- I have something to tell you,
and that is that your childhood trauma
or your trauma in general,
is a gift.
You might not be aware of it yet, but it is a gift.
Once you unwrap it and you look at it and you realize
that that's what it is.
Now, I look to my own life, what I do for a living,
making YouTube videos,
helping people understand more about who they are,
and I can very clearly see
that I would not be doing what I am doing right now,
maybe I even wouldn't be as successful as I am right now,
if it wasn't for the childhood trauma that I went through
when I was younger.
And once I started to transform
and in a way unwrap the gift of trauma,
that's when my whole entire life transformed.
So in this video,
I'm gonna show you how your trauma
is a gift.
And it is something that in a way is going to propel you
into the life that you can maybe even not really imagine
right now.
And I'm gonna show you how I did that.
How some of my friends have done that, as well.
And how that trauma has literally become,
one of the best things that has happened
because it has spawned through it,
so much good things.
So in this video,
I'm gonna show you exactly what that is.
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Welcome back to another video.
My name's Aaron and I help people
expand their consciousness.
Now in this video, I'm gonna be showing you
how I believe my childhood trauma,
and many of you may know of my story
if you've been watching my videos for a while,
But when I look back at the different things I experienced,
at first, before I went through my transformation
back in twenty twelve,
one of the big ones.
I went through a spiritual awakening,
I saw my past as this inconvenient thing,
it was very far from a gift.
If anything, I felt like it was a curse.
And I felt like it was something that was holding me back.
It was working at, the time when I have my transformation,
I was working at Nordstrom's in women's shoes.
I was feeling a lot of resistance, I was feeling,
I knew I wasn't where I wanted to be.
I had a manager that was the same energy dynamic
as my ex-stepmom,
and I was replaying this patterns over and over again.
And what I mean by that is, I had an ex-stepmom
from seven to fifteen years old
who was a, we can actually even back up before then.
Seven to fifteen years old,
I had the abusive ex-stepmom in my life.
She was mentally, physically, and emotionally abusive.
If my brother and I wanted to go to a school activity,
ninety percent of the time get it taken away for something
really dumb that we did or didn't do.
And normally, we were just locked outside
doing chores all day.
We weren't allowed to have friends,
we weren't allowed to watch TV.
We're given a bowl of cereal in the morning
and a TV dinner at night.
And we were very skinny, malnourished.
And up until fifteen, sixteen,
I was fifteen, sixteen my brother was like
thirteen, fourteen, my dad divorced her
and finally, my brother and I had all this freedom.
However, I kept attracting similar woman into my life
that were like my ex-stepmom.
It's almost like I was comfortable being around women
that wanted to control me.
I had a girlfriend that was very jealous
and always mad at everything I was doing,
just like my ex-stepmom.
And then after that, I had a manager
at Nordstrom's in women's shoes that was the same
personality structures my ex-stepmom.
It wasn't until I healed and I started to unpack that trauma
that then that manager got fired.
We tried getting her fired for years, but we couldn't
because she was protected by upper management.
But even if you bring this further back,
I had this realization recently when doing something called
Plant medicine where it kind of helps,
sometimes it can for some people help unpack trauma.
And I became aware that even before my ex-stepmom,
when I was two or three years old,
when my brother was born,
I was before that the only child.
When my brother was born,
all the attention shifted from me to my brother
because my brother had a lot of stuff going on.
He had asthma, he was in a hospital every two weeks
and I then felt very alone.
I felt like there's something wrong with me.
I wasn't getting the attention that I felt like I need
and I felt like I was unworthy.
And as I look back, I can now see
that that childhood trauma right there
of feeling a lack of attention
and a lack of significance,
is something that drove me,
even though my mom didn't mean it.
My mom didn't know, our parents are always doing
the best they can, but in a way I felt very alone
and that caused me to then feel not worthy.
That childhood trauma right there though,
is one of the things that I think propelled me
to take massive action in making a YouTube channel
that got millions subscribers or a hundred million views.
It was how can I, on one hand help as many people as I can,
but on the other hand this helps me feel significant.
This helps me feel noticed and this is giving me attention.
So in a way, the mother wound
from when I was two or three years old is a reflection
of the YouTube channel,
which is then trying to fill up the hole of me feeling
worthy, whole, and complete.
I became aware of this a couple months ago and I was
then looking at it and starting to question
"can I feel worthy for just being me?"
Now, that is a huge epiphany that I have had recently
so maybe, that is really what motivated me,
to not just help people, but also to get that sense of
filling up that hole.
And another aspect of this is
the trauma that I experienced when I was a kid as well.
Now for a long time it was a curse though.
I wasn't taking action with the YouTube videos,
I wasn't taking action with trying to help people,
it was just like this thing that was hovering over me
like the ex-step mom thing.
Wondering and thinking "there's something wrong with me",
feeling not worthy.
However, there is another aspect to this as well.
Most people that have been through
a lot of trauma growing up, or even just any trauma at all,
that is pressure from the gift, that is the pressure
and as we start to become aware of it,
it causes a spiritual awakening.
So most souls, that are advanced souls
and we don't have to think of this as some significant
more advance than someone else because I've had more trauma,
but in a way, a lot of us that came here to wake up,
we came here,
decided to go through the trauma earlier on in life
because it created pressure for us to wake up later
or earlier for other people.
So, congratulations if you've been through trauma,
because normally and most likely that has caused you to
then have this pressure inside of you to then go through a
process of spiritual awakening.
And if you've followed my channel,
you've probably either gone through one,
about to go through one, or are going through one.
So a spiritual awakening is where you become aware
that you are more than just this 3-D physical body.
