all right everyone it's time for what's
the buzz and fresh off of Mother's Day
we are talking about kids and their
parents specifically adult kids coming
back home to live with their parents
good old mom and dad and talking us to
us today our Kim Trent a writer in
region with Wayne State University
Blaine Fowler the host of the Blaine
Fowler morning show on 96.3 w DVD and
marlin page a technology strategist and
founder of sisters code thanks guys for
being here and thank you this is always
an interesting topic adult children come
home to live with their parents during
or after college or you know do the
rules change that's what I want to know
with adult children do they have to
follow set rules up by their parents or
can they do their own thing I think I
know the answer for us there really
weren't any rules per se just common
courtesy if you're gonna go someplace if
you're gonna be someplace let us know
let us know in advance I don't wanna
find out while you're there and as far
as how late you're staying out and who
there's not bring you're not bringing
anyone home that's not happening and but
you're welcome to stay out till 1:00 or
two if necessary but you know don't push
it just don't you got a good thing going
here what about paying rent kids have to
if they're coming why don't you mention
this well I mean now my kids are not my
kids are why my daughter just graduated
college this weekend three point eight
nine nine minutes he landed a job
amazing so very very proud dad that's
okay that's me she came home for three
months is she paying rent no no okay
okay Marla I agree if they come home and
they have done what they're supposed to
do in college then you don't have to pay
rent if not then yes okay
listen I knew of a family where the
parents were like no no you're not gonna
pay any rent here because I don't want
you to think you have any authority up
in here like what we say still goes yeah
and you know when you go out and get
your own place you do what you want to
do right because if they're paying rent
then they think they have more friends
used to say you know I don't when I came
home I don't want you to be comfortable
here I cannot be comfortable you are
here for a set amount of time if you get
comfortable you will not leave okay okay
I get it there's like a buffer period
between college graduation and then
getting that first job having enough
money but what about significant others
because now you've got a boyfriend girl
no I already know the answer it's not
gonna happen I mean here's the thing
like my my son's got a girlfriend okay
and she lives out of state and she came
and visited for a weekend last summer
okay are they staying in the same no
okay we have a guest room don't have
that guest room is somebody living on
one house on account is that you that
would be every night I think depends on
the nature of the relationship okay so
if you're talking about a 35 year old
child
Wow should there be a 35 year old child
living at home okay that's not fair
there are a lot of people who you know
they might be in the process of buying a
home and a lot of mature people who had
to go stay home for a few months Kim was
like what
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here's a question though let's say like
for your daughter okay she has a
boyfriend yeah they're not they're not
sharing the same room or anything right
what about for your son does it matter
the gender this is where you guys the
same rules apply to both okay that's
really it really swear to God yeah I
have brothers and I'm always like with
my mom a dad but you never did that for
a brighter area what's different it is I
mean let's be honest traditionally the
boys the brothers the male cousins and
so on got away with a lot more right
than any girl was getting away with with
much more than I absolutely - okay I'm
the youngest of four there's two girls
two boys right oh yeah I did get away
with would it be different would you be
a little bit more easy be honest I love
it I love it thank you guys so much