I am disgusted what Carter has done to me and my family.
When I found out that my husband
was having a four-year affair,
I was yelling and screaming,
just an utter state of shock.
I saw a text message of my husband
showing himself to his friend,
chatting about having sexual relations.
I could tell that it was from a man,
not a woman,
and I was stunned.
(sinister music)
And he sent a picture to this guy
of himself, of his (bleep).
Of his (dramatic drums).
They were talking about doing things to each other
that I can't even say out loud.
He clearly wanted to be with another man,
doing things with another man,
according to what the texts said.
I decided to call him,
asking what the (bleep) is going on.
And I showed him the picture
and said "Yeah, really, there's no lyin' about this.
"That's you."
(dramatic drums)
The conversation seemed like they knew each other
for some time and very well.
After 17 years, I thought I knew everything
about my husband.
Right now, I don't know who I'm married to.
This is not gonna work until we get completely
to the bottom of it and get completely honest.
(dramatic music)
Well, Carter says he has told Nicole
absolutely everything about his affair.
Well, she disagrees and says he is still lying
and there's more that he is covering up.
(dramatic music)
When I confronted Carter,
Carter tried to tell me he had no idea
what the picture was, what I was talking about.
Absolute utter denial.
First, I did lie,
and then slowly, told her more and more and more.
He insists that he doesn't know
what this guy's name is.
I swear to God, I don't know his name.
I don't believe for a minute that he doesn't know
this guy's name.
I don't believe for a hot minute.
He just has his phone number.
But he's had his phone number
for 17 years.
Who does that?
Hey, I'm gonna hook up with this guy again.
I'm having troubles.
We're not having a great marriage right now.
What?
(dramatic drums)
It's all just insanity.
It doesn't make any sense.
I asked "Then you had sex with this other man?"
"No."
Carter tells me "The only thing we did was (bleep)
"and sex toys."
What Carter tells me
is that it's just a sexual release.
That's it.
The sexual thing, who gives a (bleep) who it is?
'Cause I felt comfortable with him 17 years ago
or 18 years ago and that's why.
I don't believe that for one flippin' minute.
I asked Carter if he thought he was gay and he said
"No, I am not gay."
What I don't understand is if Carter is attracted to men,
why not just come out, be gay?
(dramatic music)
Now you believe 100% he's not telling you the truth.
He's absolutely not telling me the truth.
I believe 100% that, yes.
And let me tell you,
my focus here is on the transaction between the two of you.
I don't know whether he's gay or not.
I think the worst thing in the world that you can do
is for somebody to come out,
if they're gay, if they're not ready to
or they're not in the circumstance that they wanna do it,
it's not the time that they wanna do it.
I mean that's totally up to him.
And it would be very disrespectful if he was
to force that and cause him to do it
when he's not ready to do it.
But that's not the issue here.
Let's take the fact that it's a man out of it.
Just that he is being intimately involved,
physically involved with someone else,
it is a betrayal either way.
Right, and lies.