I was curious about the concept of emotional repression.
hat I'm getting from this work is that we have negative emotions,
and we put out an emotional signature of what we want to create.
Every time something comes that goes against that, we change,
and we go back to our original plan.
But if we have somebody with trauma from their past,
and there's a repression there,
they're trying to avoid it,
how does that fit in this type of work?
Parts of it sound like repression,
and other parts sound like creation.
At what point do we separate the two?
Have you ever heard me say that emotions are bad?
No.
Have you?
No, emotions are the end product of an experience.
So then, do I react in my life?
Yep, I do.
But the question is,
how long are you going to react?
That's the real question.
Because if you keep that emotional reaction going on for an extended period of time,
sooner or later it will become your identity.
And then people say, "Why are you so bitter? Why are you so frustrated? Why are you suffering so much?"
Your brain, in that emotion, you're in the emotion, which means you're in the chemical residue of the past
is going to call up the event because you're emotionally connected to it.
And you're going to say, "I'm this way because of that past experience."
So then imagine what I do with people.
We have people that have been abused.
We have people that've been traumatized, that've been assaulted.
We have people that've had very, very difficult pasts.
Have you ever heard me say to revisit the event?
Have you ever heard me say that?
Never do we need to revisit the event because once you do, you open the box.
But what we want to do is overcome the emotion because that's just what's lasting from the event.
You sit a person down, and the moment you sit them down, what do you think the body is going to do?
It's going to look for something to recreate that emotion because that's the person's identity.
Are you with me still?
If I inspire the person to sit there, and they're sitting there,
and all of a sudden they're noticing that they're hot,
and they're irritated, and their stomach is twisting.
All of a sudden, it's a group of sensations,
a group of feelings
that they have called all along frustration,
but the different sensations, the moment you name it, it becomes an emotion.
But what it is, is just bodily sensations.
It's energy that's stuck in the body, so the body is looking to go back to the past. It's believing it's in the past.
Are you with me still?
So if the person becomes aware that their body is doing that,
and like training an animal, allow the body to feel that emotion, and then settle it down into the present moment,
when you settle it down into the present moment, the body starts to trust the present moment and move out of the past,
and there's a release of energy.
Then the body goes, "Wait a second, what's going to happen the next moment? Because ..." It starts doing that,
and it starts to try anticipate the future,
and you settle the body back down into the present moment.
Every time you do that, you're telling the body it's no longer the mind,
that you're the mind, and your will is getting greater than the program.
All of a sudden, you start to lower the volume to that emotion.
When you begin to break the addiction to that emotion, the side effect of breaking that addiction is called joy.
It's called freedom.
All of a sudden, the body is saying, "I don't want to be tormented anymore."
Now does that mean you shouldn't grieve over things that you lose?
Grieving is a biological process, it's neural pruning, it's a death of circuitry, it's a death of emotions,
it's the absence, a void of something in your life.
That's important, but in grief, sooner or later you got to come to a greater understanding about death,
a greater understanding about loss, a greater understanding so that you can adapt to those conditions.
Every time I sit with someone, and they start complaining about their life,
and I let them go for a few minutes, and then I go, "Oh ..."
You know what I say to them?
"You only complain about your life when it's not working, and the emotion that you're feeling right now is keeping you connected to the past.
You never do this when your life is working."
So I don't have a problem
with moving though the stages of emotions,
but I also know that what a person really wants more than anything else is to be free.
People want to be free, and I have witnessed transformation on every culture, on every skin color, every shape, every size, every age.
I've witnessed it.
The same radiance that takes place in a person's face, a light behind their eyes,
a different physical presentation of their face is eminent.
It's real.
That person has worked to overcome themselves.
So it's not that we shouldn't feel emotions.
We should feel those emotions and feel them completely, and like a child, get over it though, and just let it out and then go.
When we witness people analyzing their life within some disturbing emotion on the brain scans,
over and over again we saw their brain getting worse, just worse.
