The 1000-year old Chinese love story, Madame White Snake comes to Boston as a world premier
opera plus dating advice from a man who calls himself the Asian Playboy.
Join us today, Valentine’s Day at noon.
JT Tran is known as, wait for it now,
the Asian Playboy.
He says he is not so average looks combined with his above average drive
and swagger has helped create a business empire he calls the ABCs of Attraction.
Since its launch in 2005
ABCs of Attraction earned a reputation for being the #1 dating program
for Asian men and men of all ethnicities
by teaching them how to step up their game.
Asian Playboy’s work has been featured on VH1’s The Pickup Artist
and he’s here today on City Line just in time for Valentine’s day.
Welcome, JT Tran.
Karen, thank you for having me.
Now, first of all, I’ve got to ask the obvious question
how does one become the Asian Playboy?
The Asian Playboy is a concept that was created to kind of defeat and shatter the stereotype
of the asexual or nerdy Asian men.
And so when I came about
basically just trying to present a positive
more sexual, more masculine role model for other Asian men to follow.
Why did you decide to take this on as a cause for you?
That’s an interesting story
in the fact that I never intended to do this
until one day a mother called me up.
She’s Chinese Canadian. She called me up
and asked me to help socialize her son
who in high school
throughout high school had been harassed by neo-Nazis.
So she said she’d fly me up to Toronto and pay me and so
I told her for 3 days and 3 nights I will be the big brother he never had.
What kinds of socialization did you teach this young man that turned into the ABCs of Attraction?
Well we taught him like how to combine
like your ability to speak to a women
to speak to anyone
as well as your outer confidence
the way your body language can exude confidence to a woman.
Combining that and then having practice sessions like a dry run session
during the day and then actually going out into what we call “the field”
to bars and clubs and basically a trial by fire
actually talking to beautiful strangers.
If you met me in a club, tell me what you would say.
I would go like “hello, my name is JT and I had to come over and tell you
that you are absolutely adorable.”
Charming.
And what kinds of results do you get from the women when you...
practice these ABCs of Attraction?
For the most part, there’s definitely a lot of positive reaction because
every woman wants to be approached by someone that’s confident and has a smile
and makes them feel good.
When that is achieved by whether it’s me or my students
usually we end the night with these women
just having experienced a really pleasant night with us.
Do all the women react positively?
Have there been some embarrassing moments?
Yes, of course there have been.
There is no such thing as a totally foolproof approach.
There had been women that have rejected me.
There have been times where...
like when I was learning, before I ever started this business
where the rejection was so harsh, I went and I cried.
It was this girl and she was totally racist to my face.
She told me that “I don’t talk to Asian guys. Go away.”
Just flat our prejudice and that was just...
that was incredibly hurtful because it was more than just being...
rejecting me as this man.
It was just because of my race.
That’s a very interesting point because you talk about ABCs of Attraction for Asian
men and other ethnicities. Is there a difference in the way that men of different ethnic background
need to socialize and meet women?
Well with Asians it’s different from Caucasians, the fact that we have to
basically learn the social skills to integrate ourselves into
American society.
And there are cultural differences already
that Asian men have that American women don’t?
I guess in our culture there are things like
making eye contact is considered sometimes very rude or just touching or shaking hands,
things like that where in some Asian families that's taught that it’s not
something you do but here in America if you don’t make solid eye contact with someone
that’s considered a sign of not being confident
and things like that.
We have to teach that.
It’s okay to...
to smile, to shake hands, to touch.
We have some pictures I think of one of your
classes that we’re going to show folks
Very popular. Everybody signs up for these classes.
The video we’re looking at right now and I see you up on the podium
the classroom looks like it’s full.
Yes. Yes.
We do generally sell many of our programs
and we teach around the world as well as many cities in the United States.
What’s one of your proudest accomplishments, if you will, in terms of helping someone enter
the dating world?
One of my proudest, I have many proud moments
but one of my most proudest is...
I won’t say his name. I don’t want to embarrass him
he’s a 22 year old Asian immigrant, what we call FOB, fresh off the boat
and absolute virgin.
He was intelligent, he was successful but just a zero when it comes to dating.
And after taking my program he actually met a beautiful black woman
they started to date
they became engaged and they consummated their relationship.
Wow that’s great.
So I’ve had clients that have
gone through to wedding.
So you have a pretty good percentage rate,
not only for people to hook up but for them to continue in terms of their relationship.
Yes. I mean every man comes into the program with different goals
and they do change.
The younger ones, they want to play the field and that’s fine.
Others they want a girlfriend
they want option, they want choice.
This is just giving them the kind of training necessary
to be more successful.
Alright let’s hear…this is Valentine’s day now
let’s get a couple of your top tips for ABCs of Attraction for people that
are looking for love this Valentine’s day.
Okay. The tips to my Asian brothers and everyone else is
always make good solid eye contact
always smile
and just make your woman feel good.
One of the challenges we have for Valentines is get those little...
kitty Valentines cards.
Write your name, write your number and go up to a woman
when you’re at the street or the grocery and just say
“hey, you are so pretty. I had to give you this.”
And there’s your number. You do this once a day
you’re going to get a date for Valentines.
It’s called the Valentine’s Day challenge.
I remember those little Valentine’s Day card.
We used to pass them around in elementary school.
Yeah
Everybody loves those.
From the book The Game, whatever was funny when were still 7 is still fun today.
That’s very sweet.
JT Tran, thank you very much for joining us today.
The Asian Playboy
check him out.