Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is on 7 first date tips for men. This is what impresses
and attracts her fast. You want the first date to go well, right? That's pretty important if
you want the second and third date. These tips are going to help you understand how to increase
her attraction for you and make sure she enjoys her time with you so that she wants to spend more
time with you. Now the last tip may be one of the most important ones that I'll be sharing with you.
Many men skip this and it's so important that you do not skip this. This is a big deal
so make sure you watch to the end. If this is your first time watching one of my videos,
my name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men. I teach you how to find attract and keep
the girl of your dreams. And as a certified coach, II never teach you any mind games or tricks that
don't work. So make sure you subscribe, ring the notification bell, and give me a big thumbs
up. Let's talk about the first date. It's really exciting, right? You kind of get butterflies in
your stomach and you're nervously excited. What do you want from the first date? You want it to
be fun, right? You want her to look really nice. You want her to be attracted to you.
And you want it to be fun when you talk to her. You want the date to be enjoyable, right? You want
to feel like she understands you, really connect with her, and you want it to be relaxed but still
really increase her attraction for you and your attraction for her. Does that kind of feel like
an ideal first date? That sounds pretty good, right? Well here's the important thing. That's
what she wants too. She wants the date to go well too. She wants to enjoy her time and she wants to
be attracted to you and wants you to be attracted to her. Now the tips I'm going to share with you
are going to help you understand how to make that happen. So with that let's get started with our 7
first date tips for men. Now the first tip is to read her body language. Look for the signals
of how she feels about you. When you understand how to read a woman's body language
it helps you so much. This is something I teach to help you with the approach and things like
that but it goes so much further than just getting her number. You should be using her body language
signs throughout the entire relationship. So when you're on that first date you can kind of tell
if she's enjoying her time with you, if she's attracted to you, and then if she wants another
date and so on. Pay attention to her body language because body language is something none of us can
hide. If you haven't yet seen this video on signs she's flirting with you make sure you watch that
one. It's super super helpful. I will put a link for you in the description below. Okay, our next
tip is to make sure you are confident. You want to be confident before the date,
during the date, after the date.. And the way you do this is you just are a confident person. That
is how you set yourself up for success. Now you may have heard me, if you watched several of my
videos you may have heard me say in the past that confidence comes because of competence. Now let me
explain what I mean by that. I want you to think back for your first day at a new job. There's some
anticipation, right? I mean, you're excited but you don't exactly know how it's gonna go. You want
it to go good but you just don't really know what to plan on and so you just kind of fake it, right?
And you usually fake it for like the first week and then you kind of start to get used to the
routine and it becomes simple. But then after you've been working at that job for a year or two
you're really confident in how this goes, right? You just know what to expect, what to do.
Why is that? Well it's because you have become competent at that. You know what to do. The same
is true with dating and relationships. Society, it didn't used to be this way but it is this way now,
they just kind of push you into the pool so to speak and expect you to swim,
just expect you to figure it out. This means most people have no idea how to approach the right way,
how to pursue the right way, how to dress to really look your best, what to say to her,
how to flirt with her the right way. All of these things, they don't understand how to do
these things simply because nobody taught them. So they don't feel confident in it
because they're just kind of guessing and they feel a little bit awkward. They saw this on TV so
they try that but they never really feel confident in it because they don't really know what they're
doing. Does that make sense? This is why in my program I teach my clients confidence from two
angles. The first is a healthy self-love which is really important. You deserve to love yourself,
right? And then I also teach them what to do in these situations so that they're very competent.
Because the truth is when you understand how to do it the right way it's very simple. Just like work.
Work is simple now. Yes, there's some challenges as you take on new projects or whatever it is but
you're just good at it now so you can adapt. And that is the power in being competent at dating and
relationships. This is why the biggest results my clients see when they go through my program
is increased confidence. Because they have the healthy self-love and they have become competent
at these things. It's become natural and simple. To learn more about my program and how you can
increase your confidence and learn these skills make sure you watch my free masterclass. You're
going to learn about the strategies I teach, why they work, how they work, all of that.
