enter into the
crisis point phase was just phase number four.
So here your ex has predominantly positive feelings for you, right?
They're predominantly positive.
They're aware, they have strong feelings for you.
They're starting to feel their attraction for you again.
They, they, they clearly do like you.
They may, they may even love you, they may even have said they love you, but there's
still that one little sliver of something that's keeping the two of you apart.
So what is that and what's gonna go on here.
Okay, so here really all that's left holding you and your ex back apart is a little tiny
shadow of doubt and a bunch of circumstantial logistical things.
Okay.
Like maybe they broke up with you and got into a rebound relationship and they realize,
okay, you know, I'm with this new person but I still have my ex and I'm kind of feeling
really strong feelings for my ex, but I don't want to break up with this new person because
then I might be that one person who just like goes through like 20 breakups in a month or
something like that and I don't want to be that kind of person because then people are
going to say bad things about me or whatever.
Or I told I just told my friends and family that were broken up and I don't want to go
back out there and tell them that we're back together again until I really know where this
is going.
I don't want to like pull them on this like weird rollercoaster ride of oh they broke
up.
Oh, they're back together.
Oh, they broke up again and all that stuff.
So you can just go to, like follow with these logistical things, you just gotta like be
there to comfort your ex be there, this like those advanced relationship skills, because
they're really going to come into handy again.
So, again, we talk about those over at the, at the website relationshipinnergame.com.
Just go over there and check that out if you haven't already.
There's lots of free cool stuff over there, but that's beside the point.
So basically what you want to do is use those advanced relational skills and really empathize
with your ex, okay?
Because they're going through a really difficult time right now.
That's why we call it the crisis point because they are reaching a crisis in their life where
they have to figure out how to work you into their life.
Okay?
And if you do not have that empathy thing down solid, then you are there.
There's a very good chance that you're going to screw this up and you're going to start
to backslide towards riding a dragon towards test drive towards law of reactance.
All that stuff that you don't want to do.
So again, you want to have a really solid empathy here.
Do you want to understand that your ex going through a difficult time, you want understand
that they're very torn emotionally about what's going on right now.
And again, you want to continue to have those positive interactions that feel good emotionally,
that allow the two of you to connect at a deep, meaningful level.
Okay?
So again, this all ties back to the advanced relational skills.
So go and check that out.
If you have not already a over at relationshipinnergame.com, sign up there will start to tell you all about
all the good stuff.
But yeah, so this is the crisis point.
You get like five feet from the finish lines, who now is not the time to like put pressure
on your ex.
Now is not the time to ask your ex to get back together.
Now is not the time to do any of that stuff because you're already has these strong feelings.
I already know they want to be with you.
They're just trying to figure out how to work you into their life again.
Okay?
And if you put that pressure on, it's just going to make them feel bad, it's not going
to feel good, and they're just gonna like backslide towards some of the earlier phases
and you're gonna have more work cut out for you.
So again, you want to use a lot of empathy, you want to focus on the advanced relational
skills, and that'll take you into the fifth and final phase, which is new beginnings.
Okay, so again, a key.
Keep all this in mind and just be really prepared to have a lot of empathy as you enter into
this part of the game.
And if you haven't already, please go over to a relationshipinnergame.com and sign up
there so we can start helping you get back together with your ex.
Thanks.