Hey there, Adam LoDolce from SexyConfidence.com where I help the 21st century woman create
a love life that she absolutely freaking loves.
And in this video right now I'm going to be talking about how it is that you can make
any man miss you.
Keep watching.
Now, you've probably noticed this by now, but when you're in a relationship you're not
always with that person.
And many times the indicator of a good relationship is less about how he feels about you when
you're around and more about how he feels about you when you're apart.
If when you're apart all he's thinking about is damn, I am so happy to get away from that
bitch, then I assure you whatever relationship you've got going on right now is definitely
not going to last.
But on the other hand, if when you're apart all he can think about is your beautiful face,
I can't wait to see her again, if that's happening then he misses you and you are doing a very
good job.
So here are 5 strategies that will help you be that women that he can't get off his mind.
Number five is be the type of woman he would actually miss.
Humans are actually very simple.
Either we pursue pleasure or we avoid pain.
And if when he's with you he's laughing, he enjoys your company, he's connecting with
you, he's getting complimented when he does the right things, then he's going to feel
pleasure, he's going to enjoy that, he's going to want more.
On the other hand, if he's with you and all he's hearing is nagging for every little thing
that he does or just complaints about you from your girlfriends or you just generally
bring no personality to the table, then all he's going to feel is pain when he's with
you and he's not going to miss you.
So that makes sense.
Number five is be someone who is missable.
Number four is give him some space.
Now, this might sound a little clich� here, but one common theme that I've noticed in
all relationships that either I've been in or that my guy friends have ever been in is
that men usually want a little bit more space than women do.
Men are very different from women.
If he needs a healthy amount of space then you've gotta give it to him.
And if you're finding that you never, ever, ever want space from him, then it's time for
you to start finding things, finding your own little space, finding things that you
can put yourself into and go create your own little space away from him.
It's really, I think, important when two people are together and when... even when they first
start dating to create their own little space, create their own little time away from each
other.
An easy way to not give him space would be to send him this text.
Do you miss me?
And on the other hand, a way to make him miss you would be to send him this text when he's
going out without you.
Have an amazing time tonight.
I'm off with my girlfriends for the night as well.
Speak later.
Bam, now he's gonna be thinking about you all night.
Number three is stop always trying to make him miss you.
Look men aren't stupid.
We know when women are subtly trying to get our attention.
If when you're apart you're doing the following things: tagging him in photos on Facebook,
sending him a Snapchat every 10 minutes to get his attention, texting his friends to
see what they're up to, and, the worst, posting pictures with other guys on Instagram to make
him a little jealous.
If you try to do those things, he's not gonna miss you.
He's going to get frustrated and want to be away from you.
Number two, move even slower than he wants.
Now, let's say you met a guy, you're on a first date.
You are killing it.
You guys are connecting, you're being funny, you're being witty, you're also being elegant,
graceful, confident, all those things.
It's going so well.
If that happens, then leave.
I cannot tell you how many women that I've worked with or I see who are in my unity program,
in my membership program, who tell me this... this kind of story.
I met a guy online recently, had an amazing connection with him.
We didn't sleep together the first night we met, but ended up hanging out the next night
through the weekend.
I met his friends the following week and even his dad came by his house when I was there.
But then last week I texted him and he hasn't responded.
What happened?
He seemed so interested.
What happened is you didn't take control of the pace of the relationship.
You didn't let him miss you.
You gave all of yourself to him right from the start and there was nothing to miss.
A lot of women assume that just because a guy really wants to keep seeing them, especially
in those early stages, that they should always accept.
Right?
Because it's going so well.
So, of course, you've always got to accept.
My advice to you though is to put the brakes on that.
Let him have that space.
Let him yearn for you a little bit because that space is going to allow you to get to
know each other a little bit before...
instead of, of course, just giving in and seeing each other every single night.
You guys are still strangers and then suddenly the entire relationship just burns up into
flames and then he realizes that, you know what?
Maybe it's moving a little bit fast and he wants to slow things down, and then you get
mad and the whole thing ends.
We don't want that to happen.
So, again, move slower than he wants.
And finally, leave a little mystery in the conversation.
Now, there's a reason why when we watch a trailer to a movie we can't wait to watch
the movie.
Because we get, of course, a taster of what the movie is all about but we have no idea
what the whole full picture is about.
We certainly don't know how it ends.
Same thing when you're going out and meeting people or when you're on a first couple of
dates.
You don't need to tell him your 3 biggest life accomplishments on that first date.
Spread it out a little bit.
Keep him wanting more.
And when he believes that there's more depth to you, which there should be more depth to
you then, of course, everything you tell someone on a first date, when he knows that he wants
to keep seeing you, then he's going to miss you.
He's gonna want more of that.
He's gonna want to dive into that complex person that is you.
So let me ask you, have you ever tried any of these techniques and have they worked for
you?
I'd love to hear from you in the comments right there below.
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