It is not that all of us do not know what is right or wrong.
We all are fully aware of it. But somehow, somewhere
this peer pressure, ego, ‘my way of thinking’ prevails. And, somehow, it creates a lot of disturbance.
People blame the youth, that youth is not listening.
But it’s not really, really true. It’s not only youth but also
You try to reason with your parents who are older, right? Would they listen to you? Very rare, very rare
So in order for us to come on the same platform, same dimension,
I have to resonate, I have to speak out for my heart, from the bottom most part of my heart,
the deepest corner of my heart.
And when the listener is also listening from the deepest level of their being
then there can be a bridge we can build, we can come on a common platform.
But my depth and your depth or your depth and your father’s depth or your mother’s depth,
they are not the same.
So there will always be what we call the differential in opinion and we have to respect that.
We have to respect it with all our mind, not oppose it. Problem comes when you say, “No, I will not listen”.
Tell them, “Dad and mommy, I do agree with you, let me think over it”.
Instead of rebelling and fighting it out, and saying , “oh no! You are so wrong.”
Then there are problems, I think. Because, believe me,
there is nobody who is more interested in your life than your own parents.
But somehow, we take panga with them. We think we have a living enemy in our midst which is not the case.
You will realise it when you yourself will become parents.
Let us say, if you want to judge your actions,
fast forward your life and think that you are yourself a grandmother or grandfather.
Having done that, wearing a cap of a grandfather or a grandmother, you put yourself in front of you.
Now you are a grandfather and now you are a youth also, and have a dialogue with yourself
Would you like that?
Or have your granddaughter or a grandson
talk with you the way you are talking now with your parents or grandparents.
Would that be okay? Would you, as grandma and grandpa, like what you are doing
Okay, then you can say, “Okay! Are my actions or thoughts or my ideas justifiable or not?”
It is not that all of us do not know what is right or wrong.
We all are fully aware of it. But somehow, somewhere
this peer pressure, ego, ‘my way of thinking’ prevails. And, somehow, it creates a lot of disturbance.
But when we pause for a moment and meditate and see, “How would I think when I turn 80?”,
then that will give you some idea of your thoughts and direction in which you are proceeding.
Youth, I think, we are neither here nor here. We are learning from our experiences.
World would change immediately if you were born to learn from others' experiences.
For example, if you can learn from others' mistakes, it will be great
but no, I have to make my own mistakes. Nothing wrong with that also.
There are 3 types of individuals or maybe more types but these three stand out a lot
One, who after making mistakes, doesn't even realise that he had made a mistake
And even if someone tells him, “Look, you fool, you are making these mistakes.
You are going in the wrong direction!”
But you keep going, going, and going until you hit the tragedy.
And it is not that you don't know. Inside everyone knows, “I am making a mistake”.
For example, drugs, smoking, any sort of addiction
everyone knows that this is not right, but you are helpless.
Helpless to quit it because that dopamine rush, it is so pleasant you cannot do without it.
Second category of individuals,
who understand after making mistakes that, “Yes, I made a mistake.”
It is quite honest.
In the evening, before finally retiring to bed, if you can make this resolution, “Yes, I made this mistake. But
I will not repeat this again.” There also, there are two categories:
one, who makes mistakes but doesn't make any resolutions
One who makes mistakes and also makes resolutions, ”Now, enough! I will not repeat this again.”
So there is some sort of transformation happening afterwards.
Or, another category can also come in, “o God, sorry, I made this mistake.
I cannot promise you that I will not do this again, but I need your help.”
This will be a very honest thing to say, right? Or you are reading a magazine,
while reading a magazine, sometimes, a photo on the article
is so attractive or the topic or the title of the article is so attractive,
“oh wow, I’m going to read this one”, and after you read one paragraph
you realise it's not going anywhere. “The title is attractive but let me drop this.
We all understand this, we face this every single day.
The moment we realise that this is not right, we drop it.
Another category of a person, even before committing to any act,
even before, mentally when you meditate over what you are going to do next
you will get the answer.
Or you don't have to waste half an hour reading a whole article and making nothing out of it.
So you save a lot of time.
Even a mundane thing of eating or what to cook next or what to watch next
If you give yourself a pause and some sort of a
wakeful thought, awareful attitude towards yourself, “Should I do this? Should I not?”
Follow your heart.
So you will save a lot of time, I am telling you.
And not only save time but you will also end up doing something better,
you will choose something worthwhile. So pausing before you act is a great thing.