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what is your love language
relationship counselor Gary Chapman
author of five love languages concluded
after 35 years of marriage counseling
that there are essentially five
emotional love languages in which people
can speak show and understand love
people in relationships often have
different love languages which is why as
couples progress over time they may run
into conflicts when they feel
misunderstood neglected or smothered
common thoughts people may have when
their love languages clash our I wish he
could love me the way I do and if only
she could give me more space does this
sound familiar to you understanding how
the two of you communicate love is
important in order to grow together in
your relationship
here are Chapman's five types of love
languages one words of affirmation this
type of love language involves the use
of words to show that you love someone
someone who prefers this love language
would rather hear you say I love you and
other compliments they value uplifting
words that demonstrate your supportive
and considerate of them harsh negative
and insulting comments should be avoided
because they cut deeply and are easily
forgotten or forgiven too quality time
this love language involves giving your
partner your undivided attention unlike
using words of affirmation someone with
this love language would appreciate it
more if their partner spends time with
them it's normal for schedules to fill
up as you get older with more
responsibilities on your plates but it's
important that you make time in between
to be with your lover distractions
postpone dates or failing to listen
attentively can all make these
individuals feel hurt and disappointed 3
receiving gifts someone with this love
language prefers receiving gifts to feel
loved this doesn't necessarily mean that
the person is materialistic they most
likely find it meaningful or thoughtful
when they know you've stumbled upon
something that reminded you of them it
makes them feel appreciated when you
take the time to
find something bright just for them it's
not about how expensive the gift is or
whether it's a designer brand instead
the individual cares more about how much
you know them for acts of service have
you ever heard of the saying actions
speak louder than words for people with
this love language this particular quote
fits them perfectly these individuals
prefer their partners to help them out
when things get complicated in life
lending a helping hand is the best way
to win their heart it is best advised
not to make broken promises show
laziness or have a poor work ethic
people with this love language often
appreciate the favours you do for them
and value any hard work you do that
shows you were thinking about them five
physical touch this love language
involves everyday physical connections
such as hand-holding hugging cuddling
kissing and any other type of
reaffirming physical contact people who
identify with this loved language prefer
affectionate touches over kind words and
compliments this doesn't necessarily
mean they are aggressive about public
displays of affection but being
touchy-feely with them does make these
individuals feel loved and appreciated
any form of physical abuse or harsh
touching is never tolerated from them
which of these types is your love
language please share your thoughts with
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