You are an eternal spiritual being
having a temporary life experience, human experience.
And that trauma can catapult that realization,
because I believe that we come here,
we forget who we are as eternal spiritual beings,
to then remember who we are.
Trauma is a way of getting us
to do work, to create pressure for us to become aware
of that. So there, it's a gift right there.
Now, another aspect of this though,
I was talking to my buddy Victor about this.
Many of you know Victor Otto, he's my best friend.
He also, had a crazy childhood trauma experience.
He, what he went through,
is he was with his parents, chilling when he was young
and he had a firecracker that went off
and it completely exploded.
He was at like a neighborhood thing in like the cul-de-sac
and one of the fireworks was getting ready to go up
and it fell, it hit Victor in his chest and it burned
a lot of his skin,
it burned a lot of his skin on his arm, on his chest.
It was very traumatizing for both him and his family.
He almost died from it, he was in shock,
he ended up going and having to wear this suit that was
humiliating.
He had to wear a suit to school for weeks and like this
brace thing and it was a very traumatic experience.
However, talking to Victor about this, we both can look at
these traumas and see how they catapulted us in our own ways
towards growth.
You know, he became a personal trainer.
Maybe he wanted to get his body show in check,
because maybe part of him felt like this was something that
was holding him back,
so maybe he tried compensating that way.
You know, we were kinda talking about that and he became
very serious about the body and he got very big,
got muscular and then he became a personal trainer.
And even know, he teaches people,
you know, how to navigate through
their spiritual awakening process.
But what he does is a lot of it is around the body.
You know, he helps a lot of empathic people that
maybe are healing through their body and you know,
he's working through his trauma now more than ever.
I'm very proud of him,
but we can both see how this has caused a certain level
of pressure to maybe wake up.
And to go to a spiritual awakening,
but also to help other people.
So many people that have been through trauma,
become people that add value to other people.
Now, if you looked to a lot of successful people on
the planet as well, many many many successful people
have been through childhood trauma
and that has catapulted them to then do something about it,
to then change.
Now, here's the challenge though.
Sometimes we stay in the childhood trauma.
I could keep trying to fill the cup of feeling
significant and getting more and more subs.
But guess what, eventually that would feel empty
or eventually that would be something
that I'd have to process.
So one of the ways we process our trauma,
one of the ways that we unwrap the gift of trauma
is we become aware of it and we start to see it
literally as something that we can start to give
new meaning to.
Back in the past, it was a curse
of a this whole thing of my childhood, but then I started
to see that you know, this led me to a spiritual awakening.
And that because a gift, in a way, I was able to
forgive my ex-step mom.
I was able to forgive my parents for not knowing or
for, you know, my interpretations of different things.
But as I gave it a new meaning, it transformed the
affects that I had out of it.
But the key to this, is giving it a new meaning.
How do you relate to your trauma?
Is it this horrible thing that happened to you and
screw this person and screw this person because if so,
its negatively charged.
That negative charge is causing you to attract people
into your life to keep replaying the same trauma.
This is why they say in relationships, in love,
we trauma bond ourselves to these people
that replay the same patterns that we had with our parents.
So sometimes, people will, maybe they had somebody that
one of their parents cheated on the other.
So they tend to attract somebody that cheats on them.
Because they're not aware of that childhood trauma.
But that could be a gift, it's something you can go in,
you can heel yourself, you can become aware, you can feel
the energy.
A lot of this is a mixture of becoming aware of the gift,
giving it new meaning, and then feeling what comes up.
You know, the way that animals work,
is when animals are in the wild,
lets say gazelles being chased. By a lion.
What happens is, before the gazelle, after it gets away
from the lion, before the gazelle goes back into the heard,
it will shake and do this crazy, this crazy routine.
Because it's shaking out the trauma.
Its feeling it and it's allowing it to go through.
And what happens is, then it goes back into the heard
and then it doesn't bring that trauma with it.
Doesn't carry it around.
Where as humans, what we do, we go through trauma
and we carry it in our body. We keep identifying with it.
We don't actually feel it.
And that's why the feeling is the healing.
And this is one of the most important thing
with this process, is becoming aware of it as a gift,
giving it new meaning and then starting to see
what can you do with this?
How can you let it motivate you in a different way?
It doesn't mean you need to use it in a way like,
"oh I'm not worthy for my childhood trauma, maybe I should
create a YouTube channel and get a lot of attention."
But you can then start to see, I looked back
and I can see how these things actually served me
and now I can come at it from the frame that I'm worthy
with just being me.
Now I don't care, what people think.
Now I can make videos on whatever I want to talk about.
And it's an interesting way of relating to it, but
there's a new sense of freedom in there, but feel it
to heal it.
I have a meditation that is on feeling one hundred percent
worthy, whole, and complete on completing the past.
When you feel it, you heal it.
Listen to this meditation for twenty one days
and watch how it begins to transform your life.
I also have a inner child meditation for healing your
inner child.
If you go to aarondoughty.com/child,
it is a meditation where you energetically go to
Kauai, Hawaii and heal your inner child.
Its very powerful, it's like a live activation
or it was a live activation.
You do that, do that for twenty one days
and watch what happens there.
So, aarondaughty.com/child or listen to this meditation
below for twenty one days it's on YouTube
and other than that
I hope you guys enjoyed this video.
Like this video if you like videos like this that are just
more raw.
If you feel like you just became aware and start to see
how your trauma's a gift and comment below.
How can you maybe see your trauma as a gift?
How can you give it a new meaning?
Comment below, let's all share, let's declare it
and other than that,
I'll talk to you guys in the next video.
Peace, much love, and namaste.