This video is about how to get your ex back. Now,
I've done the video a few years ago, but what happens? I got older.
I started experiencing even more things.
And I'm a person who actually went through having to go through the process of trying to get my ex back.
So I'm not just some relationship person that's like, "Oh my God,
you do this, and you do that" and they've never even been through it. When I tell you I've been through it,
I have been through it. So, just to give you a quick rundown, right now if you're watching this video,
I highly recommend you watch this video until the end because I'm really trying to help you. I'm telling you exactly what I did
to get mine back. Okay. Oh, you're probably like oh my god your situation probably wasn't as bad as mine, blah blah blah. Look, I'm gonna -
I'm here to tell you now.
There's a thin line between love and hate. No matter if you're as hates you or they still love you
It's just that same thing because they're still
feeling an emotion for you. Now if they're at the point where they don't feel anything for you
And it's gonna be even harder to get your ex back.
Just to give you a quick rundown because this is really not about me. It's about helping you.
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continue watching it. So, it was years ago
Not only did I have to get my ex back, but I had to get my ex back from somebody else.
I know, it's like it's a double whammy.
Not only are you trying to like prove your love to them?
But, you have to go through a process of pretty much competing with another person that they're actually
interested in. It was the worst. So, did I get them back? Yes I did. Yes
I did. Okay, but um, it was awful.
I've went through the situation - the process of you know, the whole lot of anxiety and depression
And not eating, barely sleeping, and pretty much going through the whole thing of getting rejected,
And being treated like I did something wrong when I didn't and trust me -
I know about all the emotions
you're feeling right now. And right now you have to take a step back and you have to breathe.
Because right now you're acting on impulse. You're panicking right now because you want to hurry and get them back before somebody else
slides in your spot and
gets to do all the things that you're you doing with that person. You don't want your person that you're missing
to move on with another individual so right now,
your mind is in a panic and is it's going crazy right now
But I'm here to tell you. Trust me, things are going to be okay. Now the title of this video:
how to get your ex back. I don't care if you're trying to get a dude back.
I don't care if you're trying to get a girl back.
I don't care if you're straight, lesbian, (or) whatever. The human mind works the exact same way. So,
continue to watch this video. Like I said, if you don't have time to watch this video
go ahead and share it. I mean, bookmark it, give it a thumbs up, put it somewhere where you can watch it later.
I'm telling you it's going to help you. Watch it until to the end.
I'm about to drop some jewels on you. Now like I said, I
did a video about how to get us back a few years ago. I'm going on 27, so I had to be like
23
24 ish, um
And I had already been through this whole
situation so now I'm even older and I get to sit back and I get to analyze what exactly happened in that situation.
Now first thing to getting your ex back, I know
You are going to
Cringe when you hear this. You're gonna cringe - the first step to getting your ex back is letting go.
You're going to be like, Why would I let go and then somebody else can come in and blah blah blah?!
I know how your mind works because I was in that same position.
I was like, I can't let go, I have to keep keep trying and keep trying.
Trust me letting go is gonna be easier for you and easier on them. So this is what happens - the mind right now
You're feeling rejected
Right you have to take all that energy that you're feeling and get it to pass them on to them
You're like why would I want them to feel rejected and then they're gonna think I don't want them blah blah blah? When
someone feels rejected
They are going to go into chase mode. Right now, you were in chase mode, so you and your ex broke up...
They broke up with you, or you did something horrible blah blah blah
I'm gonna give you a couple of scenarios just so you get where I'm going with this. Okay...
Say your ex left you: oh, it's not working anymore. I don't want to be in this relationship
Blah blah blah. What do you do? The first thing you do, you go into panic mode. You're like I did this for you
We're supposed to be together, and I'm this, I'm loyal...
I love you. I would do anything for you. How could you do this to me? Yes. That's our first mind.
That's mindset we go into. You're like oh my god
I've done everything for this person
And they're leaving and I love them so much. First thing,
Even if you haven't even got to the point where they are broken up with you
but they're about to, this is what you do... the first thing you do: agree.
Even if you don't. Like, you know this isn't working out... blah blah blah. You say okay, you're right
This isn't working out. Um. I do agree. I believe that we do need our space.
I wish you the best. Blah blah blah. And it's gonna throw them off. They're gonna be like, this is weird.
What do you mean? Um? What do you mean
this is it's a mutual thing? like you're not supposed to agree with me?
You're supposed to be heartbroken. Basically act like you don't care. Not in a sense that oh, I'm gonna be disrespectful.
No.
You never be disrespectful 'cause it's not necessary
However, agreeing with a person shows your maturity. Like, you have to give them space and you have to give them boundaries.
Now you have to give them a chance to think about if they really want to leave you alone so by you not
showing any emotion
that they're
Expecting it one is gonna throw them off. Two, it's gonna put them in the mindstate of them having to chase you. They're gonna be
be checking up on you, even if they said they were done with you. Trust me. So first step, letting go.
Release. Give them their space. That means no communication, no text messages.
No
emails, calling, FaceTime,
No making up excuses to go and see them. You want them to be checking up on you, thinking about you...
You know what I'm saying? And if you're always in their face or
bothering them or something - they know what you're up to because you're in their face
and you're bothering, and then you're calling and you're buying presents and stuff. Stop it. Take a breather. Get to know yourself again. And
one, during this process of letting go and getting yourself
together, I really want you to sit back and analyze
What went wrong in this -
Relationship? Why isn't it working? Now? It's easy to
Get attached to somebody and don't want to leave that person because they're your comfort zone
However, if the relationship has become toxic. You really have to ask yourself is this relationship for me anyway?
