This video is about "The Things Fake Friends Do!" I'm gonna reveal FOUR typical things FAKE
friends do, that you need to watch out for! To find out more please stay tuned to this video!
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To some people friendships are all they have! Especially if they've not got many family members
or they're single. They can be wonderful things but toxic too. I'm 35 at the point of me recording
this but I had to grow up a lot these last few years! But back in my 20s I was really naive and
I associated with toxic people all the time, from the women I dated, to the friends i associated with
I was hanging out with narcissists, negative people sociopaths etc, because I desperately sought their
attention, validation, and more to the point where I would actually embarrass and ridicule myself
for their time! I could always tell something was not quite right... Here's the cold hard truth =
There are different types of people in this big bad world = some good, some bad, some positive
some negative, some genuine and some toxic! We are what we attract and due to abandonment
issues, insecurity and that key word again being NAIVE I attracted the wrong people!
I had THREE separate BEST friends in my 20s who all ended up betraying and hurting me! They
broke my heart to the point I had to cut them out one by one! It was all over different periods
of that decade and over different things! To lose one best friend that's tough, to lose three I can't
even begin to tell you how painful that was! But what is a fake friend? A fake friend is someone who
only uses you for their own benefits! They fall firmly under the toxic category in my opinion
and just like toxic family dynamics or romantic relationships, the principle still rings true
and that is "you'll never be good enough for the wrong person!" Your friend who might be fake does
not see you the same way you see them! There's an uneven balance, you may have them on a pedestal
and they wish to always keep it that way! I obviously suggest walking away and seeking
genuine people instead! But regardless here are the things fake friends typically do...
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Now let's talk about emotional dishonesty with fake friends which basically is "lying by omission."
Fake friends are FAKE, they say something that is fake which is a lie, encourage it, their morals are
fake, which are lies. When it comes to emotions which plays a huge role in ALL relationships
they are nothing but dishonest! Have you ever been sat opposite your friend and
they're distant and cold, not really present, not really listening to you? You ask them how they are
but you get one word answers? Or you insist on them telling the truth and they say "oh it's
work or something else is bothering me at home..." When in fact, I'm sorry to actually tell you this
the problem they might be having with is YOU overall! Remember the fake friend is FAKE it's
in their natural nature! They can only keep up the act for so long until the mask slips,
until the true intentions, opinions and feelings about you bubble up from under the surface!
This could be typically in the form of projection, where narcissists may scream and shout
their OWN insecurities when in fact they're just basically telling you how they really feel
about YOU! They may say "you're a loser or you've never done anything worthwhile, or you're never
going to get a relationship romantically, or no one actually really cares about you,
you know what you're really annoying, do you know what you're an awful person, I hate you!!"
For any friend to say such things those are personal attacks! It reveals their true nature and
this normally can come after a setback in their lives or if they get really drunk, or feel you're
doing well in life, and they want to bring you back down to THEIR level! Where they want to keep you!
NOBODY deserves to be spoken to or treated like that! Nobody! I get once in a blue moon
you might have a big fight and say things you don't really mean, that's in the spirit of a
moment, you're being emotional! But fake friends are always 100% of the time emotionally dishonest!
Now fake friends can have a real negative effect on our mental health, which is why I want to tell
you about Betterhelp! Ive personally used Betterhelp and I found it SO effective for
Turning my Life Around after dealing with fake friends! It's an online portal that provides direct
to consumer access to behavioral health services! The online counseling and therapy services
are all provided through web-based interaction such as phone and text communication!
Betterhelp gives you FOUR live sessions a month and unlimited messaging
in between sessions, as well as access to group therapy webinars that are updated weekly!
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link is in the description below! The fake friend is NOT really listening to you, especially when
you vent your struggles, your life, your goals everything! It's like talking to a brick wall!
Your voice is NOT going to be heard! Your feelings don't matter your opinion, your stance on things, I
omce remember going to dinner years ago with a fake friend who turned up late, was miserable and
disinterested in anything I had to say! I was going for a rough period and decided to open up! I said
to him "I've signed up to Betterhelp for therapy, I just feel it will help me in these difficult times..."
