- From this video, I'm gonna show you the three
things that magnetic people do to pull you in energetically.
I'm gonna show you how you can adopt them
in your life and how, by the end of this video
you're gonna have a completely new belief
and energy field about yourself that people
will literally be able to feel.
Now, the first thing to understand about confidence
and attraction is that it is 100% an energy game.
It is a game of not necessarily a game,
like you're playing games with other people,
but it is a matter of understanding your own energy
because people are attracted to people
with certain types of energy and people are repelled
by people with different types of energy.
That's maybe very different from that.
Now, when it comes to magnetic energy
the thing that it's important to understand
is that how you feel about you
is projected out and other people can feel that.
Now what that means is a big part of this process
is understanding how comfortable you feel with yourself,
how much permission you give yourself to be you
and how you can just most boldly express yourself
out in the world.
So knowing and understanding
that this is an energy game or a matter of energy.
The key to this is focusing on how you feel
about you and how you show up in the world.
Now, the first one that I wanna share
with you is people that are extremely magnetic.
What quality they have
about themselves may seem very generic at first,
but I'll explain it more and it'll make more sense as I go.
And that is that people that are and have magnetic energy
give themselves permission ¡to be themselves,
permission to be themselves.
They are most authentically being themselves.
And sometimes that even means being polarizing.
So remember when it comes to having magnetic energy it is,
a magnet can both attract depending on its polarity
and it can also repel.
It is not bad to repel people
that you don't want to be magnetic too.
Imagine that you become a magnet to narcissists.
Would you want to be a magnet to narcissist?
Probably not.
Would you want to be magnets to people that are abusive?
Probably not.
But if you are being yourself
and even if that is polarizing to certain people
you're going to repel people
that wouldn't necessarily vibe with you
and you're gonna attract people
that share the same values as you.
Say, for example, your intention is to attract somebody
that's emotionally available.
Now, of course, the key is people feel what you feel.
So first off you must become emotionally available,
which means opening up your own heart,
which means being very vulnerable and showing the real you.
But what you would do is you would be vulnerable.
You would be in your own heart.
And by being that way, unapologetically,
you're gonna attract people that are also that way.
And you're gonna repel people
that wouldn't necessarily vibe with that energy.
So this is a matter of giving yourself permission
to be the real you.
I've noticed in my life,
that the more I'm able to really express the parts
of me that a lot of times were repressed.
One interesting thing that will happen too
in relationships is sometimes people will attract people,
people that overly express certain energies
may attract people that have a certain level
of repressed energies.
So sometimes it's not a complete one-on-one reflection.
But the interesting thing about this is
that the energy that you feel that may be,
because a lot of times we attract people
that maybe can show us,
'cause there's things that we can learn
from these different dynamics.
Now, when it comes to magnetic energy though
the thing to realize is that the energy
you're embodying other people are peeing
off of that and other people are responding to that.
And that's based on that energy,
that's what you're attracting.
Now for me, what I had to learn to do
is I had to learn how to express more of my true self.
And prior to a certain time,
I was very afraid of expressing
some of my even true desires.
Even when I was dating someone
I would be afraid to show my interest.
It was almost like I had this level
of I had to continue to be
in like this friend zone or something like that
and that felt safe.
It felt safe because it was avoiding rejection.
What I found though is the more
I was just my real self and the more I almost
not only wasn't afraid of rejection,
but I was just kind of under this notion
that I'm gonna express the real me
because it's who I prefer to be,
the more that like everything changed.
So give yourself permission to be the real you.
I had to shed the people pleaser mentality,
the nice guy mentality.
It was hard to set boundaries.
Like I had to shed all of these things because
they weren't the real me.
That's the thing is,
sometimes we tell ourselves a story.
This is the real me when it's not really the real us.
It's just been a safe mechanism
we've used since childhood to get our needs met.
And some of our needs being met might be like not
disappointing people and having people
and having people like feel a certain way.
So one of the things that makes you more magnetic
than anything is just you to be yourself,
for you to give yourself permission to be polarizing.
And knowing that that is the real you
and that you might repel some people,
but that's a good thing.
You don't need the validation approval of everybody
or of anybody, just be yourself.
So give yourself permission to express the real you.
And as you do, that will be magnetic
and it will be more repellent too, to certain people.
And that's okay.
Now the second quality that magnetic people
have that they are naturally being
is and has to do with passion.
Now, what the HeartMath Institute has shown
is that the electromagnetic energy of the heart
is thousands of times more powerful than the head.
So this thing of having magnetic energy
is not about thinking your way through it,
figuring out what is the thing I do to become magnetic
because that's of the mind.
And it's also in a way manipulative
because it's trying to manipulate people
into being magnetized to you,
when instead when you're just being yourself,
it just sounds so cliche, I know.
But realize that the more you try to do anything,
the more resistance is created.
I was reading a book by Allen Watts last night.
He's talking more about the Backwards Law.
That is the more you try to,
the more you you try to not sink,
the more you fall to the bottom of the pool.
When you give up trying to sink
and you just are, you float,
and just see how that happens,
the more you want anything, the less you get it.
Now, when it comes to attracting and being magnetic,
the more magnetic you wanna be,
the less magnetic you'll actually feel
because you're trying to be something.
And it's emphasizing that you're not there already.
