-Hi. In this video,
we're going to talk about three ways you can be irresistible to him
using your eyes.
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Hi there Mat Shaffer, your empowerment, connection, and relationship coach here.
I am a former attorney who's committed his life to supporting women like you
and creating the fun fulfilling dynamic relationships and connections
with men that you are so worthy of.
I'm excited about today's topic, three tips to really use eye contact
and your eyes to be irresistible to men
and to create a deeper connection with them.
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Let's dig into this.
I want to start off by really helping you understand
why your eyes are one of your greatest superpowers,
especially when it comes to connecting with men because men,
a lot of us,
we're not very good with verbal communication and verbal intimacy.
One of the most powerful tools you have to connect with men and foster intimacy
with men at all stages of a relationship is
your eye contact and the way that you use your eyes
to build that connection with men.
If you do this consciously you have an incredible,
powerful tool at your disposal to evoke and invite and activate a man
to connect with you at a deeper level.
I'm going to give you three ways you can use your eyes
in different situations to foster the connections you want with men.
Here goes.
The first way to use your eyes to be irresistible to a man
is as an invitation for him to approach you.
This would be in any social environment, maybe you're at a party,
maybe you're at a bar, maybe you're at the supermarket,
it doesn't matter and it definitely does not need to be a social gathering
where you're supposed to meet people.
Eye contact creates a powerful connection and a powerful invitation to men.
Anytime you see or acknowledge a man, it's making me an invitation to him.
If you notice a man that you would like to approach you,
that you would like to connect with in a deeper way,
go out of your way to make eye contact with him.
Go ahead and look at him for five seconds,
10 seconds, do a sustained gaze, in a discreet way,
and wait for him to catch your gaze, and then hold it.
It's so important that if a man catches your gaze,
that you hold it for just a little while to indicate that you want that connection.
By holding his gaze, in that moment, for however long it lasts,
three seconds, four seconds, five seconds,
you are making a powerful invitation for him to approach you and talk to you
and connect with you.
The greatest way for you to indicate and let him know that you're happy
with the sustained gaze is by smiling just a little bit.
That should really help him get the point that you are asking him non-verbally
to approach you and connect with you,
but the eyes are the most important part of that process,
they are the bridge of connection.
You can use your gaze,
you can use eye contact with a man as a way of inviting him towards you.
When you do that effectively, it is completely irresistible to men.
The second powerful way to use your eyes in an irresistible way with men
is in a regular eye-gazing with your partner.
I know that might sound a little scary but trust me,
it doesn't have to be.
It has been scientifically proven that when two people who are in a relationship
do some eye-gazing work with each other, some sustained eye contact,
it deepens connection, it deepens feelings,
and it actually deepens the relationship.
You don't even need to talk about it with him ahead of time,
just one day when you're sitting around or you're laying around having
a lazy Sunday instead of just staring at the TV and staring at Netflix,
just get all into his lap, get in front of him,
and do a little eye-gazing with him.
Play with him with it, and if he asks you what you're doing,
just tell him, "I just love looking at you,
and why don't we just try this a little bit?"
Let him know how good it feels to look into his eyes and.
If you invite him up with a powerful feeling statement like that,
he's going to be much more inclined to like play along with you.
To him, it might be scary at first for men who aren't used to eye-gazing.
It's something that could be a little intimidating in the very beginning
because it can be really vulnerable,
and a lot of feelings and emotions can come up as you really connect
with your partner at that level.
If you're able to do this and if you're able to get into a habit
in a pattern of doing eye-gazing with your partner on a regular basis,
it's going to foster more trust,
it's going to foster more connection,
and its really going to deepen your relationship in a meaningful way.
If you want to become truly irresistible to a man you're dating,
even if you're not dating him seriously, it's a great way to do that.
I encourage you to use your eyes and do eye-gazing with him,
and just make it like a fun playful part of your routine with a guy
that you're getting to know.
The third really powerful way to use your eyes to be irresistible to a man
is when you are making love.
When you are in the act of connecting with a man physically.
It doesn't even need to be just during sex,
it can be during foreplay or making out or during any aspect
of the physical process but when you make eye contact
with a man while you're engaged in physical intimacy with him,
it adds an entirely new layer of connection to the experience.
It's often a time when men's walls are mostly down.
Because they're in that physical experience with you,
they're more present, they're more connected.
They're going to be more open to connecting with you at that level.
It can take the entire experience to a totally different place.
If you want to supercharge your sex life and create an entirely new type of bond
and connection with a man while you're with him physically,
start playing with eye contact.
If he's a little resistant to it or maybe he's not getting it
that you want to make eye contact with him,
take your hands and guide his head into alignment with yours,
and let him know, non-verbally,
through the way that you're engaging with him that you want to feel his gaze
while you're feeling him in every other way.
Recognize that if you're able to start using your eyes
and using eye contact during physical intimacy,
it's going to take the experience to a totally new incredible place.
As you can tell, your eyes are incredibly powerful,
and they're a really effective way for you to deepen your connection
and experiences with men.
There are three ways you can use them to be irresistible with men
that you want to get to know or that you are getting to know.
The first way, of course,
is to use your eyes as an invitation to make eye contact with a man
that you want to approach you,
and then use a smile to let him know that you're enjoying this connection
and that you want to deepen it further.
The second way is to use regular eye gazing
with a man that you're dating or in a relationship
with to deepen connection.
Make it a game, use it as a way of playing with him,
and see how much more emotional and connected you too can become
by incorporating this into your routine.
The third way, of course,
is to use eye contact when you're engaged in physical intimacy with a man.
When you're making love to him.
When you're engaged in foreplay.
There are a few times a man is going to feel more awestruck
than when you're connecting with him and you're looking up at him
during some physical intimacy.
It's a really powerful moment for a man and it's a time
where his walls are usually already more down,
so it can be very emotional for him in the heat of that experience.
Get out there and use your superpower,
your big beautiful eyes to create the connections and meaningful experiences
with men that I know you crave.
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