He said nothing and just stuffed his face with food, then he started asking me if i was gonna go
have a beer with him at a pub around the corner? It was like I didn't exist, yes it was heavy and
quite intense what I told him, but he was my close friend, why would he not want to respond to that?
I felt naked, bare, exposed as I shared more things about my life, again he didn't listen and asked
about trivial things like the gym, cars, the weather... This was not a one-off thing but every single time
I talked to him about my personal life and the subject just so happened to not be him, so he
didn't care! I confronted him on it and he said "oh therapy, oh you're struggling, I had no idea..."
They don't want to listen, no fake people don't want to listen to anyone or anything that doesn't
suit them! They're undeniably selfish, incredibly self-centered, immature and extremely fake!
Sometimes the fake friend will make out they ARE listening to you and may offer throwaway
comments like "oh sorry you feel that way, oh I hear you, oh I'm getting everything you're saying,"
and the moment you hang up the phone or stop talking, they have not taken in
a single ounce of information from your conversation!
Focus on the GENUINE people who care and listen. Those who lend an ear and remember
what you have to say and can be empathetic if you're going through any form of difficult time!
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Another extremely annoying and painful thing fake friends do is they go MIA...
"Missing in action," typically when you need them most! They are master manipulators, playing on your
emotions, promising the earth saying "let's do this! let's do that!" Then they ghost you, leave you on read,
ignore you completely! You try to reach out but it goes to voicemail... Sometimes this could be
for weeks, sometimes months, and maybe even years! You might confront them "did I do anything wrong?!"
God forbid if something happened to you?! Where have you been all this time?! What is going on?!"
Your efforts will typically fall on deaf ears, they're NOT interested in you
they're more focused on themselves, other people, drama, other BS! THEN when you least expect it
after you've been isolated, completely abandoned, let down, betrayed, you get the following =
"Hey you, it's been too long! Where the hell have you been? What have you been up to?!"
"Why have you been in touch with me?? I haven't seen you in ages!!!"
The NERVE of the fake friend deflecting it back on you, like YOU were the problem! You were the one
that went MIA instead of them! STOP wasting time with such people! However I learned something very
interesting about fake people on this topic too they typically treat EVERYONE else this way too!
So don't feel singled out, don't feel like it's personal, as such! They are SUCH idiots
that they treat almost EVERY friend, family member, acquaintances in their life with SUCH disrespect,
immaturity and ignorance! It is THEIR loss that they do not respect a consistent, emotionally
stable, lovely person like you in their life! Let them go MIA and good riddance to them as well!
Lastly of ALL the things fake friends, do this one will cut like a knife...
and be the most bitter pill to swallow = they don't have your best interest at heart,
or want you to be successful, happy, or living well... and because of their sick, twisted, and fake logic
they'll do anything they do to sabotage your life! One step at a time! It may come in the
form of awful advice, if you speak to them they'll say "are you sure you want to date that person? are
"you ready to buy a home? I think you can afford a car, so why would you want to start a business?"
"are you sure you're ready to get married?" The fake person plants seeds of doubt, insecurity
and fear into their victims, which can result in the latter potentially spiraling out of control...
When I was going through a rough patch in life, ONE fake friend said "party, get drunk, sleep around
blow your money! YOLO!" (I'm not a YOLO guy) "You deserve it, you've been given a bad hand! Go crazy
"stay out all night! You gotta live!" And one night when I was sad, broken, hungover, in debt, feeling
worse, I called this fake friend and told them "your advice has made me feel worse, I'm suffering
"No you're not!" they said, "this is all fun! I'm enjoying hearing your crazy stories, the partying
and so on" Translation = "I'm getting pleasure in your pain, I love watching you be miserable, I love the
fact my life is better than yours!" How sick is that? Why do you want to spend your precious life
around a person who wants you to fail? Who wants you to be miserable? Who enjoys in your suffering?
At the end of the day the choice is yours but I sure as hell know what I would do with
any fake person, including a friend moving forward, and that is cut them out of my life for good!