hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about how to love yourself
seven habits for self-love now let's begin number one respect your boundaries
do you know your limits when you're tired overworked and unmotivated do you have the
self-discipline to say no to step away from your work boundaries are difficult to preserve with
friends with work and with your bad habits you try to set boundaries but it's easy to let yourself
slip imagine you've been working on a big project you've poured hours and hours into your work but
no matter what you do the final product just never feels good enough you keep tweaking and analyzing
and overthinking your work you doubt and criticize yourself but at some point you just have to stop
at some point you have to step back and say you know what i've done enough i did the best i could
do but i can't work anymore this is a boundary that you set for yourself it's your responsibility
to recognize when you're pushing yourself too hard and thinking too much
when you reach your limit it's also your responsibility to give yourself a break
that's what it means to love and care for yourself you respect your productivity but you also respect
your boundaries you are your own person with your own work ethic and your own limits you may not
be able to do as much as someone else they may have larger loftier limits than you do but that
doesn't make your boundaries any less important by observing your boundaries you learn to respect and
understand what you're capable of and that creates a sense of pride in what you've accomplished
set boundaries in every aspect of your life give yourself minimums and maximums and listen to
what your mind and your body are telling you and when you feel like enough's enough then forgive
yourself and step away number two trust your instincts your inner self is a powerful force
that you ignore far too often some people call the inner self the gut or the voice in your
head whatever you call it your inner self is a combination of your instincts your experiences
and your core values it's a raw representation of who you are and what you want so most of the
time your inner self knows exactly what you need to do but there's a catch your inner
self doesn't work unless you put faith in your instincts many people struggle with indecision
they procrastinate their choices because they just don't trust themselves to know what's right
you may rely on others to make decisions for you all because you don't trust yourself
this deep distrust may stem from a deficit of self-confidence and trust which psychologists
call self-efficacy if you lack self-efficacy you don't believe in your ability to decide
perform or succeed you can do all those things and you can do them well but only if you have
faith in yourself like everything on this list self-efficacy doesn't happen overnight it takes
a long time to trust yourself just like it takes time to trust another person so get in the habit
of using your instincts wear the clothes that jump out at you make small snap decisions empower your
inner self and believe in your ability to lead your life number three self-care routines do you
have a self-care routine when you hear the phrase self-care you might think of cleaning grooming and
morning rituals but a self-care routine is any combination of habits that help you feel calm
comfortable and happy in other words it's a ritual that reminds you to enjoy the life you're living
these important rituals look different for each and every person for creative types you might
feel happiest when you're inspired and free to create you may populate your self-care routine
with artistic outlets and introspective silence for people struggling with stress you might rely
on your self-care routine to unravel the tension in your everyday life you may fall
back on meditative or relaxing activities to keep your mind at ease there's a self-care routine for
everyone each routine is unique to your lifestyle your preferences and your goals it may take a bit
of trial and error but over time you'll find a self-care routine that's personal to you
number four find your intention what is your intention an intention is different from a
goal or a dream your intention gives your actions words and decisions a greater purpose or meaning
it's a guiding light that you'll use throughout your entire life because people who live with
intention with purpose and meaning are proud of the life they lead but what does a purpose or
intention look like your purpose may be to make the world a better place you might find meaning
by helping other people or creating something from nothing whatever your intention is use that
intention to understand the direction your life is headed are you choosing to fulfill your intention
did you make the world a better place today did you help someone in need or create something new
as long as you fulfill your intention you know that every day is valuable and well lived
so take a few minutes to set your intention what drives you where do you find meaning it's
okay if you don't know for most people their intentions are vague at first
it takes time practice and careful reflection to discover what gives your life meaning so don't
worry if your intention isn't set in stone your purpose may change dozens of times in your life
but as long as you're following your intention you can love the person and the life you've created
number five need-based decisions can you control your impulses most people are governed by rash
emotional thinking they make their decisions on the spot and they look back on those decisions
with frustration and regret but what does your decision-making have to do with self-love often
times we struggle to love ourselves because our identities are clouded by wants wishes
and uncontrollable impulses you may feel like you don't know who you are because your decisions
aren't really yours to practice self-love prioritize your needs over your wants you may
want to buy a bigger tv you may crave an expensive vacation but do you need either of those things
by framing your decisions in terms of need you empower yourself to make good choices choices
that you can be proud of in the future not only is this good for your bank account it's an important
source of personal growth when you make need-based decisions your sense of self becomes stronger you
get a better understanding of who you are by carefully analyzing what you need in your life
as your sense of self grows your confidence and self-esteem will follow
you'll learn to stay true to yourself in difficult moments when others might crumble and give in
it all starts with a few good choices suppress your wants vices and negative patterns then look
deeper at the things that you need because you may discover a strength you never knew you had
number six shrink your world your world is larger than ever before social media exposes your life to
millions of friends fans and critics your devices overwhelm you with alerts stories and updates
unrelated to you or your environment wherever you go you're bogged down by the weight of the world
a burden too heavy for any one person to carry that burden creates stress insecurity and fear
you may compare yourself to people living entirely different lives you may try to impress people that
you'll never ever meet your life may be engulfed by this demanding social network you may spend
so much time worrying about the outside world you may neglect the life you're living when you start
neglecting yourself you forget how to love and appreciate the person that you've become
so before you can love yourself you have to pay attention to yourself you have to
prioritize yourself and listen to yourself to do that you have to shrink your world you have
to make room for yourself in your own life right now the outside world is attacking you from every
angle so there isn't much space for yourself to practice self-love take a break from social media
spend less time worrying about solving the world's problems and worry about solving your own don't
change yourself in fear of what people might say change yourself because you want to grow
learn and improve in other words remove the weight of the entire world from your shoulders
take a break from the lives of others and focus on the life you're living right now
number seven risky opportunities the grass will always be greener if you spend your life waiting
for the perfect opportunity you'll find yourself just standing still because every opportunity has
challenges every chance requires risk and every dream demands a leap of faith
so if you want to love yourself you must believe in your ability to overcome obstacles
you must capitalize on opportunities not because you're certain you'll find success but because you
think you can rise to the occasion in your life one person will hold you back more than any other
and that person is you most of the time you're the reason you run away you're the reason you make
excuses and you grow angry with yourself because you know you could be doing better before you can
love yourself you have to become yourself don't be afraid to become the person you want to be
empower yourself to do better practice taking risks seize the next opportunity
that comes your way even if it isn't perfect because many opportunities only come once
if you don't take advantage of them now you may never have another chance hey thank you
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