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So what's the real reason behind the way
Olivia Wilde was toxically crazily
served on stage at Comic Con
in Vegas by Jason Sudeikis
with these custody papers
that whole massive drama.
For those of you who don't know
she was on stage last week,
presenting about her brand
new movie and talking about it.
The new movies called
Don't worry darling
and she's literally on stage
and somebody comes up to her
and hands her this manila envelope
and she says is this for me
and it says personal and confidential
on it and she opens it up
and there's papers inside
and puts the papers back inside
and doesn't let on about what they
are and just keeps going on.
Good for her for being a professional about it
really didn't say but it turns out that
they were custody papers related
to custody situation between
her and her ex-fiance
Ted Lasso star
Jason Sudeikis related to the two
small children that she has with him.
Apparently they had a pretty messy breakup.
Not that long ago I guess
toward the end of 2020
when she moved on with Harry Styles who
she's in a relationship with now.
Word on the street is that he was pretty
much blindsided by that breakup
he didn't really want it.
I guess he's moved on now
with a couple of other people
I don't know.
There's been talk that he
was with this model Keeley.
Somebody that who had been on Ted lasso,
he was on with her off
with her back on with her.
I don't know, but I guess he was
pretty well
blindsided by that breakup
and wasn't too happy with it.
So I guess the custody situation
between her and him has been not great
and so it's now been time
that he only draw up the custody papers
and have her served with them.
So be that as it may
now it was time for her to be
served with these custody papers.
So what happens that papers need
to be served by a disinterested party
okay.
So that means he
can't hand them to her.
They have to be handed to
her by a process server.
Do they have to be handled to
her on stage while clearly not.
Now for Jason's part,
I guess apparently, after this happened
he did go on to say that
he would never condone
that have happened in that way
that apparently he said,
he didn't know about it,
which is potentially true
because the way it happens with
process servers is just so you all know.
Once the paperwork gets filed,
once the petition is filed
the complaint is filed petition
and complaint or kind of synonymous.
Then everything comes back from the
clerk of court stamped
and ready to go.
you have your summons,
you have your complaints,
you send the package over to the
process server.
Process server
takes it from their process server
now has to go track the person
down and get it to the person.
Sometimes the person avoids being served.
So now they got to figure out a
way to get it to the person.
Now I'm not saying Olivia Wilde
was avoiding being served.
Maybe she wasn't but maybe she was,
who knows?
But they got to find this person.
I mean, I know as a
divorce attorney myself,
I've had to get people coming off
of airplanes on Christmas Eve.
You got to find when you know
the person is going to be in that place
because sometimes it's hard to find people,
you can't get them get
out of their house come out.
It is hard to get people sometimes.
So at least, you know this process
server knew where she was at that point
and you have to serve them in person.
You can't email them
or something like that
and it can't be through with third-party like,
you know, you have to
actually hand it to them
and so I'm sure that was all happening
at that time because once
the a person is served
then the process server
has to go back to the court
and file something that's
called an Affidavit of service.
Meaning that they basically are swearing
to the court that they
actually did serve the person.
So, clearly that process server did do their job.
I mean, they didn't have to humiliate her
in front of the world and do it in that way.
Clearly, but you know, could they
have waited till she was just about
off the stage.
Obviously, they could have done it that way,
but they didn't.
Just so you all know the way family
law procedures do also work
is that once the complaint is filed.
You do have a certain
period of time within which
that the complaint has to be served.
So you can't file it and then leave it
sitting there for two years and then decide.
Okay now I'm going to go ahead and serve it.
So, I think that there are times though
however that people do toxically
want to get the other person that people do
want to use the process service procedure
as an opportunity to
humiliate the other person
as an opportunity to kind
of punish the other person.
It doesn't seem like that was
what was going on here
and clearly when you have to
co-parent with this other person.
You are going to be in the other person's
life for a long period of time forever really
but at least until the kids are out of school.
So you know the real reason behind that
was that she did have to be personally
served by a disinterested party
and I think that the process server
just made a very poor judgment call
Comic-Con did say that they are
re-evaluating their security
and blah blah blah
of course they had to say that
but just so you all understand that
was what was going on.
The custody petition
and the summons did have to be personally
served by a disinterested party
who was the process server
and that process server decided
to do it in that way.
There are times though the people avoid service
and I have seen horrible instances of
people creating horrible situations
where somebody has fled the state
they knew they were going to be served.
They avoided service.
They fled the state.
They went and filed in another state
and then got the other person served first
so that they were able to create leverage
over a narcissist in a different way.
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Anyway, that's the real reason behind
why Olivia Wilde had to be served that way
but did she need to be served
on stage in front of the world.
Probably not.
Could the process server have gotten
her as she was going off stage
I don't know, maybe maybe but maybe he
wouldn't have been able to catch her that way
I don't know.
For sure he was able to do his job
and complete process service
that way and he got it done.
So whoever did it got the job done
that's for sure.
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