There is a link to watch this free masterclass in the description below. I will also put a link
in the pinned comment. If you want to skyrocket your confidence and your competence this is the
way to do it so make sure you watch that free masterclass through the link in the description
below. So next in our list of first date tips for men we have flirt to increase her attraction for
you. Flirting is one of the most powerful tools if you're trying to increase attraction and make
someone enjoy their time with you. Flirting is one way that you pursue her. It makes her
feel feminine and attractive and drawn to you. Now here's the important part. So many people make big
mistakes when it comes to flirting and it actually pushes her away instead of attracts her. They play
hard to get or they do banter that's really not good at all or they do the push-pull method when
it comes to flirting. What this does is these are all mind games so they push a classy woman away.
You don't want that. So let's talk about what to do instead. Now those who purchase my program get
access to my guide How To Flirt With Women Like A Boss. But for watching this video here today I'm
going to share two of those tips with you right now. That's exciting, right? So the first tip
is focus on helping her smile. When we're on the first date or when we're with someone attractive
we tend to feel a little self-conscious. Totally normal. Happens to everyone. But then we start
to kind of focus on ourselves which makes us feel more nervous. Instead, you want to turn
the attention away from you and instead focus on helping her smile. People like people who
make them feel good. And if you can make her feel good she'll want to spend more time with you. So
focus instead on saying things and doing things that will help her smile. Now my second flirting
tip for you is do not be too touchy and do not be touchy too soon. Want to avoid creeping her out?
Do not be too touchy, guys, especially on a first date. That will creep her out
so bad. I'm not saying that you can't touch her. As a matter of fact, when you know how to do it
appropriately it's definitely a good way to flirt. And that's something else I teach in that guide.
But too many people, they make the mistake of trying to be super sexy on the first date and so
they're too touchy all the time and she's like, "Stop touching me!" thinks you're a weirdo, and
she's done. See why these tips are so important? You do not want to be creepy. Again, if you would
like to learn more about my program there is a link in the description below to watch that
free masterclass and learn more. Okay, next on our list of first date tips for men is make sure you
take her somewhere she feels comfortable. This one thing literally has the power of her saying yes to
a date or saying no to a date. Where you take her, if it makes her feel uncomfortable for any reason,
she's done. And it's really hard for her to be in a situation where she really wants to go out with
you but something about the date just doesn't make her feel comfortable, especially for a first date,
and so then she has to say no. Many if not most women won't feel comfortable explaining
that that's the reason they don't want to go out with you so instead she'll just turn you
down completely. So make sure you are taking her somewhere that she's going to feel comfortable.
And again, if you are someone who has purchased my program you do have access to my guide on 59
Best Date Ideas so make sure you reference that and utilize that. Quick question before we get
to our next tip. Are you enjoying this video on first date tips? Would you like more videos
on first date tips and how to handle that first date? If you would, please comment "first date"
in the comments below to let me know. And I'm super curious. Do you have any questions about
the first date? If you do please leave those in the comments as well. Okay, next up on our first
date tips for men is come prepared with what to say. Have you ever been in that situation where
you're standing there with someone super cute and you have no idea what to say? It's really awkward
and it's painful, right? Instead, you want to come prepared with what to say. Again,
it's kind of like we talked about with confidence. If you already know what to say you're going to
feel confident, you're going to feel comfortable, right? You want to make sure you understand how to
use small talk and conversation skills to work for you, to make her feel more comfortable when she's
with you, and make her enjoy her time with you. And also, it's a first date, you want to make sure
you are really getting to know each other. If you want to impress her and attract her
make sure you understand small talk and how to make it work for you. If you have not yet seen
this video and this video they will help you get started with this. There are links to both of them
in the description below. The best part about understanding small talk and good conversation
is that it's never a script. I never teach my clients to follow a script because then you're
not you anymore, right? You're following a script. And what happens if she says something that's not
on the script? It's just not authentic and doesn't work. Instead, you just want to understand those
