Hey there, Adam LoDolce from SexyConfidence.com where I help the 21st century woman create
a love life that she absolutely loves.
And in this video right now I'm gonna be talking about the 3 core signs that he loves you but
he's absolutely terrified of commitment.
Keep watching.
Have you ever been with a guy and you can tell he's really into you but he's also hesitating
to really fully dive in?
You can tell there's that spark, there's that energy that just seems to erupt between the
both of you and you're ready and you want to just jump right in, but he's just not quite
there yet.
For starters I need you to realize that this is perfectly natural.
This is a common problem for many women out there.
And I think a lot of women beat themselves up over this.
A lot of women think that love is just binary.
If he loves me then he must want to be with me forever, of course.
But I personally don't really like statements like that.
I think it's a little too black and white.
Sometimes love and relationships tend to fall in that gray area at times.
Sometimes a man might feel a lot for you, might be in love with you, or might be showing
the signs that he loves you, but he's not quite ready to just take that plunge yet.
He's got other things that are kind of stopping him from doing that.
So here are 3 of them that I'm gonna be able to share with you right now.
The first sign is that when he's with you it's absolutely fireworks.
Right?
You guys are just connecting, it's incredible, it's an amazing energy.
But when he's not with you, it's crickets.
This is common for a lot of guys who just don't want to jump into a relationship.
Just because they don't want to on a logical side doesn't mean that their emotional side
doesn't feel like they want to be in that relationship.
And I've certainly been at times in my life where I felt an amazing amount of certainly
wanting to be with the person.
You might want to call it love, you might disagree with it being love.
But an enormous amount of emotion for a woman, but I just wasn't at that period.
So when I was with her it'd be amazing, we'd have an amazing connection, but when we were
away I would kinda keep a faraway contact.
I know a lot of men will do that as well, especially when they feel that they're getting
a little too close and they know that that's not really what they want in their lives at
that point.
The second sign is that he tells you that he loves you but he's also a younger guy and
is putting his energy as well into other things.
A guy who's ready for a long term commitment and really wants to be with someone for the
long haul, not just like the next couple months, not even the next year or so, but much longer
than that, is gonna want to spend a lot of time with you.
He's gonna want to put a lot of his energy into the relationship.
I mean, he's certainly gonna want to spend more than 50% of his leisure time with you.
A lot of times when a guy's young, he's just not at that point where he's able to put in
that energy, he's not able to put in that time.
And I would say it's not until most guys hit that, you know, 20, depending on where you
live and where you're from, but that 24 to 26 year old point when they say, "Look, now
I'm looking for something a little bit longer term."
I think that's when guys start to kind of flip that switch and are willing to kind of
invest their emotions, their time into that particular person.
And number three is that he immerses himself into your life today, but he's not willing
to make any future plans tomorrow.
He might be willing to meet your parents, he might be willing to meet your friends.
Shit, he might even allow you to keep a drawer in his apartment with all of your stuff.
But at the same time, he's not... he might not be willing to book that trip to Italy
in the next 6 months.
He might not be willing to relocate for work to be closer to you if it's a long distance
relationship.
He might not be willing to make those really future sacrifices to be with you, and that
is certainly a sign that he might love you but he's terrified of commitment.
He's not really ready for that plunge yet.
And men who are commitment focused are going to be more comfortable talking about the future
than non-commitment focused guys.
You know, of course, again, this isn't black or white.
Right?
Some guys change, there are transition periods that guys go through.
But if you're with a guy who's absolutely freaking terrified and showing these things,
sometimes it's important for you to be disciplined and say, look, being with someone who's committed
to me and also in love with me is the most important thing that I want in my life right
now.
And I'm not willing to just take love.
I need love and commitment.
And if he's not willing to give you both, then it's time to really look yourself in
the mirror and look at the type of relationship you have, be willing to walk away, and find
that thing that will actually make you happy.
At the end of the day, the best thing that you can do is be real with not only him but
also yourself about what's important to you.
So be disciplined.
So let me ask you, have you ever been with a guy who you were in love with or who might
have been in love with you but was also absolutely terrified of commitment?
Did he show any of these signs?
Leave a comment right there below, I'd love to hear the story and I'd love to hear from
you.
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and be able to really guide them to that level of commitment that you've been looking for,
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