people are responding to your energy the way you are projecting yourself out into
the world and when you do this one thing it changes everything about your
vibration and about the way people perceive you welcome back to another
video my name's Erin and I hope people expand their consciousness now this
video is all about understanding the one thing that changes everything when it
comes to attracting love and relationships and the thing is is unless
people do this thing that process alone will fail so it has to do with awareness
and that has to do with knowing who you are at your core and the way you are
showing up in the world now imagine that we're in that you're in
a play and in this play you have been playing a certain character and that
this character you are playing may have been consciously chasing or wanting
someone to come into that character's life believing that maybe if this person
did come into their life that they would then love themselves more and feel more
worthy whole and complete and that this character would do anything it took and
would would think about things and and really put energy into this and to this
attainment of this person that they may be intending to attract into their life
but imagine that the more this person tries the more resistance to create and
the more they end up finding themselves playing a different role
imagine that this person that is a character in this play ends up trying to
be the Cameo in someone else's movie they've used someone else as the star of
the movie and they are then trying to attract that
person into their life well the thing is is when we have that energy dynamic
going on and we are intending to attract love into our life but we are doing it
in a way where we think and we are having treating someone else on a
pedestal the energy that we are putting out is one where then they will respond
to the way we are treating MIM so when it
comes to love and relationships and attracting it the reason it fails so
often is because people play a cameo role in the movie of their own life you
are the star of your own movie and the thing that you must do in order to
attract love and relationship is to rewire yourself and that's exactly what
I'm gonna show you in this video and I think this video will change your life
and you'll start to see yourself in a new way and when you see yourself in a
new way you'll then also project something out new into the world as well
so when it comes to this the important part to understand is how you're showing
up in the world first off of being the star of your own movie now this
character that you've been playing most likely is a character that decided at a
certain point in your life if you look at your whole entire timeline of your
life when you were maybe 7 years old 7 years old why oh 7 years old there may
have been something that happened that you then gave something a meaning and
then that meaning may have told you to play small that meaning may told you it
was afraid for you to express yourself and in that moment you agree to that
meaning and from that point going forward that became a driving force in
your life now here's something that I've recently come to understand and it has
to do and it's it's it works for everybody what I'm about to share with
you it has to do with understanding your rules as to what it takes for you to
feel worthy whole and complete so your rules of love of what it takes for you
to feel loved and I'll show you because most people this is subconscious this is
something they're not actually aware of and there's these conflicting ideologies
inside of people and because of that they can't actually feel worthy whole
and complete but remember people feel what you feel so you become more
attractive when you love yourself more and the thing is is some people they set
up such impossible parameters for them to love themselves
because they set parameters that are first off outside of themselves imagine
setting the parameter that I know that I feel loved when somebody is constantly
giving me things I feel love when there is there's constant recognition and
attention from someone else I will feel loved when this person does exactly what
I want them to do but I control them you see we have many of us will have
different versions of this but we'll have ideas of love and rules about love
that say when we've achieved love in our own life and the way that we normally
learn about love by the way is from our parents it's what we were modeled
growing up now yesterday I was at a I was at this kind of mastermind type
thing with my buddy Victor odo and about 15 20 other people and I was talking to
Victor and he became aware of something in his life and I was talking to him and
it would just became so crystal clear of me showing what you and I'm sharing in
this video right now Victor has been worried for the last year hope he's okay
with me sharing this story Victor has been okay our Victor will be okay with
this me share in this video Victor about a year ago had a like a dream experience
where one of his children his kids had a traumatic accident and passed away it
was a dream not real but the dream began to live in his own mind and it became
this reoccurring thing that would just keep coming up I remember we he would do
some plant medicine ceremony in Costa Rica it would just keep coming out for
him keep coming out for him maybe a meditation to wake up and he'd
have just his memories it's absolute fear that he was gonna lose his daughter
the first thing that he ever brought into this world and it was this
