Reasons Why They Have Ghosted You! Stick around to the end, as I reveal possible
reasons why they have decided to ghost you, not contact you back, leave you on read...
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Once Upon a Time... Sam matched with a beautiful woman on a dating app. He couldn't believe his
luck... it was a cold Winter's evening... he was alone watching Netflix, but on the dating app
and she messaged him first! He smiled as they flirted backwards and forwards. "Shall we take
this conversation to the phone?" he asked. She said yes and gave him her number! Sam was on fire, a
beautiful single girl, just this type, local too! He knew he had to ask her out, and strike whilst the
iron was hot! They spoke on the phone, they laughed, joked and really connected. Sam couldn't believe
the conversation they were having... the chemistry, it was like something out of a movie. "What are you
doing next week? Let's meet on Friday for a drink?" he asked. "Sure! I'm excited to meet you!" she said.
Sam hung up the phone, smiling... what unbelievable luck... it was so easy... so simple... he'd been single
for a long time, and just like that he got a date! They texted throughout the week, the chemistry was
on fire, it never got dull, never got boring, it was amazing! The morning of their date Sam texted "See you
tonight 8pm, look forward to seeing you!" She read the message, and for the first time since
they matched and connected she never replied... then she never answered his calls or any other messages...
Sam went down to the bar in the hope that she'd show up, and lo and behold she never did...
Sam got stood up... Sam got let down... got ghosted... he did absolutely nothing wrong...
and he felt completely crushed. Who could blame him? I've been there.... plenty of times
Haven't you as well? Ppossibly you have.... hence why you're watching this video right now!
Why does this happen? Why do people do this? Here are several reasons why they've ghosted you!
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The example I used of Sam in the previous part of this video is very real and a very regular
occurrence between men and women. Sam was so upset, he couldn't work out why it happened or
how it happened. To drown his sorrows... he went to a local pub the night of his date, as he drank
staring blankly ahead... trying to make sense of it all. He kept checking his phone like a
man possessed, despite not hearing from her for an entire day... he assumed that maybe just maybe
he should get in touch.... but she never did ever again. Trying to make sense of it as he sat in
the pub alone on a busy Friday night feeling distraught, he taught himself the following
"She must not be interested, simple as that, because if she was she'd have come to see me or rejected
me or let me down.... anything!" We live in strange times, where people hide behind their phones,
social media... not having to face the consequences of their behavior... in the grand scheme of things!
Did this date commit a crime, betray or really hurt Sam? No, she just didn't text him back or answer
his calls... she stood him up...she ghosted him... they had never met before and ghosting is not illegal!
Look I'm not sitting here excusing her behavior, I've been in Sam's shoes plenty of times when
I was single, but truthfully Sam's conclusion was right... because she was just not interested
Despite how she might have acted before flirting with him etc, maybe she was an attention seeker...
Who knows and frankly who cares! Sam finished his drink, and headed straight home to bed... it
was wet, cold and miserable... he was done wasting time waiting for the wrong person to have the
decency to talk to him. He deleted her number... I'm going to go out on a limb here and share the truth
Sadly they're not interested, even if you think you did nothing wrong.... it's just a fact unfortunately!
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Another possible reason why they've ghosted you is because they're childish and immature. I grew
up in a different generation, with a different mindset... where I faced my problems head on, and be
honest and tell the truth where I can. Even if it hurts us, and other people, but some people don't do
that... some are so childish well into adulthood, that they think and can act and behave in a certain way
Sarah went on dates with a guy who was charming and things were going well... they shared a lot in
common... it was great chemistry... they're a good match on paper or so she thought.
She decided to invite her new man for drinks at a friend's house, she wanted them to mingle and so on...
"We're gonna have some drinks. I'd love for you to be my date, it'll be fun!" she said
She sent him a text asking that, and guess what? He didn't reply... she called him... no answer...she asked if
he was all right or something had happened... the truth was he didn't want to meet her friends.
He did not want to have to socialize with her friends... he wanted to be selfish...
he wanted things on his terms only and sold her dreams, just to feel good about himself...
and when things were getting serious... he decided to ghost, because he had the emotional intelligence
of a child, not a man! He liked her, but was immature in his approach to dating.
Sarah was devastated and felt like she had been LED on by him... so when in two weeks she
still heard nothing back, she deleted his number! Six months later, the man got in touch...
Sarah had moved on by then and was completely utterly disinterested.
Ghosting in this context in fact most contexts when it comes to dating is so immature.
Count your blessings you've seen them for what they really are.... a very childish person!
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When somebody's toxic, they're a combination of being immature, selfish, rude, ignorant, arrogant
and negative... and they're classic flakers. They're the people who love to throw you and anyone they
can under the bus... just to get a rise out of you... just to see how you'll react, respond and be like.
Your response, your pain that is the supply which is almost like a drug to them... that they feed off...
and become addicted to. Years ago when I was single, I remember talking to a woman who I was interested
in dating. We spoke all the time, we found each other very attractive, I assumed the best of her
and us, but I was wrong. The truth was she was toxic, she was a liar, a manipulator, a troublemaker, an
entitled princess... very selfish. When things were going really well between us, that was when she
decided to cause trouble... she decided to ghost me.... when do you ask? When did this woman decide
to blank me, ghost me and be difficult with me? On Valentine's Day. I planned to take her out, I booked a
meal and other stuff and to what avail? She ghosted me, screened my calls, embarrassed and humiliated me.
Amazingly she got in touch a few weeks later and said truthfully "I wanted you to chase me....
and I know my worth! I love creating drama, it shows how good of a man you are to me... if you
bothered to chase me... but you never did!" I blocked her immediately and ghosted her by not responding
I never saw or spoke to her ever again, yes some people unfortunately are toxic and some
people thrive of being toxic, difficult, flaking, ghosting.... speaking from experience here please
ignore these people, and if they ghost you, use it as a reason to never pursue them ever again!
Let me tell you a real world opposite example of when someone is not ghosting you...
they respond to your messages... they reply to your messages... they answer your calls... they call you
back... they apologize if they've delayed in getting back to you late or if they've been working or if
they run out of battery... they get back to you! As I record this, I've been with my current partner
for six happy months and we're closer than ever before. From the moment we met, we never ghosted
each other, never, no games, no lies, no manipulation, no BS... absolutely none of that... it was easy and
simple as it should be. Literally from the moment we first spoke everything was effortless... that's
why we're dating, because we're mature, we're on the same page about those kind of things as well.
So when you do get ghosted, if you get ghosted... just delete the number.... ignore them
do not chase them and move on... because speaking from personal experience here I'm telling you that
there are decent, kind genuine people out there, who don't ghost you... even from the beginning and
they're interested! They want the best for you, even early on, they just want to get to know you,
pursue them instead... it'll be worth it when you do, and in the end you would
have attracted someone better suited for you in the long run!