My family always loved to eat pizza,
pasta, and any kind of I call it garbage food.
This is the ham. Oh, that's the ham.
We buy about five, six boxes of scalloped potatoes,
three, four of these, mix it together,
fantastic meal.
David loves soda, pizza, ice cream.
When David was young, I always got him what he wanted.
I rarely eat green vegetables.
He was a big kid and at 300 pounds, he looked okay.
Looked he was gonna be a good football player
so I didn't say too much.
David in 11th grade dropped out of school
because they were making fun of him, he was fat.
I just kind of let it go.
Looking back, I think I should have been more assertive,
but I don't think I would have done anything different.
Right now, my son David lives off of disability.
I don't make David pay any rent or any bills.
When David wants food,
he orders it online and I go down and pick it up for him.
He doesn't get any sugar sodas 'cause I make sure
if there's sugar sodas in there,
it's stays there at the market.
But I noticed any time you try to control
David's eating, he'll find a way to get food.
(laughing)
He's like a drug addict like an alcoholic.
Voila, Pepsi.
I can't stop my son from eating too much.
I could do better, but I just don't do it.
I think one of the first questions I have for you
is do you recognize that this is a huge health issue, right?
Yes.
And are you concerned about that?
Very concerned.
I said before, every morning I listen to hear him
try to get up or get up 'cause the minute
I hear him get up or cough,
I know he's gonna be alive today.
Well, that's a terrible way to live as a father
to wake up everyday and wonder if your child's
gonna be alive.
But you said something that just did not
fit in my ear.
You said, looking back,
I wouldn't do anything differently.
I don't know.
I know one thing.
If David dies, I'm gonna blame myself no matter what.
I'm just gonna blame myself.
I think I could have probably done something different
or better, but I just don't do it
or I just don't know how to do it
or I'm just not capable of doing it.
Well, that was the second thing that jumped
out at me the most, you said,
I can do better, I just don't.
Sugary sodas, no way, but he just finds a way, ha ha ha.
Like it's funny. Yeah, that was,
that was a, I didn't like that.
I saw that too and it (laughing) didn't look good
for me either, you know so.
If I see him with sugary sodas,
I confiscate them or I don't,
I won't buy them for him.
I pick up his food,
I see anything that's fattening in there,
I won't buy it for him.
Here's what you said.
Voila, Pepsi.
(laughing)
Pepsi and there's another bottle down here
but I'm not sticking my hand
down into what's down there. (laughing)
That's a terrible laugh, but you know,
that's his stash.
He's like a drug addict, you know, alcoholic.
You got your stashes.
David hides stuff from me, I don't see it.
I found that.
I didn't even know that was there.
My question is how is that funny to you?
There's nothing in the world we can do with you
if everybody around you is sabotaging you.
It all comes down to me.
I'm telling you if everybody around you
is buying your (bleeping) and sabotaging you,
it ain't gonna change.
Yeah.
(applauding)
I promise you, there is not one thing
you can do mentally or emotionally,
there's not one thing you can do will power wise.
I call it white knuckling where you're just
gonna get through this just white knuckling.
Willpower is a myth, it's fickle.
When you're all gung ho and fired up, then you're great.
The time that you need to be on task
is when you don't feel like it.
When you don't feel fired up,
when you don't have the energy to get up
and do the things you need to do.
That's when you need to stick with it the most
and that's when willpower let's you down
because willpower is fueled by emotion.
It kind of worked but it didn't really work.
You put in a lot of work and let me tell you,
I salute your work.
That was not easy, you put in a lot of work,
but you didn't finish, you didn't close the loop.