overlaying fear that he just couldn't figure out why am I having this thing
come up over and over again is it is it some premonition dream or what is this
and for a year straight I was listening to him
trying to help him through it and then it became absolutely crystal clear when
I was talking to him yesterday because I was asking about his parents because
Victor if you don't know was in a firecracker accident when he was a kid
it was a very traumatic firecracker action where it exploded on top of him
and it burned him on the sides and it was very painful for him and his parents
felt incredibly guilty about it if I oh I could have done something
different it was very traumatic experience and from that point forward
Victor had this mentality of something horrible can happen what is going to
happen that's wrong and he had this mentality and and worried about himself
and probably a little bit of guilt because he he in a way felt guilty that
his parents may have felt guilty and it was like this little cycle but from that
point going forward that situation he decided and he learned from his parents
who in a in a very needy way was constantly trying to control him in his
environment and him being safe and they were constantly worried about him his
mom used to tell him I worry about you because I love you so Victor then
started to associate love with worry love is worry and this isn't just as his
a kid's life and his relationship his wife this is also in his relationship
with money his relationship with his business his relationship with many
different things he's worried that something is going to go wrong and on
one hand this is his conflicting ideology that was crystal clear to me
when I was talking to him Victor wants to be a great dad Victor is a great dad
you see him with his kids he spends a lot of time with them he cares about
them he does a lot of things with them it's very obvious but what Victor didn't
realize until yesterday was that when he was saying I love you to his kids
subconsciously he was saying I worry you I worry about you because in order for
him to be a great parent in order for him to love his kids he has to worry
about his kids because of his idea of love and because of the way he was
modeled that from his parents and if he wants to love his business he must worry
his business I don't love you I worry you I worry you I worry you I worry you
do you see this is what I'm saying this is what became so it was like a whole
new world for Victor when he figured this out and he's like a different
person now but the reason I share this with you is
because what area of your life is your definition of love for me I was
controlled as a kid completely controlled my brother and I from 7 to 15
years old had a crazy stepmom in her life who controlled every aspect of her
life there are times we barely ate food we were very skinny at our ages we a lot
of times we're locked out of the house and had to work outside we run a lot of
ask friends we had earn going to school we got school activities taken away from
us but couldnt go to band camp if I got in trouble
it has control I thought love is control so even after that my set 15 years old
came around my dad divorced her never have to deal with her again I found
myself in relationships with people that wanted to control me because that to me
was what I thought love was and now in my own life I see it in my shadow aspect
because I control my business I am a fixer if somebody in my family is going
through something I want to fix it whether it's financially whether it's
emotionally I want to fix it control it because I have associated love with
control now the reason I'm sharing this with you because every single person
will have a story display that where you're talking about this play for the
way reality works that we keep on autopilot that keeps running our life
out over and over again and each one of us will have maybe a little bit
different story it doesn't matter though they're all rooted in the same thing
what is our definition of love and how do I know I felt it and if you make it
very hard for you to feel love it's gonna be very hard for you to feel love
and if remember if you're not feeling love you're not going to attract and put
out the energy of someone else that can love you back for you so what are your
rules for love is your rules for love external this
person has to do this this person has to act this way this person has to do what
I asked him to do this person has to acknowledge me certain how many times as
they say I love you in a certain size of buy me gifts those are all external
things what if you made it extraordinarily easy for you to love
yourself what if loving yourself could be as
simple as feeling gratitude for you what if loving yourself could be as
simple as doing something for yourself as recognizing something within yourself
what if you let it be okay you didn't love yourself every day and you got let
go of the rule of how often you have to love yourself because then we get into
this perpetual cycle the reason I share this and the reason this has so much to
do with attracting love is because until you love yourself no one else can truly
love you and if somebody else does come into your life that person may love you
at a surface level because you love yourself at a surface level everything
in your life changes when you become aware of the fabric of reality which is
love and what are your definitions for love and what does love mean to you and
if you want to look at what that is look to your relationship with your parents