It's not always about just getting back with that person. The first thing that's important is your happiness.
Now, if you somehow just messed up - You still have to give them their space. You have to let go.
I've seen this with my own eyes. I knew somebody that messed up, but without them
even knowing they're like you know what I don't deserve you blah blah blah. I'm gonna give you your space. You deserve to be happy.
I'm go ahead and go get myself together. I wish you nothing but the best.
You know you're a good person blah, blah, blah... and the other person was like, "wait a minute!
You're acting like you know even want me!? Dadadada... And what happened? They got that person back.
They didn't realize they were doing that, but that's what happened when I said back analyze what happened. Okay.
So like I said, first step is letting go. Step two of getting yourself together is getting yourself together. The next time your ex sees you,
you want to be - you want to come off as a brand new person.
Brand new energy, brand new aura, brand new vibe about you, a new haircut, a new something... new wardrobe
It has to be like they're meeting somebody new
for the first time. You can't come and when you finally meet up with this person
Be that same thing that they left in the first place.
It's not gonna work. And if I did not mention it before, if you have already went through the process of
panicking and blowing up their phone, and blah blah blah. I need you to give it two weeks -
fourteen whole days. I said fourteen whole days of no communication at all. Nothing.
Matter of fact, you can write them a letter, send them an email
text them
blah blah blah and
say you know what?
You were right, I've been doing some thinking I've been like, kind of crazy, out of my comfort zone -
I mean out of my element, that's not even me.
I was she nothing but the best, blah blah blah.
Nothing else. So when they get that, and if they respond to you don't say anything.
Don't respond after that because now you want to go into the mode of getting them to think about you all the time...
And getting them to check up on you, getting them to look at your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram - whatever. First step is letting go.
Second step is getting yourself together.
Becoming a brand new person. Work on you. Work on your mental. Go out with your friends. Go have fun
Keep yourself busy. Keeping yourself busy is going to be the thing that's going to
help you the most in this whole situation because if you're at home and you laying
by yourself watching TV. Guess what you're doing? You're thinking. What happens when you think? You get in your feelings. Trust me, I know.
You're at home. You're by yourself. It's quiet.
You're staring at your ceiling, and all these thoughts are going through your head
and you end up crying for no reason.
It's a mess. Keep yourself busy up until you are so tired (that) you want to go to sleep.
Okay. Third thing, third thing. I need to get my numbers together. Third
thing that you need to do to get your ex back. Once you finally - once you guys run into each other... Once you guys
finally get together where you see each other, blah blah blah, keep it short. You have to basically drop little trails.
You're pretty much wheeling them back in, but what you're doing by wheeling them back in -
It's by rejection. Now saying like I said in the beginning,
you don't have to be mean to this person. You don't have to be disrespectful, nasty, anything...
I don't care what there out there saying about you, to you , nothing. You do not stoop to their level during this breakup. If they
want to talk, make sure enough time has went by to where they're in a vulnerable state . Like they
really want to talk to you, 'cause if it's only been a few days - Like like no
I really think we should have some more time apart because if we're going to have a conversation,
I want it to be healthy without any kind of emotions or any yelling or anything like that.
I want to be a grown-up about this situation. The next thing to get my ex back is regain my
happiness without them. When they finally do see you, I want your happiness to be genuine.
I want them to be like, "Dang, like they're really in a good space without me."
Like I wanted to be like that. Now, those are a few tips that I use to get my ex back
Let go. No communication. No nothing. Agree with the break-up. Agree with it.
Even if you don't. Agree with the break-up. Um, three, get yourself together... all the way. Your thoughts
Most important thing in the situation is your mental. You cannot let this situation run you ragged
Because that's what your only one not sleeping at night
Go ahead and get your sleep. Four, become a new person.
Get back to your old self - if your old self was a good person. Know how to live without this person.
Be happy without this person
and if it's meant to be
Then it'll be. That's pretty much the gist of it. I can go on for hours and hours and hours
However, if you need the full step-by-step guide to getting your ex back
I don't care like I said if you're trying to get a woman (or) man. If you're heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual,
I don't care what you are. It's the same thing. The guide I used was so crazy years ago... I um -
I was on the internet searching how to get your ex back. Getting different tips and stuff like that, I ran across this article.
And I was this guy, you know, giving advice about how to get your ex back and I was like, okay?
And he had a guide - a step by step guide.
I remember downloading this guide. And I went through and I was like - at first I was man
How was this stuff gonna work? How is this stuff gonna work? I don't - what?
This is not - this doesn't make any sense to me, but I was like whatever. I'm gonna try it anyway
I remember after the first step, my ex texted me. And this is after like all said and done
he's with somebody else blah blah blah and
I was like, I remember I was laying on my bed
And I got the text and I was like I was like, woah this stuff really does work.
So if you want the guide go ahead and head over to thelovegal.com. You can download it.
It's gonna be a button that takes you to the guide and stuff like that. So go ahead,
download it. I'm telling you this stuff is like crack. It works. I don't know - the dude
that wrote it is a freaking genius. And when I came across the guide again,
I was like I have to tell people about this because I'm starting my relationship channel anyway
Go ahead and hit the subscribe button wherever it is
And I'm gonna be having more videos more advice videos and stuff like that
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