I would go, "Excuse me, Hector, what the hell were you doing in there?"
"Oh, I was just caught up with my ex and the kids."
"Well, I want you to know that that's making your brain worse."
So then, when they start reasoning that,
and they understand I'm not going to give them the answer to their problems,
because when a person is suffering, what are they looking for?
They're looking for me to take them out of their suffering.
I can give them the answer,
the correct answer to their problems, and they will argue against me.
They will argue the entire time.
"No, but ... No, but ... No, but ..."
Well, I just say, "Take the ride with me. Give me four days. Give me five days, cross the river.
Get beyond yourself and get beyond that emotion."
The memory without the emotional charge is wisdom,
and that's the name of the game.
Because the soul can't go to the future, can't create a new adventure, can't journey back to source if you're living by some emotion that's keeping you in the past.
The soul doesn't even know what to dream about.
It can't because it's seeing the future through the lens of the past.
So then, when a person starts coming up against themselves, and they're sitting there, and you say, "You create your reality."
"All right. Well, then I'm going to have a thought about what I want."
But they can't control their thoughts.
That's because their body's influencing their mind.
The only way they're going to begin to liberate energy is to be still and to know that they're god,
to be greater than their body.
Every time they settle it back into the present moment, they're lowering the volume to that emotion,
and now they become the mind, and the body is no longer the mind.
When the body is finally free, they'll see possibilities they never saw before.
I've seen it too many times.
All of a sudden, all that person wants to do is be in the present moment and become more happy.
They want more of that.
But living in guilt, or grief, or shame, or unworthiness ...
I had someone tell me they lost a loved one the other day.
I said, "Well, okay, how long have you been grieving?"
"Oh, about a year."
"Really? Okay, well, suppose it was you that left, and you were looking at the person you loved moping around for a year.
What would you say to them after a year if you truly love them?
Get over it and have a happy life. I'm doing great.
Make yourself happy. You really love me?
Live a happy life. That would be the greatest testament of love for each other.
Because if you're suffering, then you're making this hard on me."
So then we always have to update our versions
about reality because it's the only way that we adapt.
Don't believe everything you've read or heard, it just may not be the truth.
There's always a greater truth that you and I can begin to investigate.
Surely someone in eternity has had similar problems as you and I, and they've gotten beyond it. Yes or no?
So study that person.
You want to be wealthy? Study wealthy people.
Don't just have some panacea that you're just going to get wealthy.
Read about wealthy people and find out that they lost everything and failed miserably 20, 50 times.
But what they had is a characteristic, a quality in their personality is they were persistent.
They kept changing, and they kept forgiving and letting go of the past, and kept going.
And when they had all the money they wanted, it was never about the money
it was just about that they could prove to themselves that they can do it.
You and I are no different than that.
But if you can't create a future because of some emotion that keeps you in the past,
you're going to have to square off with that emotion.
When you sit down, and your body has all those physical sensations, and it's getting vigilant,
and it wants to get up, and it wants to move, and you're just going,
"Wow."
You're settling it down, and you're working with it.
You got to agree with me that something greater in you is climbing out of that body.
Something greater in you is awakening.
When you're able to overcome those emotions, truly break the addiction,
don't you know that you'll return back to your life and face the person that betrayed you?
You will see a part of yourself that you used to be that you no longer are, and you're not going to have anything else but love for them.
In fact, you're going to have compassion for them because you're going to realize how stuck they are, and you're liberated and free.
True forgiveness is when you take your attention off somebody because you've overcome the emotion.
That gives them permission to show up differently in your life
because you freed yourself, and you freed them.
All of a sudden, reality begins to unfold in mysterious ways,
and that person shows up and says, "Forgive me, I was so wrong."
You're over it already, and you're just like,
"Go on with it, man. I'm in a new life. I would've never been in this new life if you didn't betray me. Thank you."