- Heya playa, now that you know that you like your crush
you might be asking yourself, "Am I ready to ask them out?
"Am I ready to go on a date with them?
"How do I really know?"
I'm gonna walk you through a few different things
you can ask yourself beforehand
so you can decide whether or not you're ready
to ask out your crush.
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Now the signs I want to mention here are universal.
So, if you're a girl that likes a boy
or a boy that likes a girl
these are still things you should be looking out for.
The first sign is, do you talk to them frequently?
Whenever you see them in school do you stop
and have a conversation or do you sometimes shoot them a DM
and have a conversation on Snapchat or Instagram?
The point is, if there's no constant flow of communication
going back and forth
then I think jumping to asking them out
is gonna come out of nowhere.
They're gonna feel like, well why would I want to go
out with you and then we're gonna sit there
together awkwardly not having anything to say
if we can't even have a normal conversation
in our day-to-day interaction?
It's sort of a catch 22.
Because you don't talk to them that frequently
it's hard to ask them out on a date,
but because you haven't gone on a date with them one-on-one
and spent that quality time
you don't really know what to talk to them about.
Don't worry, I have a solution for that
that I'm gonna share a little bit later on.
But the second thing you should be looking for is
are they excited to talk to you?
Whenever you engage them in conversation
are they happy, are they in to it, are they sharing things
or are they just giving you one word answers
and kind of paying attention to everyone else.
Just because you talk a lot
doesn't mean its quality conversation.
You want them to really be into
what you guys are talking about.
You want them to give you full on answers,
to ask you questions, to laugh at your jokes,
to want to be around you in that capacity.
So if the only reason they talk to you a lot
is because you're in a group project together
or because you're the only person
they really know in that class
I wouldn't take that as them being
excited about the conversation
and excited to talk to you, you know what I mean?
The third thing you should consider here is
do you feel like you'd be okay
spending one-on-one time with them
or time with the and their friends?
If you don't really feel like that would be
a comfortable position for you,
you feel like it'd just be awkward
and you wouldn't know what to say,
then maybe I would take a step back in asking them out.
Now I know, you want a girlfriend or you want a boyfriend
you want to make it happen but,
if you just don't feel comfortable around them
when you guys are alone, then how can you expect
to start dating?
How can you expect to go out and get food together
or go for walks or just sit and talk
if there's no substance there?
And if you're around their friends
and you just don't feel comfortable,
that's a bridge you should start building first
because if you do start going out with them
you're probably gonna spend a lot of time
around their friends.
Most likely if you guys do start dating
you're not gonna exist ina tiny little vacuum
where it's just you and them.
Your friends are gonna be involved
their friends are gonna be involved.
Other people in the school are gonna see you guys together,
your parents, their parents.
There's a lot of people on the outside
that are gonna play a role in influencing
this type of relationship.
So, if you don't really feel comfortable
with their side of the equation
that might be something you want to work on first.
How can I forget the forth thing which is
a pretty straightforward thing to ask.
Are they even allowed to start dating?
A lot of times you may want to ask someone out.
You may want to have them be your boyfriend or girlfriend
but, they may just not be ready to start dating.
Or their parents just might not allow them to do it.
I would figure out all those little details
before you ask them out.
Because the last thing you want to do
is run into that awkward scenario
where you do ask them out and they tell you
"Ooh yeah, I can't go out with anyone
"because my parents won't let me."
Or, "Uh, I'm just not ready to start dating."
Sometimes people are just getting out of a relationship
or they want to focus on schoolwork.
It's important to know where they stand too.
Just because you want to start dating them
doesn't mean that they're actually ready to do it.
So, get a full scope of things before you act.
And the fifth thing, which should go without saying
but I need to say it here is
are the currently dating someone else?
Just because you're ready to ask them out
and you want to start dating them
doesn't mean that you should.
Because if they're currently dating someone else
I don't think that's a cool thing to do.
I know that you like them and you want to be with them.
And maybe you don't agree with their relationship
or like it but, if they're currently dating someone else
I would be respectful of that.
Because if you were dating that person
you wouldn't want other people
interfering and asking out your
boyfriend or girlfriend, right.
So, are you ready to ask out your crush?
I can't hear you.
I said, Are you ready?
If you are then the next step is to watch the video
that I'm gonna link up right here on the screen.
It talks all about how to make
that first move on your crush.
Also, I'm gonna link a playlist down below it
which has more videos on how to talk to your crush,
how to feel more comfortable.
Everything you may want to work on
before you actually go ahead and do it.
And then now guys, I'll catch you tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.