So one of the big things
for this whole process is to just relax
and to let go of trying to be magnetic.
And I also understand there may be a deeper thing here
for somebody that may have clicked on this video.
When you're looking at magnetic energy, think about it.
Like ask yourself,
why do I even want to have magnetic energy?
What do I want people to believe about me
or to think about me for me to have magnetic energy?
Because then you start to see that maybe I care a lot
what people think of me.
Maybe I want to be magnetic because I want to feel special
or I wanna like feel a certain way
and realize you can give yourself those emotions right now.
You don't have to wait.
And remember you, whatever you feel is being projected out.
Other people feel that.
And they reflect back what you think about yourself.
If you walk around feeling insecure about a freckle
freaking freckle, it's right here and so.
And you feel self-conscious about it.
And you're thinking is everyone looking at my freckle,
is everyone looking at my freckle?
Is everyone looking at my freckle?
Then you'll create resistance.
And then people might be like
look at that person's freckle.
Oh my gosh.
But really it's just being emanated from the inside out.
Now back to the point of this one,
the second one is passion.
The energy of your heart.
When you're doing what you are passionate about
you are more attractive, period.
End of story.
Video done, just kidding.
But when you are in your passion,
your energy field goes out even further
and you will attract people that are also in their passion.
Think of your passion as your core frequency.
This doesn't have to mean
but by the way, one overarching thing,
it's not like my only passion is making videos.
And when I'm not in my passion,
I'm just, I'm not in that attractive energy.
It's more so just in general,
it leaks off into the rest of your days.
I recently did that shift experience live event.
And from doing that shift experience live event
there was a frequency that came through
for those three days that now is leaked
into every other aspect of my life,
my business, my relationships, everything,
because I've chose to be in that energy.
So this is more of just a general thing
that when you're in your passion,
you are more magnetic and it will bring
to you more things and opportunities
that are equal to that high vibrational energy.
Now it doesn't have to be some overarching career thing.
You can follow your passion
by like going for a walk in a park.
Playing with your dog.
You can follow your passion,
the threat of passion throughout your day.
Read the books you wanna read.
And as you do these things
you will notice that your days begin to change.
Synchronicity begins to change
because you are choosing to be
in that heart field versus just the head field.
Now I've also realized
and I've showed this in a lot of videos.
When I started going and doing my passion full time,
I started the people that I attracted my life were people
that were doing their passion and think of your passion
as your true self.
Following the frequency of the real you.
You will then attract people that are the frequency
of the real them.
All my friends,
people that are in my life like,
they're in that energy field.
And you could do it too.
By following your heart.
The last trait of magnetic people
has to do with how they pull your energy in
and that is they don't try.
They're not trying to pull your energy in.
Somebody that is seeking someone else's validation
or approval is trying to get it and you can feel it.
And if you could feel it,
let me tell you, you will block it.
You will like say no, just how it works.
It's like the more someone wants it.
It's like, a Les Brown, has it?
What was it Les Brown?
Has a quote like this.
It's like a doctor that gives colonoscopies
or whatever where he sticks his finger
up someone's butt,
a very eager person that does that, doctor,
you might wanna be a little bit weary of.
'Cause, a little bit too excited, right?
In the same way,
and just something that's really wants
you validation or approval,
you're not gonna wanna give it.
Now, the thing with magnetic people that changes everything
when you apply it is having present energy.
Being present to the moment,
having fun and doing things
for an end of itself, not a means to an end.
This is the biggest change right here.
When you are doing something
to get someone's validation or approval,
to be have magnetic energy,
to get something from them,
they can feel it.
When you're being a certain way
because it's who you are
and it's present to the moment,
that has a completely different energy field.
This is about embodying the energy
being present inside of your own body.
The frame technique, something I've taught before,
bringing the energy into your feet, into your hands,
feeling the separation between you and the walls,
you and other people in your life
will make you more magnetic.
I've done this.
I've had people go out that that have been
in my challenges 21 day challenges before.
They go out into the world,
they do this exercise and you would not believe
how many people say people are magnetized
to their energy from simply filling the separation
between them and other people,
Not needing anything from anybody else.
And also the other aspect of this is to have fun.
Magnetic people normally have fun.
They're not having fun to get somebody to like them.
They're having fun because it's fun.
Having fun is present energy.
Having fun is an end of itself.
So realize that for this process
this is really about embodiment.
This is about embodying the highest vibrational you,
feeling the separation between you and other things.
Not thinking that someone else's validation
or approval is your, like you have to get it
and as you don't need it, you will naturally get it.
Now, if you haven't heard yet on July 1st the 21st
we're doing a 21 day confidence love challenge.
This is a brand new challenge for feeling 100% confidence.
Removing fear and doubt, feeling safe in our own frame
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There's live coaching sessions, guest speakers.
It's a 21 day process.
You can go at your own pace with it.
And if you wanna check it out
go to www.confidencelove.challenge.com,
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And then also, if you wanna learn more
about the five confidence secrets that make you magnetic AF,
it's one of my most popular videos,
check this video out right here.
This video, I wanna share you five secrets
to letting go that will make you more attractive
and that will completely transform your life.
And when you start applying them,
it changes everything,
because you start realizing who you really are
and you start letting go of what you are not.
So.