As a kid, I spent my summers with my grandparents on their ranch in Texas.
I helped fix windmills, vaccinate cattle, and do other chores.
We also watched soap operas every afternoon, especially Days of Our Lives.
My grandparents belonged to a caravan club, a group of Airstream trailer owners who traveled
together around the US and Canada.
And every few summers, we'd join the caravan.
We'd hitch up the Airstream to my grandfather's car and off we'd go, in line with 300 other
Airstream adventurers.
I loved and worshipped my grandparents.
And I really looked forward to these trips.
On one particular trip -- I was about 10 years old -- I was rolling around in the big bench-seat
in the back of the car.
My grandfather was driving and my grandmother had the passenger's seat.
She smoked throughout these trips.
And I hated the smell.
At that age, I'd take any excuse to make estimates and do minor arithmetic.
I'd calculate our gas mileage, figure out useless statistics on things like grocery
spending.
I'd been hearing an ad campaign about smoking.
I can't remember the details but basically, the ads said: "Every puff of a cigarette takes
some number of minutes off of your life."
I think it might have been 2 minutes per puff.
At any rate, I decided to do the math for my grandmother.
I estimated the number of cigarettes per day, estimated the number of puffs per cigarette
and so on.
When I was satisfied that I had come up with a reasonable number, I poked my head into
the front of the car, tapped my grandmother on the shoulder, and proudly proclaimed: "At
2 minutes per puff, you've taken 9 years off of your life!"
I have a very vivid memory of what happened next.
And it was not what I had expected.
I expected to be applauded for my cleverness and my arithmetic skills.
"Jeff, you're so smart!
You had to have made some tricky estimates, figure out the number of minutes in a year,
and do some division."
That's not what happened.
Instead, my grandmother burst into tears.
I sat in the back seat, and didn't know what to do while my grandmother was crying.
My grandfather, who'd been driving in silence, pulled over onto the shoulder of the highway.
He got out of the car and came around and opened my door, and waited for me to follow.
Was I in trouble?
My grandfather was a highly intelligent, quiet man.
He had never said a harsh word to me, and maybe this was to be the first time.
Or maybe he would ask that I get back in the car and apologize to my grandmother.
I had no experience in this realm with my grandparents, and no way to gauge what the
consequences might be.
We stopped beside the trailer.
My grandfather looked at me, and after a bit of silence, he gently and calmly said: "Jeff,
one day, you'll understand that it's harder to be kind than clever."
What I want to talk to you about today is the difference between gifts and choices.
Cleverness is a gift.
Kindness is a choice.
Gifts are easy -- they're given, after all.
Choices can be hard.
You can seduce yourself with your gifts if you're not careful.
And if you do, it will probably be to the detriment of your choices.
This is a group with many gifts.
I am sure one of your gifts is the gift of a smart and capable brain.
I am confident that's the case, because admission is competitive, and if there weren't some
signs that you're clever, the Dean of admissions wouldn't have let you in.
Your smarts will come in handy because you will travel in a land of marvels.
We humans, plodding as we are, will astonish ourselves, we'll invent ways to generate clean
energy and a lot of it.
Atom by atom, we'll assemble small machines that can enter cell walls and make repairs.
This month comes the extraordinary but inevitable news that we've synthesized life.
In the coming years we'll not only synthesize it, but engineer it to specifications.
I believe you'll even see us understand the human brain.
Jules Verne, Mark Twain, Galileo, Newton, all the curious from the ages would have wanted
to be alive most of all right now.
As a civilization, we will have so many gifts.
Just as you, as individuals, have so many individual gifts as you sit before me.
How will you use these gifts?
And will you take pride in your gifts or pride in your choices?
I got the idea to start Amazon 16 years ago.
I came across the fact that Web usage was growing at 2,300% per year.
I had never seen or heard of anything that grew that fast.
The idea of building an online bookstore with millions of titles, something that simply
couldn't exist in the physical world, was very exciting to me.
I'd just turned 30 years old and I had been married for a year.
I told my wife Mackenzie that I wanted to quit my job and go do this crazy thing that
probably wouldn't work, since most start-ups don't, and I wasn't sure what would happen
after that.
Mackenzie, also a Princeton grad and sitting here in the second row, told me I should go
for it.
As a young boy, I had been a garage inventor.
I had invented an automatic gate-closer out of cement-filled tires, a solar cooker that
didn't work very well out of an umbrella and aluminum foil, baking-pan alarms to entrap
my siblings.
I'd always wanted to be an inventor and she wanted me to follow my passion.
I was working at a financial firm in New York City with a bunch of very smart people and
I had a brilliant boss I much admired.
I went to my boss and told him I was going to start a company selling books on the Internet.
He took me on a long walk in Central Park, listened carefully to me, and finally said:
"That sounds like a really good idea.
But it would be an even better idea for someone who didn't already have a good job."
That logic made some sense to me and he convinced me to think about it for 48 hours before making
a final decision.
Seen in that light, it really was a difficult choice.
But ultimately, I decided I had to give it a shot.
I didn't think I'd regret trying and failing.
And I suspected I would always be haunted by a decision to not try at all.
After much consideration, I took the less safe path to follow my passion.
And I'm proud of that choice.
Tomorrow, in a very real sense, your life, the life you author from scratch, on your
own, begins.
How will you use your gifts?
What choices will you make?
Will inertia be your guide or will you follow your passions?
Will you follow dogma or will you be original?
Will you choose a life of ease or a life of service and adventure?
Will you wilt under criticism or will you follow your convictions?
Will you bluff it out when you're wrong or will you apologize?
Will you guard your heart against rejection or will you act when you fall in love?
Will you play it safe or will you be a little swashbuckling?
When it's tough, will you give up or will you be relentless?
Will you be a cynic or will you be a builder?
Will you be clever at the expense of others or will you be kind?
I will hazard a prediction.
When you are 80 years old and, in a quiet moment of reflection, narrating for only yourself
the most personal version of your life's story, the telling that will be most compact and
meaningful will be the series of choices you have made.
In the end, we are our choices.
Build yourself a great story.
Thank you and good luck.
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