basic skills so you can rock it as you. Okay, next on our list of first date tips for men is to dress
to empower. Have you ever heard, "Dress for success," or "Dress to impress?" What I prefer
and what I teach my clients is dress to empower. The way you dress has the ability to make you feel
amazing. And it also has the ability to make her think you look amazing which is definitely
what you want, right? When we were talking at the beginning about what you want from a date,
you want her to look really nice, right? Well she wants the same thing so make sure that you dress
to empower. That's what impresses her, that's what attracts her. So make sure you understand
the basics of dressing to empower, of dressing nice. You'd be surprised how simple the basics of
dressing nice are but they really pack a punch. Okay, next on our list of first date tips for men
is to make sure you follow up after the date. Guys, this is one of the biggest mistakes you can
make. If you enjoyed the date, if you want another date, you need to let her know, you need to follow
up. One of the biggest mistakes men make that really really messes things up is not following
up. Following up with her is one way you pursue her. Which if you watch my other videos you know
really increases her attraction for you. It also shows that you're a good communicator
which is what she is looking for in a spouse, in a partner. So make sure that you do that. If you
do not follow up with her, she's hurt. She's like, "Oh shoot, he didn't enjoy his time with me." She
feels a little bit stupid, she doesn't know what to expect, she thinks it's done. So make sure that
you are following up. This is critical if you want to make sure you get another date. Okay, let's sum
up our seven first date tips for men. The first one is make sure you are reading her signals.
That's going to tell you how the dates going, help you know what to do, what to expect. Next up,
make sure you are confident. This means having confident habits all the time, not just on the
date. And how do you create confidence? You become competent. Again, to learn more about my program
so you know these secrets, you know how to do this, make sure you watch that free masterclass
through the link in the description below. Next on our list of first date tips for men is flirt with
her to increase the attraction. You'd be surprised how powerful flirting is. Not to mention the fact
that it's just really fun, right? Our next tip is to take her somewhere she feels comfortable.
The first date really needs, especially needs to be somewhere she feels comfortable. Paying close
attention to that is how you get a yes instead of a no. Our next tip is to come prepared with
what to say. If you feel awkward, you know with that awkward we have no idea what to say,
she feels awkward too. And she's not going to go want to go on another date that feels awkward. So
make sure you come prepared with what to say. Next on our list of first date tips for men is make
sure you dress to empower. You want to see her looking nice, she wants to see you looking nice.
Make sure you understand the basics of attraction and dress in a way that really shows off how
amazing you are. And lastly, make sure you follow up. Again, this is a huge mistake that so many men
make. Don't make it. Make sure you follow up if you enjoyed the date. Thank you so much
for watching, my amazing friend! If you learned something new and enjoyed what you saw be sure to
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you so much again, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day! [blooper beep] Focus, Melanie. Focus.
You can do this. Hello my wonder- Shoot. My earring hit the mic. You want to be confident...
period. Like it's just a good idea. Okay, that's not what I meant to say. It's been one of those
days. Everybody has them. Myself included. It's fine. I'm gonna get myself a nice glass
of orange juice and I'll feel all better. Orange juice is my happy place. What's your happy place?
I think the jet's gone. Let's go. I want you to think back to your first day
in your- at your job. Your first day at your job? First day for your new job? [laughter]
Now here's the important part. A lot of people make some big mistakes when it comes to flirting.
They play hard to get or they do this banter thing that is not good at all. Okay, I'll reword
that, [laughter] but it's not. Okay, I hope we have some good bloopers in here today. [laughter]
Watch me while I listen to jets. Super fun. Listen to jets with Melannie. [laughter] We
should start a second channel. [laughter] Fun fact about me...
I don't have one. [laughter] Okay, let me think. Um, there's gotta be something.
Fun fact about me. I am obsessed with the Lord Of The Rings movies.
Now you know. We just started a new thing, fun fact with Melannie when the jets are loud. So,
you know, you're welcome. What else am I gonna do? I'm just waiting for the jets. No pressure.
Make sure you understand the basics of fashion and you dress in a way that really... [laughter]
Make sure you understand the basics of fashion and dress in a way that really really... [sigh]
Yep, do that. That was a workout today. That was 33 minutes of filming. [laughter] I am talked out.