that's normally where it is because that's what we model and that's what we
we learn from and sometimes we rebel sometimes we were balanced certain ways
they may treat us a certain way show us love us early say we'll say I've never
treated my kids that way I'll do this in a different way you know I'll never
punish my kids because my brother and I were punished I'll never speak my kids I
don't have kids yet but that's that's my definition but the key to this is
realizing love what it takes for you to feel loved and can you be the source of
love and think about how funny this is here we are and what we'd say is when I
get into a relationship with someone else I will feel they will love me and
then I will give myself permission to feel loved so once this happens I have a
rule many people have a rule based on watching Disney movies based on what
they think society has to be based on believing the source of love is outside
of themselves they're getting too relationship and say oh now that this
person loves me infused me in a certain way because it goes according to my
rules and I learned growing up now I can love myself the funny thing is is you
are generating that love from within you and your own energy field you are just
now giving yourself permission because your rules are now being met you see
you're the source to begin with you were the source all along this relationship
and attracting love thing is a symbol for you coming into realization that you
are the source of love you are worthy home and complete and the most common
limiting belief that people have in the world is that I am not enough it is
because we give these external benchmarks about what it takes for us to
fuel love the wiring inside is messed up but we have to claim that yes maybe we
learned it growing up maybe we learned it from our parents but we agree to it
and our life has agreements that we've made and I mean that in very conscious
ways something I haven't received and we agreed that this is the meaning and now
I have to worry because if I worry than I love and yeah my mom worried about me
that's because she'd love that she loved me and that's why she worried and I want
to love my kids and I want to be a great dad not knowing that there's this
perspective there of that exact thing this conflicting ideology I talked to
two or three people yesterday about the same kind of format that I'm now putting
into an actual step-by-step process because you can unveil your definition
of love with a couple questions and a couple and a framework and I call it the
framework and it will show you and reveal to you your rules about you about
your identity and when you become aware of these things this is when everything
begins to change but you see this you being the meaning generator you are the
star of your own movie this is you right here and even if you get into a
relationship or you get love with someone else they treat you a certain
way you're giving it they're meeting your role but instead of trying to
change the outside which is where people feel pain they're trying to change and
have someone when someone on a pedestal wanting someone to love them back all
these things but guess what instead of trying to change the out
which is just a mere reflection of the inside changed the rule that says that
you can only feel 100% loved whole and complete
when this person's in a relationship with you because remember that's just a
symbol person's a symbol everything's a reflection in reality anyways everything
every single thing is a reflection so if you want someone to love you you must
first love yourself how do you love yourself you become aware of your rules
about what it takes to love you become aware of what your parents may have told
you about love and how they may have expressed it to you and then from there
you make choices about your new rules of love and you make it extraordinarily
easy for you to love yourself not hard not they have to do this this and this
and other people have to do this know you were the source make it easy make
your rules easy for you to feel love any time I take a bath any time I read about
something I'm passionate about anytime I feel put my hands over my heart like
this anytime I think of something I'm grateful for I would love myself making
extraordinarily easy for you to love yourself and it will be easier and when
you do that your whole entire life will change because they outta reality it's
just a reflection that's it outer reality is a reflection of your inner
source you have the ability to feel loved whole and complete and the reason
many times love relationship attraction fails is because people externalize
their own love and they put these impossible parameters as to what it
takes to be lovable people are worried they're not enough people are worried
they're not loved it's all because of meanings of the past and trying to
change the outer reality all you do is change the rules about what it takes for
you to feel loved and you start acting from that new identity you start loving
yourself more you start taking more bass going for walks whatever it takes and
doing something outside of the old identity let me know if you want me to
make a part 2 of this video maybe I'll make a part 2 let's exit it's absolutely
about the how like this video if you want me to do that there's also an
attractive love meditation you'll see below so many people have attracted love
listening to that it helps you to feel worthy whole and complete listen up for
21 days watch what happens just read the comments as you as possible
other than that hope you enjoy this video peace much love