Oh happiness what exactly is it and why do we have it backward by the end of
this video you will know three ways of increasing your happiness on a day to
day basis as I parse through New Oxford research for you this is a cursory look
see with me professional poll and human who will have you remember that cursory
means a similar word to perfunctory the sultry casual and superficial this is
not going to be a thorough analysis of Oxford's research but rather a view into
it so you don't have to read the whole paper if we want to be happier than
meatball where I see there's three avenues to take we can change how we
think or we spend our time or the external factors of our life too often
are we've too focused on the third thing changing the way we look changing the
way we dress and the people that we interact with and superficially trying
to achieve and attain more in fact there are three ways that you will be able to
see in this video of how to become more suited to happiness now get out of my
snout and bring on the human. ... BOOF
hi
welcome to a cursory look see research from Michael Plant and Oxford says that
we have a lot of happiness ideas turn all the way around so I'm here to give
you a cursory look see to make sure that you get the right details without having
to look through the entire academic paper Plant posits that their plan
posits that there is a donor drug guru that humans have to run across in order
to keep a happy balance between happiness and unhappiness
This hedonic treadmill or adaptation that we constantly have to jump back on
is what keeps us going after a bad breakup or what makes us feel like
everything is fine even after winning the lottery or getting a great promotion
at some point human satisfaction and Happiness kind of plummets because we
have a way of normalizing what happens to us isn't that right
are you happy you're crying I can't tell a great real-world representation of the
Hedonic Adaptation is the Easterlin paradox: it's an idea that in the last 60
years human satisfaction has basically stagnated even though we have a lot more
technology a lot more comfort and a lot more consistency in life we still
somehow haven't found any more satisfaction in a day to day ongoings
caveman used to wonder where their next bone they would gnaw on would come from
without a single thought of their AC or their Wi-Fi router not working and yet
we seem not much happier than them this this is the second idea that we get
wrong about happiness we this least the second idea that we get wrong about
happiness we don't have a good understanding of exactly how one event
is gonna make us happy or unhappy this is called affective forecasting an
affect is what psychologists call the emotions that we
when a certain event happens to us when surveyors were asked about whether or
not they'd be happier living in California or some East Coast state like
New Hampshire New Hampshire Maine Maryland even Californians say that they
will be happier living in California why because of the Focalism why because
of Focalism or the focus illusion if you're taking notes at home know that
this is the halfway point if you have any questions for me professor meatball
I'll be having office hours for one whole week after this video goes up so
leave any questions below focusing illusion is when we think about a given
events effect on us we only think about what we would most focus on such as
California's nice weather or the fact that everyone there is groovy and eats
boba and Pope and drinks poke and everything like that the main point is
that we don't think about every single given effect that would eventually
change our effect this is that right isn't that right it's really expensive
to live here really expensive to live here so damn expensive to live here the
expenses in day-to-day troubles of living in the cap in California such as
the fires that go on day-to-day small details that are cons of living in
California are not exactly focused on that's why we have a bad prediction of
how this is going to affect our effect but the way that we forecast our
emotions is not only bad it ultimately ends up being wrong take for example a
bad breakup after a breakup you would ultimately have to think hey I never
really liked that person anyway or maybe I wasn't actually happy living on a
day-to-day we'll find other reasons to be happy and normalize look back on to
the treadmill itself this is called immune neglect eventually you would be
able to forget why you thought the event was gonna make you so unhappy in the
first place then you overestimate how much that effect was gonna make you
unhappy therefore now that time you spent trying
to avoid that unhappy event ultimately actually did not reflect how unhappy you
they eventually be because of the effect did that make sense oh this is the third
idea of Y effective or casting it's not good because our memories are not good
memories bad it's what I wrote in turn this notebook a big way of how one
researcher found out that our memories are not super good is by the surgeon
Daniel Kahneman he realized that some people preferred longer more painful
surgeries that ended up less painful towards the end then a surgery that was
short and less painful overall this is because humans really have a good
understanding of what happens at the very end and they don't really remember
everything else this is called the peek and effect the peek and effect goes
hand-in-hand with another effects called the duration neglect ultimately that
party last night that you thought was SuperDuper cool ultimately might be
because you're just remembering the end of it or you're not really remembering
the entire duration and you forget the small details of like how someone might
have cried on you laughing or might have puked on your shoes I hope you took
diligent notes or just press the pause button because these captions are gonna
go away in three they're gone so the biggest way to be happy in the year 2020
is to practice three main things that I'll put up here
CBT MBSR and positive psychology. Meatball: ah let someone with a DOGtorate explained
mindfulness is starting to become popular but the other two are basically
unknown. CBT hopes people to understand their thoughts and stop negative
thinking patterns. MBSR helps people accept rather than fight negative
emotions and so reduce the suffering they caused and positive psychology
trains people to find more positive emotions such as by encouraging people
to be grateful I'll leave links in the description below so that you can get
started today remember with a few minutes each day you can rewire the way
your brain works because our memories so blah I suggest you start tracking
your happiness either with an app or with pen and paper
this will let you know what you enjoy and what you should reallocate more of
your time to not to just stress a fine point but there are many benefits of
being happy in case you're not convinced humans are more likely to get human
married to get promoted to earn more to have more friends to be healthier to
live longer etc these are all good reasons for you to pursue your own
happiness today thanks to me professor meatball once again this is
only been a cursory look Siri so if you need more information of if you need all
the details might not be here but Michael plant has all his details on his
Oxford page so I'll leave that link below please check it out to learn more
about your own happiness and joy and again next time for more let's see what
the humans up to and one more thing remember when you have a given
understanding of how happy or sad an event might make you just know that you
might be really overestimating some pretty small things and under estimating
the bigger ones
well join us next time for another cursory aah I truly enjoyed a few as my
students if you'd like to that we will be having more data science
bootstrap bootcamp later on this week as well as another entertaining and
educational thought piece or sketch stay tuned!